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2022-11-04T16:36:32 | UPDATE from OOP: I live below a cult leader and I fear I've angered her | INCONCLUSIVE | [removed] | swantoes | /r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/ym3nuk/update_from_oop_i_live_below_a_cult_leader_and_i/ | ym3nuk | 9 | 1 | [
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2022-11-04T16:43:52 | OOP's brother wants her to apologise to a creep who followed her. | CONCLUDED | I'm not the OOP. This was posted by u/yikesonhikes in r/relationship_advice and r/relationships.
TW - stalking(detailed), domestic violence (mentioned).
[Original](https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/y9bbek/brother_38m_wants_me_33f_to_go_out_of_my_comfort/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) (21 Oct 22)
**Brother (38M) wants me (33F) to go out of my comfort zone on behalf of his bestie.**
I'm 33F and a while back I started walking again. I used to be pretty active, but I didn't adjust well to the stress of the last few years. My mental health got progressively worse and the idea of going out during the day was hard for for me, so I stopped doing a lot of things and basically became a hermit.
Walking or hiking meant sharing space with more people and noise, fully existing and facing myself, my now ill fitting clothes, others. I finally picked myself up somewhat and started doing it at daybreak. Not so early it's too dark and dangerous, but a little before morning routines are in full swing.
There is this one state park nearby that is small and secluded enough to offer privacy, has enough natural terrain for "lite-hike" experience, but also gets plenty foot traffic and security to be safe in the wee hours. It's mostly retirees or committed athletes that early, which is fantastic, cause they stick mostly to the track - as opposed to the odd trails and meandering slopes I favour. Besides, the former are super welcoming and the latter too focused on their own routines to care.
Couple months back I get there slightly earlier than usual and, after waving hi to the rangers at the parking lot, I'm off. I was vaguely aware of someone behind me, but didn't give it much thought at first. Until I realised they were matching paces with me and taking all the weird turns I usually do because I prefer to walk randomly rather than actually exercising.
It's dark and foggy and hearing footsteps behind me has me on edge, so I lean down to "tie" my shoes and wait for whomever it is to pass. They stop several paces away and wait for me to get going. The second I do, they do too. All I can see without fully turning is a bulky shape in a hoodie.
I pick up the pace to get back on the main track and they match it. I'm low-key freaking out, but still. Maybe they were following the only other person because they didn't know all the paths and were too awkward to ask or just wander? Then, at this one point, beneath a bridge of sorts, where you have to cross a copse of trees before breaking into the gravel path, and it's a somewhat lengthy blind spot with no side exits, they start running. My heart was in my mouth and I just shot off.
I stumbled into the track right in front an elderly couple I was familiar with and whoever it wast behind me skidded into an abrupt halt as the couple waved at me. They just as harshly looped back to the footpath. I will be the first to admit I was maybe too high strung at the time, but that they immediately backtracked once we were around people told me this wasn't just my anxiety.
I was pretty shaky, but decided to keep going, sticking to the main path, finish a full loop of the park and go home. Thing is, the second the elderly couple waved bye and veered off into the secondary parking and I was alone again, this dude comes out of the nearby foliage. It's clearly a guy, much closer, and he's walking quickly and shooting glances to every direction while veering straight towards me.
I pretend to be about to take a turn into another footpath and watch as he makes for the same one, paces behind. So I stick to the well lit main track, try not to sprint, make a show of "making a phone call" (even tho there's spotty service there and I had no bars) and head for this cleaning crew station I know is right around the bend.
I ran straight in and very shakily tried to explain everything and ask if I can stay there a bit. I've befriended half the park staff at this point and they immediately called security. I'm pretty much shaking and holding back tears at this point and we all watch as the dude almost comes in after me, realizes where he is, books it out and gets stopped by a ranger a few meters off.
An argument ensued and he was, from my understanding, "strongly encouraged to leave and they would like to watch him do it". I recounted this to my family that same morning. A couple days later my brother (38m) approached me to say the dude I got banned (? not even sure he did?) from the park is the BIL of one of his bffs who told a sob story about trying to make sure a girl was safe out and was accused of being a predator for his troubles.
My brother's friend has been pressuring him to get me in touch with the dude to apologise, because now he can't go to his favourite spot and it was all a "misunderstanding". I said no, I won't, he wouldn't have been kicked out if he wasn't belligerent to security and I still do not believe for one second he isn't a huge creep.
They gave up after a while. That is, until a couple weeks ago. Now my brother's friend is going through an incredibly hard time (bereaved, disease, financial woes) and my bro's started pressuring me again because he feels it would be a kindness to his actual friend and I can just go back to ignoring the creep after. I bloody refuse.
They keep telling me the guy didn't do anything except have bad timing and maybe I am being too sensitive and who knows if my perception aligns with how things went down and regardless it would be for brother's friend, not the dude...
I am about this close to sever ties with my brother I love. I understand he's also been going through a weird time emotionally and it's got worse with his bff's current circumstances, but I don't know what I can say beyond "back the fuck off". How can I explain to my brother how inappropriate he's being? I want my brother to leave me alone, impress how much he's crossed a line and also offer an alternative to support him.
TL;DR Brother (38M) thinks I'm (33F) exaggerating being followed and wants me to apologise to dude who did it because it's his best friend's BIL.
[Shortened version of the post but on r/relationships](https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/y9b6u9/brother_38m_insists_i_33f_apologise_to_appease/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) (21 Oct 22)
**Brother (38M) insists I (33F) apologise to appease his bestie**
I'll make it short and sweet: a few months back I (33F) was very clearly followed during a walk in a way that made me feel unsafe. The "stalker" turned out to be brother's (38M) best friend's BIl.
My brother's bestie is going through a genuinely rough time right now. His BIL is pressuring him and, as a result, my brother wants me to get in touch with the dude and apologise to "keep the peace".
I refuse and it's putting a strain on our relationship and brother's been getting pushier. I don't know how to properly impress on my brother I trust my impression of events and I would feel unsafe getting in touch with the guy.
He has a million excuses why I should or could and I'm considering going LC. Is there anything I can say that will make him see how inappropriate this ask is? Is there another way I can support him in lieu of doing this?
TL;DR Brother wants to appease his bestie by throwing me under the bus and making me apologise for being followed.
[Update](https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/yfongc/update_brother_38m_insist_i_33f_apologise_to/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) (28 Oct 22)
**UPDATE Brother (38m) insist I (33f) apologise to appease his bestie**
Hey there, everyone. I wanted to post this since I got a lot more support in my [original](https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/y9b6u9/brother_38m_insists_i_33f_apologise_to_appease/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) than I initially imagined I would. For those who did not see it: basically I was lowkey stalked by a random dude in a park and it was really stressful. As it turned out, he was my brother's best friend's BIL (I know that's a mouthful). Brother's bestie was going through something, so they decided to pressure me to apologise to the creep.
To make the update easier to follow, I'm giving everyone fake names:
My brother: Frodo
Brother's bestie: Sam
Bestie's wife: Bunny
BIL: Joe
When I posted, I was thinking more in the line of getting scripts to help handle the convo with Frodo about how he was crossing boundaries and making him understand how much he hurt me in doing so. I genuinely felt unsafe in the original situation and he was basically sweeping it under the rug to avoid extra drama for himself/Sam. Thing is, I had no hand in that drama, as many of you pointed out. No scripts were given, just a lot of very valid "why are you underreacting to this".
So, Joe got a hold of my social media and started messaging me. It was many flavours of fucked up. This didn't last a full day before I went to the police to file an official report and they basically went "are you sure you didn't lead him on". Yeah. Still, I told everyone and their mother (literally, lol) I had gone to the police about it, because I figured they didn't need the specifics, just the threat of action.
I was psyching myself up to confront my brother when he dropped the messages and actually called me. He said Sam and Bunny had finally gotten on the same page. It turns out she was jealous of me?! I am an unattractive, awkward person who has known Sam like a brother my whole life... A brother I don't quite see eye to eye with and don't feel any need to be close to... Basically, I put up with this dude for my actual brother. If I had a choice, they wouldn't be bffs to begin with. So there was zero reason for jealousy. We see each other maybe twice a year, in group hangs.
Anyways, Bunny reveals that, while she didn't put her brother Joe up to the original creeping, once she put the dots together, she basically handed him my info and said "go nuts". This caused a certain friction between her and Sam because, as much as I may dislike some of his worldviews, he is fundamentally decent.
So Frodo called to apologise and say he realized there were strings being pulled behind the curtains... And I felt so very disappointed. I realised he wasn't on my side to begin with and it made me look back at several of our latest interactions where he sort of discounted my own lived experience and said he'll support me once those impressions are proven to be accurate and not just me being overly sensitive.
I've gone LC with my brother and his drama llamas and what guts me most is he hasn't even noticed it yet and I'm not sure he will.
I also went digging on Joe, since a lot of you pointed out this might not be his first time making women feel unsafe. He's been divorced three times and has had domestic violence charges brought up and dropped. I couldn't find much more without stirring the pot, but I'm keeping an eye on it. I also filed an online police report, since in person cops sucked, just so there's a paper trail.
All in all, I think I needed both the validation and the tough love and criticism this sub gave me, so thank you. Aspiring to never have reason to post again, though!
TL;DR was right to think creep was creeping have gone low contact with my brother.
ETA: fixed a couple spelling issues, lmk if it's still hard to read. English is not my first language.
**Reminder - I'm not the OOP**
Thank you u/weird_horse_2_die_on! | prettiergenghis | /r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/ym3u5d/oops_brother_wants_her_to_apologise_to_a_creep/ | ym3u5d | 11,807 | 6,394 | [
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2022-11-04T16:49:52 | OOP (25f) plans to move out of her Q mom's home in secret | CONCLUDED | *I am not the original poster. The OOP is \/u/thats-not-it-.*
*I've included some comment exchanges that add context.*
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#[25f moving out this weekend. My parents don’t know yet](https://redd.it/xcprim) - /r/raisedbynarcissists - 13 September 2022
Hey everyone. I’m a long time lurker and I’ve finally gotten the courage to move out of the house at 25. The thing is is that im going to be moving out this weekend and I haven’t told my parents yet. I am a very indecisive person and I have never made such a big and rash decision like this before. I am moving in with my sister who is an hour away. We both agreed that my nmom(59) is doing MUCH more harm than good allowing me to stay here (or more like emotionally manipulating me to stay), especially since the pandemic hit. Her opinions on the pandemic should have been my breaking point but I kept glossing over her behavior anyway. I am moving in with my sister on Saturday. I regret letting myself stay here for so long. There’s so many things my mom has done but I do not have the mental capacity to write out at this time.
I’m just terrified. My emotions are high and I’m scared of the inevitable fight I’m going to have with my nmom in a couple of days. I am non confrontational so I’m going to be a blabbering mess. I have a strong support group behind me though so I know when things go to shit I will be okay. I guess I’m just typing all of this out for emotional support from other people who have similar experiences. Thanks guys.
> *If you're nervous about the reaction or how you'll handle telling them, then maybe don't tell them ahead of time? It'll be less stressful trying to talk to them or risking them trying to stop you.*
>> I think you’re right. I’m probably just going to tell them the day I leave. I know some people just get up and go without saying anything but I don’t think I can do that
> *Well done! Can you sneak out of the house without anyone noticing? Let go mad without you being there and with her blocked on social media.*
>> Thanks! Sneak out as in not tell her until after I leave? I kind of want to do that but I’m scared she’ll be even more mad than just telling her I’m moving
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#[25f moving out this weekend. My parents don’t know yet. AND I’m getting the vaccine tomorrow](https://redd.it/xcqp2p) - /r/QAnonCasualties - 13-15 September 2022
*[OP posted this immediately after the previous post, but in a different subreddit. The titles are similar but the content has a different focus.]*
Basically I’m moving in with my sister and I haven’t told my parents. I’m going to tell them Wednesday night and be out of here by Saturday. But my mom is crazy so it’s not going to be pretty.
Unfortunately my nmom is also a qmom (which I’m starting to see is not surprising). She had gone as far as flying to Dallas last November for the JFK Jr. reveal. She was part of the Negative-48 group as well but thank god she’s realized how mental Michael Protzman is and she isn’t a part of it anymore. I wish she would understand that this whole thing is mental but alas.
This week is going to be tumultuous for me. I’m also getting the first dose of the pfizer vaccine tomorrow. Like most people’s parents on this subreddit my mom is a HUGE antivaxxer. That alone scares me. I wish I hadn’t of waited to get mine let alone moving out but these past couple of weeks have been a huge eye opener. I didn’t say this on the other post but I’ve come to terms with the fact that I’m queer. That was the straw that broke the camels back for me. I’ve been religiously abused just from being mentally ill (that’s a WHOLE other story I’m not ready to tell); I can’t image what she’ll do if I she ever finds out I’m not cishet. I just started secretly dating someone and this is my first ever relationship. So god forbid I stay in this house while that is going on. It wouldn’t be fair to myself or my partner.
I just really need support right now. Like I said on the other post I’m un-confrontational and my qmom is a narc. It’s not going to be pretty when I tell her I’m moving. (I’m not going to tell her I’m getting the vaccine or that I’m queer. Just so you all know). I appreciate all of you guys for being vulnerable about your experiences. It has helped me more than you know.
EDIT/UPDATE? (1):after a couple of people on both posts commented about the day I tell her, im going to tell my mom I’m leaving the day I leave instead. It wouldn’t make sense to give her extra time to persuade me to stay here.
UPDATE (2): I’m not getting the vaccine today. My mom didn’t realize she has an eye appointment and she has to have her eyes dilated so I have to drive her there. I’m going to get it after I move in with my sister. I think that will be less stressful anyway
UPDATE (3) (hopefully the last update before I leave): my mom is suspicious of my behavior. I’ve been having a freeze response for the past few days and I haven’t gotten anything productive done. I slipped up and told her that I don’t want to take college classes anymore and to work instead. I didn’t say anything about moving. I know I shouldn’t have said it but she kept asking about my classes. She started pointing her finger at me asking if im lying to her about anything- I said no. Im afraid I’ll have to leave earlier than I expected. I am not religious or very spiritual, but I am please asking for your thoughts, prayers, good vibes, anything. Thank you all.
> [...] *Telling her what you’re doing when you do it might give you some measure of closure, or it might make things worse if she pitches a fit and gets violent or tries to,stop you. Just bouncing without telling her - or maybe leaving a note under her pillow where she won’t find it immediately - makes it much more likely you’ll get out without a scene. Do what feels right for you.*
>> After thinking some more I’m not saying anything until after I leave, at least. I might not say anything at all. But my sister is very protective of her space and I know that that’s where my mom is going to look first. I have to set a boundary with her to not come there. I’m not sure how to go about it to be honest…
>>> *What does your sister suggest?*
>>>> She originally wanted me to tell my mom a few days before. I convinced her that that was not a good idea and that I might tell her when I leave. I think what I might do is tell my mom I am at my sisters but if she must talk to me then I meet her in a public space. Not at my sisters house
>>>>> *I assume your sister supports you because she’s going to let you stay with her. She must know that’s going to make your mom crazy, right? Does your sister have any contact with her mom? Will she let her mom in her place? Can she withstand a verbal assault from mom?*
>>>>>> She does support me. She was the first one in the family to realize how crazy my mom is. She knows my mom will get mad but I think she has a hard time believing it could potentially get THAT bad. After reading a lot of these comments on here I’m convinced it could be like that. I’ll have to share this post with her. My sister is in low contact with my mom currently. She doesn’t want my mom there uninvited. I’ll have to talk to her some more to see what she thinks about me inviting her over- if my mom absolutely must talk. And yes, she can definitely withstand verbal assault. Much more than I can
> *I’m glad you decided to wait to tell her your moving until the day you leave. I would also record her when you tell her. Just in case she goes absolutely off the rails. I wish you the best of luck!*
>> Oh I’m definitely recording her. She likes to spew some hateful shit at me then later tells me she never said such a thing. If I cant tell her the exact day she said something then it’s “not true”. Thank you so much!
> *Just curious, what was your moms reaction when JFK Jr ended up not returning from the dead in Dallas? Was there ANY sort of regret or acknowledgment of it being ridiculous?
Or just more excuses?*
>> Just more excuses 😬. She was on the fence about Jr coming back and she figured it might not actually happen, but she said did not regret going at all. She said the thinks people were gathered there to “show their loyalty” to Q or something along those lines. That’s not verbatim. But that’s what she was getting at
> *Your safety comes first. Leave as much stuff as you can. Just take what fits in the regular backpack you carry - the other stuff is NOT worth it. If you can get your hands on birth certificate/passport/social security card, that’s what matters more than anything. I’m sure your sister can give you clothes. This is your life and your sanity. Material things can be replaced. Listen to your gut and get out as soon as possible. You’re doing the right thing. Don’t tell your parents you’re leaving, just leave. You don’t owe them an explanation. You or your sister can inform them afterwards that you’re not returning.*
>> You’re so right about packing light. My documents are safe and away from the house. But I started packing way more than I need. I hate to leave my guitar here (it’s like a 3000 dollar guitar that I could sell if I really needed to) but I’m scared of how little time I have to get from the house to the car without my mom coming home and seeing what I’m doing. I need to make just one trip from the house to the car and that’s it. Thank you for your input
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#[GUYS I DID IT. I MADE IT OUT OF MY Q HOUSE](https://redd.it/xg0hbj) - /r/QAnonCasualties - 16 September 2022
Guys!!! Omg! I made a post the other day about me planning on moving out of my qmom’ s house without her knowing. AND I DID IT.
I just texted them that I’m at my sister’s. I know it’s going to get messy but at least I am an hour away and safe!
I cannot thank you all enough for your advice and support!!! I would hug each and every one of you if I could!
I trusted my gut to post on here the other day. Your advice about not saying anything may have saved my life. I almost told them 3 days ahead of time. That could have gotten very ugly for me. Or it may have not. Either way I did what I had to do.
I could not have been too careful about this- especially since one of our Michigan friends in this community lost her mother to her dad. If you are reading this- I am so so sorry. I’m sending all my love to you. May you have peace at this time❤️
I will update again on how they are going to take it, me leaving in secret. I blocked their numbers for now because I am exhausted and I need my peace. Depending on how they treat me once I unblock I will go Low Contact or No Contact. We shall see.
Again, thank you all SO MUCH.
Edit: I want you all to know for the record that my mom has never physically abused me. There was no previous threat to my life. I was probably over-exaggerating when I said you all probably saved my life. It’s just that life in general (as people who’s family/friends are Qs) has been so crazy and unpredictable. I apologize for that.
> *For some reason I feel like you should contact local police and let them know. I read a few posts on here and a couple narcissist subreddits about parents reporting missing persons or saying you're suicidal or something like that.*
>> Mmm. Yeah that might be a good idea. Someone else said that on my last post
> *Almost saved your life? Is your mom abusive as well?* 😞
>> She has hurt me in some ways, I don’t know if I can say she’s abusive. But everything that has been going on lately with the Q’s I wanted to be sure that I was safe. Maybe I was over exaggerating when I said that… I don’t know.
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#[YALL I MOVED OUT](https://redd.it/xg0rid) - /r/raisedbynarcissists - 16 September 2022
*[OP posted this immediately after the previous post, but in a different subreddit.]*
I did it!! I made a post the other day about moving out without my parents knowing
I cannot thank you all enough for your support and advice!! Thank you all for telling me to not say anything before I moved. I don’t know what my Nmom is capable of and it could have gotten ugly!
I texted my family that I’m gone so I’ll make an update later telling what they say/do. Hopefully everything turns out somewhat okay.
Again THANK YOU ALL SO MUCH
> *Congrats. I wish to move out soon too but it's damn hard especially while suffering from undiagnosed mental health conditions.*
>> I’m so sorry you are suffering from mental health conditions, I am too. It really is too damn hard. I cannot speak for you and your situation but for me, I knew that it was going to only get worse for me so I had to leave. That really was my main motivator. I am sending you all the love and I know that if I can get out of my situation you can too❤️❤️
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*OOP has not provided an update in 11 days, so I marked this as concluded. Hopefully she's doing well.*
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2022-11-04T17:54:35 | AITA for telling my sister she could’ve dated the guy she liked had she not been such a misogynistic pick me? | ONGOING | **I am NOT OP. Original post by u/throwaway6103911 in r/amitheasshole**
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[**AITA for telling my sister she could’ve dated the guy she liked had she not been such a misogynistic pick me?**](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/y88xbo/aita_for_telling_my_sister_she_couldve_dated_the/) - 19 October 2022
My (20F) sister Kim and I are identical twins. We were very different growing up and still are. I hate to say this but Kim is the definition of a pick me girl, always spewing misogynistic nonsense on how women are weak and should abide to men. How she’s so short and petite so she can’t do anything on her own without a big strong man around. How all the girls are trying too hard by wearing makeup while she is pretty naturally so they all hate her for it. You get the gist.
Kim and I attend the same college but study there in different departments. In one of my classes there is this guy named Dave, Dave is your typical handsome frat boy that most girls in our college have a crush on including Kim.
Over the summer I’ve started working in a small coffee shop near campus to earn some extra cash. During that time Dave became a frequent customer there and was pretty friendly toward me since he recognized me from class. After a while he admitted that he’s attracted to me and asked me out so we can get to know each other. Knowing that Kim liked him I decided to reject Dave and instead offered to set him up with her, we are identical so if he asked me out based on attraction it really shouldn’t matter. Dave agreed and I gave him my sisters number.
I knew they met up for a date during the weekend but didn’t have the time to ask Kim how it went since I was sick. Today during my shift Dave approached me and asked if I could return to Kim the lipgloss she left in his car since he knew the brand was expensive. I asked him why he didn’t return it to her himself and he said that he didn’t want to see her after how the date went.
I was confused and so I asked him if the date was really that bad. He explained that they went to a nice restaurant where my sister didn’t stop harassing and criticizing the waitress for wearing too much make up and looking “easy”. After that fiasco was over she proceeded to say some stuff that I can only imagine are usually said in an Andrew Tate podcast. Dave who was apparently raised by a single mother and has 5 sisters was horrified so he excused himself to the bathroom, paid for their meal, venmod Kim some cash for an Uber and left her at the restaurant alone.
I was embarrassed for Kim but totally understood why Dave walked out on her so I apologized on her behalf and took the lipgloss with me. I returned it to her 2 hours ago and she didn’t stop complaining on how awful Dave was, how he wasn’t a real man since real man usually like when she brings up how women are inferior to them. At some point I just cut her off and told her that she had a chance of a nice date with a guy she liked but ruined it all because she couldn’t stop being a misogynistic pick me even for one second.
I’m now back at my apartment and Kim hasn’t stopped texting me demanding I apologize but I don’t feel like it. AITA?
Verdict: NTA
**Update:**
I would like to start this off by saying that although I don’t agree or excuse Kim’s actions I do understand that they come from a place of insecurity. And although I knew her obsession over male validation was not normal I didn’t understand the severity of it until now. I’ve talked with our parents and they both agreed based on what I told them that we’ll try to convince Kim to attend therapy after the holidays. I’m not she’ll agree but it’s worth a shot.
I ended up getting Dave’s phone number from a classmate of ours. I’ve sent him a text apologizing again for what went on and thanked him for still paying for my sisters meal and making sure she had a away to get home safely. We talked a bit more, one thing led to another and we agreed to meet up for lunch next week after class. I don’t know if I should consider this a date or not since we didn’t label it as such but I think I’ll just meet him there and see how it goes.
I told Kim about it and to say she was pissed would be an understatement, she called me a horrible sister for agreeing to meet a guy who publicly humiliated her by leaving her alone at the restaurant. I retaliated by reminding her that she was the one who embarrassed him first by causing a scene in public. She was also the one who said that he’s not manly enough for her and lost all interest, so she can’t say she has a claim to him. After calming her down she agreed with me and said that a female like her deserves a manlier alpha male (yes, I know this sounds super cringy). I didn’t know what to say to that so I just laughed and wished her good luck with that. I think she’s still a bit salty over this and her ego is definitely bruised but at least I know she’s completely over Dave.
I want to thank everyone for your support and for the awards. I don’t think I’ll post another update here but if anything interesting happens next week with Dave I’ll make sure to update on my page.
Btw, this is my first time posting here and I have to say that it feels so surreal to open TikTok and see my post voiced by AI with a subway surfer gameplay in the background😂😂
 
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2022-11-04T18:05:17 | OOP's journey of leaving her abusive husband. (7 Posts). | ONGOING | I'm not the OOP. This was posted by u/im_not_a_russianspy in various subreddits mentioned.
TW - >!abusive spouse, infidelity, PTSD!<
Mood Spoiler >!hopeful!<
[Post 1](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriageadvice/comments/tpq86q/husband_and_i_had_an_argument_on_wednesday_he/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) (28 March 22 on r/marriageadvice)
**Husband and I had an argument on Wednesday. He blocked me Thursday morning. It’s Sunday I haven’t heard from him since. Should I give him space? How long should I wait?**
TLDR at the end
We argue sometimes - like most couples do. We know each other well - come together and figure it out on our own. What made this different was his mother happened to be present in the room next door. Other than that - it was pretty standard (the cause, etc. NOT what was said)
I guess I should give some context to understand her POV better.
My husband was under a much higher level of stress in the past 2 weeks. I know this, so I would let a lot of his bothersome behavior slide
(eg: misplaced blame about him not ordering the pizza on time - it was too late and he went off on me. Apologized in about 10 minutes.
Eg 2: we were supposed to go to a dinner to a friends. He got home tired and decided he was to late for him to go, which was ok. I asked if I should make him some dinner then. He went off on me that his sleep medication can’t be taken with food. He said he was hungry but can’t eat. Asked me to leave him alone, so I left to my brothers house. 10 minutes into my drive he started *demanding* food. I decided to not respond in a rude way. I said ok - turned my car around and went back to cook for him. I’m giving him a break because he’s going through a tough time with his business partners.)
things like this would happen throughout about 2 weeks, until Wednesday night he got mad at me about an appointment I scheduled for him - that he wanted me to schedule for him. I gave him estimated pricing (we couldn’t know exactly what we’d be paying until he was seen but it ended up being a lot more than we both expected, and a lot more than the estimate they initially gave me.) he was mad at me for this and blamed me. Argument started to go off topic and he said something unacceptable
(For the record there has never been and physical abuse in our relationship nor was I ever afraid of him hitting me)
The words he said were “I’m gonna smash your head through the floor. He didn’t yell this, so his mother didn’t hear him. I repeated it back to him, because it’s a crazy thing to say and I wanted him to understand what he just said so I said (I was loud. I was mad. But I was not yelling on the top of my throat) “smash my head through the floor”. His mother started to knock and asked that I leave.
I was already on my way out, I didn’t want to continue engaging. I didn’t say anything to his mother, walked out and drove to a family members house.
He continued texting me saying I was provoking him to hit me which would ruin his life. His mothers concern was the same and she told him she worked “with these cases all her life and I will call the cops and he will be arrested because men are arrested no questions asked”. But all I did was repeat what he had said to me..
I know that had she not intervened, we would settle this in our own.. but I came home later that night and he told me I couldn’t sleep in bed with him. I said I didn’t realize I need permission to be in my own bed. I was incredibly hurt but went to the couch, and eventually fell asleep.
Thursday morning I left to work quietly. I get a message from him saying I pissed his mom off (he’s not close with her usually and they don’t have the creepy mamas boy relationship so this was out of the blue for him.) he said I was provoking him. He needs space from me. Also said he needs me out cuz I disrespected his mom.
I came home from work, front door was locked. I walk in from the back and most of the stuff is packed in boxes and suitcases. He says he’s rushing to go to work and doesn’t want to see my face right now. Passes me a message along through his mother and asks that I leave until he’s gone.
His mother and I leave and talk for a while. She started very cold and offensive but upon hearing my side out, seemed to understand and asked that I just give him space and that I go stay with my brother or go see my parents in another state for a week.
He texted her and said he was not looking for a divorce. That’s all she told me.. I came home. Packed a small suit case and got my ticket to visit my parents. She said to just leave my stuff where they’re at and they’ll be safe.
It’s Sunday. I know he’s okay, since he’s active on his Instagram dog page (he has a pretty big following and loves his dog and the breed - our stud is in the business with famous kennels)
I’m still blocked. I can’t get a message out to him since… I don’t know what to think.. I feel like it’s been long enough for a husband and wife to go without a word. I’m not entirely sure what I’m asking. Just seeking advice I guess?
TL;DR: had an argument with husband on Wednesday night, seemingly common argument but his mother intervened and I feel that that’s what made it worse.
He blocked me Thursday morning and I came home to packed bags.
I spoke to his mother and we’re okay, she asked that I just take a break and visit my family for a week. I’m in another state, haven’t heard from him since Thursday. He told his mom he’s not looking for a divorce. I don’t know what to think.
[Post 2](https://www.reddit.com/r/Christianmarriage/comments/tuxffi/should_i_stay_in_this_marriage_or_file_for_divorce/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) ( 3 April 22 on r/christianmarriage)
**Should I stay in this marriage or file for divorce?**
I am 26f, married to 34m for 1.5 years.
Husband has been very emotionally and mentally abusive throughout the marriage. (Especially when he is stressed or worried about issues outside of the marriage. We never really had any issues within our marriage - only when there is an outside factor he is stressed about eg his up and coming business/work etc, he will blow up on me and it will go from there)
He calls me all sorts of names, curses at me, belittles me etc.
his actions show he cares little about me.
In the last 2 weeks he again was very stressed due to some issues with the timeline of his business opening up and he was on edge a lot. He would blame me for things that had nothing to do with me, and I tried to keep it civil and peaceful the entire time, until last Wednesday when he once again got really mad at the amount he had to pay for a procedure (that he asked me to schedule for him. I told him prices upfront but we couldn’t know the exact prices until he was seen. He was told the price and then he proceeded with the procedure. He blew up on me after we left the office. I wrote about this in another subreddit it is on my page it you’re interested)
But pretty much I left to stop arguing. he blocked my number after that argument. He packed me stuff and pretty much kicked me out. I took some stuff and went to visit my family in another state. After about 4-5 days he finally unblocked me and said he is going through a lot with his business partners and needs space. He needs his room to himself.
I texted him today saying that needing space is okay - that he went about it all wrong basically leaving me on the street (we live in a rental , my name is not on the lease as he lived there prior to me moving in)
I stayed calm but He was angry so I believe he was perceiving my texts the same way. We didn’t get anywhere. I said I was coming back and I have no where to stay.
He says I’m a big girl I have a job and can take care of myself
I also told him his mother should not have intervened and that we know our relationship like no other , a third party will complicate things.
He said “watch your tongue talking about my mother” and then he blocked me again.
I have a ticket back tomorrow . I have to get back to work but I literally have no place to stay.
I tried to find a rental but it’s a process and I had no luck within a week being away.
I think kicking me out to the street is not acceptable . It’s inhumane and I would have never done that under any circumstances.
Is my marriage over? I think it is
I’m curious as to what Christian’s would advise me to do
I’m so embarrassed
[Post 3](https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/vexia9/can_i_get_a_divorce_in_california_without_a_lawyer/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) (18 June 22 on r/legaladvice)
**Can I get a divorce in California without a lawyer?**
Can someone please help me. I don’t have much money. My need to divorce my cheating abusive husband… it’s been a long time coming. I’m 26f..
We don’t own anything together. We’ve been married for 1.5 years. No joint accounts… how do I go about this?
Edit: are the websites on Google legit? Like onlinedivorce & Californiadivorce
[Post 4](https://www.reddit.com/r/TrueOffMyChest/comments/vfi87q/yesterday_i_caught_my_husband_cheating_on_me/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) (19 June 22 on r/trueoffmychest)
**Yesterday I caught my husband cheating on me**
When I confronted him, he got angry and asked for a divorce (not that I would stay with him)
But I feel like a weight is lifted off my chest. He was so emotionally abusive and came close to being physically abusive a few times.
I know grief comes in waves, but since I found out, I haven’t cried. I feel some sadness of the betrayal but I honestly can’t wait for what comes next in life.
I went out with a good group of people today and we played softball, and now I’ll go sand down a piece of furniture and repaint it.
I’m going to be 27 in just a few days. He’s almost 35. He cheated on me with a 40 year old single mom who didn’t know he was married.. (he always said single moms are not someone guys want long term. Smh)
I was a great wife to him. He’ll realize it later, I’m sure.
I’m afraid of the sadness the awaits me but hoping I’ll pull through.
[Post 5](https://www.reddit.com/r/TrueOffMyChest/comments/vs5jeh/finally_getting_a_divorce_from_my_abusive_husband/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) (6 July 22 on r/trueoffmychest)
**Finally getting a divorce from my abusive husband, and I feel as if he is trying to pull me back in**
He was texting me all day yesterday, calling me babe like before and telling me how much he loves me, as if we’ve never broken up… he sent me about 70 messages before I responded and said 2 words.. then he continued to text me another 49 messages.
He also said he had PTSD when we got married (2years ago), but he’s 100% healthy now. That was his last message last night that I didn’t respond to. I don’t know if it deserves a response
Edit: after I made this post, he’s sent me about 7 messages saying good morning and how much he loves me, forever and ever blah blah blah.
I hate that I need to be reminded to not go back to him.
[Post 6](https://www.reddit.com/r/abusiverelationships/comments/vt1sut/about_to_go_file_for_divorce/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) (7 July 22 on r/abusiverelationships)
**About to go file for divorce**
As relieved as I feel, I’m really emotional because the last few days my husband has been texting and calling me telling me how much he loves me and how much he misses me..
He was not physically abusive (he got close), very abusive mentally and emotionally. He also threatened to physically hurt me multiple times.
He cheated on me about 1-2 months ago and it has been ongoing until I found out..
I miss him too and getting these messages from him pouring his heart out makes me feel gutted.
But I’m leaving work in 2 minutes and going to court. I am very anxious and emotional
[Post 7](https://www.reddit.com/r/TrueOffMyChest/comments/yfvznp/i_woke_up_with_100_text_messages_58_missed_calls/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) (28 Oct 22 on r/trueoffmychest)
**I woke up with 100+ text messages & 58 missed calls, and 1 voicemail from my ex husband that came in between 2:15am-4:00am.**
In his voicemail he said how terrible of a communicator I am because i’m
not answering my phone.
all this was prompted by me stopping by to grab some of my things from his place. He lives with his mother. I intentionally stopped by when he wasn’t there, and she happily let me in to take my things.
as i was leaving, i left a note on his bed apologizing and saying that his cheating affected me more than i thought, etc.
He was threatening to come over at 3 am to my place.
He also said he’d have me arrested “if i break in without his knowledge” again.
& Yes, he is now blocked.
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2022-11-04T18:22:29 | OOP thinks his key-shaped mosquito bite looks interesting. Reddit tells him to go to the ER. | CONCLUDED | I am NOT OP.
The original post is just an image on /r/Damnthatsinteresting
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[**Original post**](https://www.reddit.com/r/Damnthatsinteresting/comments/vp0ies/my_mosquito_bite_turned_into_the_shape_of_a_key/) by u/Killjoy8299 - July 1 2022
**My mosquito bite turned into the shape of a key.**
[Image](https://i.redd.it/7w8fou29zz891.jpg)
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**Reddit Doctors & others weigh in**
u/Ashamed_Angle_8301
> Doctor here. That is an infection spreading via your lymph vessels. It's called lymphangitis. You need to see a doctor for antibiotics.
>
> Edit: Like what some others have said, the other possibility is cutaneous larva migrans, which is worms introduced into the skin and spreading out in the skin layer. You'd also need medical attention for this.
u/MrTurner45XO
> Hi. ER Doctor here. Based on the only picture I saw, you have thrombophlebitis. General self care is the recommendation, nsaids for pain, cold compresses should help with any swelling. Keep an eye out for spreading redness (any worse than it already is could be a sign of infection). If you have fevers, chills, severe pain not getting better with NSAIDs you should go to the emergency departments as you may be developing cellulitis -an infection of the skin and soft tissue.
u/Zabacraft
> Holy crap dude. This gives me shivers as it's like a near 1 to 1 situation I've seen up close. Like others said this is no joke. I remember a girl who had similar from class, started with a mosquito bite! Our teacher urged her and called her parents to get to a hospital, parents didn't want to go because they thought it's all good just an allergy just like yours.
>
> Long story short few days further she got a massive fever in class and teacher rushed her to the hospital.
>
> She was immediately admitted to intensive care as infection entered her bloodstream. She would've been dead if not for our teacher!
>
> I know it seems like I'm trying to scare you with this story but please for the love of God take this seriously, because if you don't then without joking you could die. Please OP go see a doctor ASAP. Don't take chances with life, life is fragile as fuck when it comes down to it.
>
> If your parents don't take you tomorrow just fucking go to a doctor yourself, make it happen no matter what, don't wait with stuff like this. What is a simple antibiotic now could be you in the ICU a few days or week from now..
>
> Like others said I'm pretty sure South Korea has an easy healthcare system. From what I find on a quick Google its not completely free but very accessible.
>
> Please please just go see a doctor!
u/__ConesOfDunshire__
> Mosquito's kill hundreds of thousands of people a year. They top the list as mostly deadly animal on the planet almost every year. The amount of deadly diseases that they spread is crazy. People are not nearly as afraid of those little dicks as they should be.
u/SucktasticFucktastic
> Dude, go to the doctor asap.
I'm in seoul rn, I don't live here. It's 11pm and my parents are refusing to take me rn, saying it's just an allergic reaction and that I shouldn't listen to "internet kids," etc etc. Best I can do is next morning.
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[**UPDATE**](https://www.reddit.com/r/Damnthatsinteresting/comments/vp0ies/my_mosquito_bite_turned_into_the_shape_of_a_key/iej1nov/)
Went to the hospital, doctor said it's an allergy. I also have a cold.
Since I'm from the US, my body went "wtf bro" when it was bit by a foreign mosquito. Since I normally live in cali, we don't even get mosquitos, which made the reaction more dramatic.
[A few weeks later...](https://www.reddit.com/r/Damnthatsinteresting/comments/vp0ies/my_mosquito_bite_turned_into_the_shape_of_a_key/ih4hses/)
the key is gone
He pushed down on it. Since it didn't hurt, he knew it wasn't an infection. I also told him that I live abroad. He concluded that it was an allergy since my body isn't used to this kind of mosquito.
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**Reminder - I am not the original poster.** | bigbluesandwich | /r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/ym6bjd/oop_thinks_his_keyshaped_mosquito_bite_looks/ | ym6bjd | 4,082 | 4,489 | [
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2022-11-04T20:30:56 | I think my SIL’s best friend is trying to get with my husband and she’s encouraging it. Am I delusional? | REPOST | **I am NOT OP. Original post by u/throwra874837 in r/relationship_advice**
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[**I think my SIL’s (23/F) best friend (23/F) is trying to get with my (25/F) husband (28/M) and she’s encouraging it. Am I delusional?**](https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/ift0zm/i_think_my_sils_23f_best_friend_23f_is_trying_to/) - 24 August 2020
My SIL (23/F) is my husband’s (28/M) half-sister, she was the product of their mother’s infidelity. His father divorced their mother when he was 12 after he found out through a paternity test she wasn’t his. My FIL refused to have anything to do with my SIL but continued to have a relationship with my husband, because of this my SIL is very clingy to my husband. My husband is also very protective of his sister and generally doesn’t tolerate anything negative being said about her, which is why I’m posting this here before mentioning anything to him.
My husband and I bought a house last year which has its own indoor swimming pool. My SIL was super excited when she saw it and asked if she could use it sometimes with her friend. We said it was fine, as long as she gave us a notice before she turned up. Her and her friend (Chloe) have used it many times before but almost never when my husband is home (he is a lawyer and works long hours).
With lockdown, my husband has started to work from home. My SIL asked me if she and Chloe could come over and use the pool, I told her I was uncomfortable with them coming over as I’m pregnant and don’t want to accidentally expose the baby to anything risky. My SIL then asked if she and Chloe quarantined for two weeks would they be able to come over, my husband said it was fine.
Two weeks later they turn up to my house. My husband was in his office, so they go straight to the pool after making small talk. My husband ends up coming out after an hour and we’re hanging out in the kitchen. My SIL walks in to get a drink and she starts talking to my husband. Before she goes back to the pool, she says “Chloe’s going to be so happy to see you”. It was weird because my husband and Chloe aren’t close. Chloe comes into the kitchen two minutes later and spends the rest of her time talking to my husband until he excuses himself to get back to work.
She’s super giggly and smiley when she talks to him. He would say something sarcastic and she would laugh like it was the funniest joke she’s ever heard. It honestly felt like she was flirting with him. Before she went back to the pool, she gave me this weird smirk-y look. Before they leave, they ask my husband if he’s working from home everyday of the week, he confirms he is.
The next two weeks, they come over to the house to ‘swim’ every single day. Except, Chloe never gets in the water. Instead she hangs around the house in her bikini (she was previously wearing a one-piece if it makes a difference) every single day. Whenever my husband comes out to hang around me, she quickly interrupts him and keeps him talking until he has to go back to work.
I made lunch for us all and when I excused myself to call my husband down, my SIL quickly stopped me and said Chloe could call him for me. They shared a look and Chloe looked really happy when she went to get him. Chloe has also started to get touchier with my husband. She’s put her hands on his chest and arms, stands or sits really close to him. To my husband’s credit he does usually create space between them whenever she does something like this.
The reason I believe my SIL is in on this is because she’s made a few pregnancy-related jabs at me recently. She told me a story about how one of her friend’s boyfriends was cheating on her and then said something along the lines of “did you know a lot of men start cheating when their wives are pregnant?”. She’s also made comments about how I look chubby now and it looks weird next to my husband because he’s ‘well-built’. If she spots my husband out of the office she quickly goes to inform Chloe.
I know pregnancy hormones can mess with a person’s brain so I’m wondering if I’m just looking for something that isn’t there. My SIL sent me a text yesterday asking if they could come over to swim next week and I really want to say no but I know she’ll whine to my husband if I do. I ideally want to have a conversation with him before then but I’m not sure if I should mention the flirting.
Am I being delusional?
TL;DR – SIL’s and her friend are constantly asking to come over to use our pool but her friend never swims. Instead, she waits around to start talking with my husband. She seems very flirtatious whenever she talks to him but I’m not sure if it’s just pregnancy hormones getting to me.
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[**UPDATE - I think my SIL’s (23/F) best friend (23/F) is trying to get with my (25/F) husband (28/M) and she’s encouraging it. Am I delusional?**](https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/ig3hez/update_i_think_my_sils_23f_best_friend_23f_is/) - 25 August 2020
Well, I read and reread all of the comments on the original post to try and figure out how I was going to bring up the issue. Turns out, I didn’t have to. We were watching a movie and my phone lit up with another text from my SIL telling me she was now going to be here at 1pm the next day to swim with Chloe. My husband saw it and told me to tell her not to come. This is really weird behaviour for my husband because he tends to do anything to accommodate my SIL and very rarely refuses her anything. I asked him if something had happened and he shrugged it off and we kept watching the movie.
A few minutes later he paused the movie and said he wanted to ask me a question. He asked if I’d noticed Chloe never swam when she came to our house. I wish I could say I was calm and collected like the comments were advising but… I ended up laughing hysterically. I was honestly just so relieved he’d brought it up instead of me having to be the one to do it. I think my husband thought I was losing my mind.
When I finally stopped laughing, he repeated the question and said he wanted a serious answer. I said, “of course I’ve noticed” and he awkwardly replied “so… you must’ve noticed the other thing too”. To summarise the conversation that followed: My husband hadn’t noticed Chloe was flirting with him the first few days because he was so busy with work, he wasn’t really paying attention to anything else.
He said when she started getting handsy is when he suddenly had the ‘light bulb’ moment that she was into him. He says he didn’t want to unnecessarily stress me out, so he never mentioned anything, but he was worried I’d noticed too and thought he was interested because he hadn’t immediately shut it down.
He realised we would eventually have to have this talk, but he wasn’t sure how to bring it up (oh the irony). He did privately speak to Chloe and told her he was happily married and wasn’t interested in starting anything with anyone else. Apparently, she never took him seriously because she kept doing it.
In the end, he called his sister on Sunday to tell her either she got her to stop or Chloe couldn’t come over anymore. His sister ended up having a tantrum and said a few nasty things about me/the baby/our relationship. She insisted I was somehow behind his request and made some comments about how I was controlling and insecure because I looked like a ‘beach whale’ and Chloe was younger and hotter. He was pretty pissed at this and said if she said something like that about me again, he would stop speaking to her.
She claimed I had baby trapped him and when my husband pointed out we were already married so I didn’t need to ‘trap’ him and that he was the one who wanted to start a family she kept insisting I had manipulated him into feeling that way. She claimed he was unhappy in our relationship and he always looked ‘tired’ because I was forcing him to slave away to fund my fancy lifestyle, whilst I sat on my ass all day. He pointed out he chose to be a lawyer knowing he would have to work long hours and I had only recently left my job, so her accusations were baseless.
She said some other stuff along the same lines but the thing that made my husband finally snap was when she said ‘it’ (the baby) was already ruining everything and it was just going to get worse when it was born and he should’ve dragged me to the abortion clinic whilst he had the chance. He told her neither her nor Chloe were welcome in our home anymore until they apologised for how they’d been behaving and for the things my SIL said.
He said he wasn’t sure he could ever forgive or forget what she’d said about our child even if she did apologise and he couldn’t believe she would even think something like that, let alone say it. Apparently, she started crying and said she was sorry, that she didn’t mean it and she was just scared to lose him and that she wasn’t thinking clearly. He hung up on her. He showed me his phone and she’s been calling him and texting him since begging him to reply.
He asked if she’d said anything to me. I was debating whether to say anything or not, but he kept insisting he knew she had said something, and he wanted to know what it was. I told him the things I mentioned in the original post and a few other things she had said.
He asked me why I never mentioned anything when she first said it and I mentioned how he got really defensive whenever I said anything even slightly negative about his sister and he… got defensive. I pointed out he was doing it again and after some back and forth he admitted that “maybe he was a little bit defensive when it came to her” but he promised to stop and he wanted to make sure we could talk about anything, including his sister.
He ended up mentioning wanting to try couples counselling. He said it wasn’t because he thought there was something wrong with our relationship but apparently he has been speaking to his dad a lot recently and he mentioned one thing he regretted about his marriage with MIL is that they never went to therapy until the cracks in their relationship were too big. In his current marriage they go, and it’s helped him avoid the mistakes of his first marriage. I agreed, so we’re probably going to try that soon.
My husband thinks my SIL will eventually turn up even if we tell her not to, but he promised he’d deal with her if she does.
So, reddit I guess you were right. I really did just need to speak to him. Thanks for the advice and comments, I enjoyed reading them all.
TL;DR – We talked. Husband already confronted both the friend and SIL. SIL said some really shitty things so we won’t be contacting her for a while. Communication is key folks! ;)
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**Reminder - I am not the original poster.** | toohottooheavy | /r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/ym9jrc/i_think_my_sils_best_friend_is_trying_to_get_with/ | ym9jrc | 10,726 | 16,511 | [
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2022-11-04T20:50:49 | OP and her Golden Child Brother | CONCLUDED | Trigger Warning >!Physical and Emotional Abuse/Violence!<
Mood Spoiler: >!Frustrating !<
**Friendly Reminder, I am not the Original Poster**
Posted by [u/uhmdontknowwhattosay](https://www.reddit.com/user/uhmdontknowwhattosay/) in [r/AmItheAsshole](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/)
Original - **posted 2 years ago,** June 29, 2020
[AITA, if I kick my brother (30M, the golden child) out for cursing at me in my own house where he doesnt pay or do anything.](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/hi0s12/aita_if_i_kick_my_brother_30m_the_golden_child/)
While I(28F) was looking for a job, my brother (30) offered to help and I moved in with him. I was so grateful.I cleaned the house, prepared our meals, did everything around the house.My BF(29) felt responsible for me and brought bags of groceries everyday to compensate what I ate. After a month,I threw away a trash bin swarming with worms. I replaced it with the exact same thing. My brother told me I had no right and kicked me out.I moved in with my BF. The next day my mother called. I never tell her anything. She said 'it is your fault. It is his house. You dont have right to his stuff. He is your brother, you gotta obey him.'Not long after, I found an amazing job and house.BF and I moved in together. I wanted to help my brother and told him that he could live with us for couple of months, save money and move into a better place. I told him not to worry about the rent and other utilities, because we are family. He did nothing around the house.I bought a TV my brother became obsessed with. He would watch TV all day everyday.One day I told my brother dinner was ready. He turned the TV on and left the room. I was laying the table I opened a news channel. He came back and complained, switched the channel back. I told him we should watch something that we can all enjoy. He insisted that he came first, we were gonna watch what he wanted to watch. I told him to switch back.He did not.I told him to give me the remote control and he did not. After demanding the remote control the 10th time, he threw it on the floor. I told him he cannot throw stuff in my house because it did not belong to him. I told him he was not doing anything in the house to help but at least let us rest and enjoy our day while we can. For the context, my BF and I both study for our post gradutes, have jobs and work in the house.
He screamed and cursed. Next day my mother called and asked what happened and I refused to answer. She then told me it was my fault and told me to be polite to him because he was a guest. He was my brother and I gotta obey him.
2 weeks ago I broke my ankle.Last friday I was working on my assignments with this excruciating pain in my ankle! My mother called and I refused to make a comment on the fight. She then started to cry saying brother had to order take out. We did not have food. I then realized I was so busy working and trying to make it to the deadline that I forgot to eat. It was not important of course, my brother had to order take out! Unthinkable!Today my brother said 'As your brother I came and am apologizing for cursing at you. I know I am right in the fight so I expect you to apologize'. I told him I did nothing wrong and was not going to apologize. He told me I was sick in the head. He was saying things as if my mother was talking. He told me I had narcissistic personality disorder. He was done and I was dead to him.My BF told me my brother suffers from 'favoritism'.
AITA, if i want to cut contact with them and kick him out of my house?
**VERDICT - NTA**
\[**OOP provided more details in her post on** [r/relationship\_advice](https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/)\] - posted on June 28, 2020
[I am having problems with my brother whom I believe is the golden child for my mother](https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/hhrb29/i_am_having_problems_with_my_brother_whom_i/)
Hello people of Reddit,
I am a first time poster, so I apologize if I make a mistake.
I (28F) have been reading AITA and relationship\_advice posts for over a month now. And, today decided to make a post and ask strangers how to fix things if I am in the wrong. Here we go.
My parents got divorced when I was around 13, because my father(59) cheated on my mother(59). I am no contact with my father for over 10 years. My mother, for some reason blamed me for their divorce. She used to come to my bed late at night, shook me and told me I was the cause of her failed marriage. We never had a good relationship, but this divorce made everything far worse for us. Whenever we had a problem, she would say that I am sick in the head, crazy, mental and was in urgent need for help. As a 14 year old kid who did not know better, I actually did seek for help and made an appointment with a therapist. The therapist told me that she needed to see my mother too. I dont know what the therapist told my mother but we never visited her again. Sometimes, my mother would tell me that the therapist told her I was crazy and a psychopath. If it was the case, why didn't my mother help me by taking me to the therapist. Isn't it what mothers do? Help their kids?
I have a brother (30M), the golden child, who got all the nice things, praises and whatnot when we grew up like any other golden child. I am not going to bother you with how he is the golden child and I am the unwanted kid, or it would take forever.
My brother and I are university graduates. I studied in a foreign country for post graduate, and last year I came back and started looking for a job in my home country. I wanted to work in the same city where I studied in university, where my long-term boyfriend lives, where all my friends are, and of course where my mother does not exist. While I was looking for a job, my brother offered to help and I moved in with him. He used to live alone in an old student apartment. I was so grateful, that I cleaned the house, prepared our meals, did the laundry, in short pretty much did everything around the house.
My long term boyfriend (29M) are good friends with my brother. Bf used to come for dinner everynight and we would hang out. My BF felt responsible for me and brought bags of groceries everyday to compensate what he and I ate. I am a very independent woman and did my best not to become a burden on my brother both financially and emotionally.
After a month, during the holidays my brother went to see our mother while I went with my BF to visit his parents, who are amazing people btw. We left a day earlier than my brother and told him specifically to take out the garbage before leaving because we were gonna be away for 10 days in the middle of the summer heat. We arrived a day before and guess what, he left the trash bin as it is, on the counter. When I looked at it, I saw hundreds of worms swarming in it. I was cleaning the house and thew the bin away. We bought a new trash bin, mind you, it was the exact same bin with the same color. When my brother came a day later, I told him what happened. He started yelling, his face turned red with veins pumping and walking on me. He was screaming at me and blamed me for making decisions in his home without asking him first. It was his house, I did not have the right to throw the bin away. It did not matter if it was a 2$ bin, it was his. I could not believe my ears. I was being yelled at for a trash bin that I replaced. I told him I would do the same if it happens again because it was gross.
He then told me to leave his house. I did and moved in with my BF and his roommate. The next day my mother called me and asked what happened. She asks these questions but she never listens. She believes what she wants to believe. Me trying to explain to her my side does not mean anything. So, I told her I did not want to talk about what happened. She says 'it is your fault. It is his house. You dont have right to his stuff. He is your brother, you gotta obey him.'
I lived with my Bf and his roommate for 5 months. They both are lovely people and never made me feel unwanted even for a second. It was a tough time for me, no house, no job, no money. Not long after, I found an amazing job, found an amazing house and Bf and I moved in together. I wanted to help my brother like how he helped me. His house was falling apart, old, dirty, inconvenient and pretty expensive for only one person. I told him that he could live with us for couple of months, save money and move into a better place. I told him not to worry about the rent and other utilities, because we are family, right? this is what family does for each other right? It was a good call cause a week later our country went crazy with corona virus. He moved in with us just in time.
My BF and I started buying furniture, a happy lamp there, a little table here...It became our house that we built ourselves. My brother never cooked, cleaned, bought groceries or offered any help around the house. I felt it was inconvenient but he was our guest, I was repaying my debt to him. 2 weeks later I bought a TV for all of us, this is important. My brother became obsessed with this TV. He would watch movies, documentaries and shows all day everyday. We were working from home so he had all the time in the world.
One day my BF and I were preparing the meal in the kitchen, I told my brother that the food was ready. He turned the TV on and left the room. (We eat in the living room) While I was laying the table I switched the channel to a news channel. He then came back and complained about the news and switched the channel back. I told him we should all watch something that we can all enjoy. He insisted that he came first, we were gonna watch what he wanted to watch. I told him to switch back. He did not. I told him to give me the remote control and he did not. After demanding the remote control the 10th time, he threw it away to the floor. I told him he cannot throw stuff in my house because it did not belong to him. I told him he was not doing anything in the house to help but at least let us rest and enjoy our life while we can. For the context, my BF and I both study for our post gradutes, have jobs and work in the house.
My brother got up and started yelling. He screamed that my job is easy but his job is very difficult. He was working his ass off and we were just writing e-mails for the show. I told him I was not gonna apologize for having a nice job (not easy per se but pays well). I worked hard for what I have. He then belittles me and my achievements. Not gonna lie, I did the same. I belittled his achievements. He then cursed at me, which is a taboo for me btw. My mother curses at me for the simplest, stupid things so it became a taboo for me, something I would never do to my family. I find it very rude and unforgivable. We stopped talking. Next day my mother called me, asked what happened and I refused to answer. She then told me it was my fault and told me to be polite to him because he was a guest in our house. We made him uncomfortable. He was my brother and I gotta obey him. If there wasnt a lockdown she would have come and placed his child into a better house. A 30 year old man child. Hypocrite? Yeah, I know.
It has been 3 months since we stopped talking. 2 weeks ago I broke my ankle and started working from home again. Last friday was a tough day for me. I had assignments lined up, excel sheets I needed to work on and this constant, excruciating pain in my ankle! Late at night my mother called and asked me to listen to her about my brother. I told her I can listen but only listen. Nothing she says can change what I think and I refused to make a comment on the fight we had with my brother. She then started to cry and told me my brother had to order take out because there was not food in the house. I then realized I was so busy working and trying to make it to the deadline that I forgot to eat. It was not important of course, my brother had to order take out! Unthinkable!
Today I was laying down and watching TV (he stoped watching it after the fight), my brother came to me and said 'As your brother I came and am apologizing for cursing at you. I know I am rigght in the fight so I expect you to apologize'. I told him I did nothing wrong and was not going to apologize. He said that I was 100% in the wrong. When I refused, he told me I was sick in the head. I was crazy and ill. He was saying things as if my mother was talking. He told me I had narcissistic personality disorder. I was selfish, spoiled, self-centered and 'all the dirty things' as he claimed. He told me he was done and I was dead to him. I asked my bf what he thought. He told me my brother suffers from 'favoritism'.
I remember that 14 year old girl now. Should i do what i did years go? or am i being manipulated into thinking I am mentally ill as they claimed? I usually blame myself for everything. I went to 2 more therapists one overseas, one here. After our talks, they told me I was not mentally ill. I dont know. If someone tells you something for years, you start to doubt yourself. What if they are right? What if i am right? What do i do?
I am sorry for the long post. Thank you for reading.
Edit: Fixed typos.
FIRST UPDATE - **posted 2 years ago,** July 21, 2020
[UPDATE: AITA if I kick my brother (30M, the golden child) out for cursing at me in my own house where he doesnt pay or do anything.](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/hvgeun/update_aita_if_i_kick_my_brother_30m_the_golden/)
Hello Reddit,
Original post [here.](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/hi0s12/aita_if_i_kick_my_brother_30m_the_golden_child/)
After reading your comments and discussing them with my BF, I decided to call my mother and explain what really happened. So, I called, tried to tell the story from my perspective. I started off by saying, I am not her and her world views do not necessarily reflect mine. She interrupted me 100 times as she does.She did not even try to see things from my side. As we all guessed she sided with my brother. It was an 1 hour call so I might skip certain things but I remember her blaming me for leaving food in the refrigerator for my brother. Apparently, paying the bills, cleaning, doing the laundry and cooking are not enough, I also have to call him to the table and make sure he does eat. Her exact words were "you are treating him as if he is a stray dog." I will let this sink in for you guys. Surprisingly, she did not know my brother does not pay for anything. It is very convenient my brother forgot to tell her this. She denied always siding with him. I told her to give me 1 example when she sided with me. She could not. Well, of course. At the end of our call, I told her I am used to not having a mother in my life but if she truly loves my brother she should stop spoiling him. He never had a Gf, doesnt have friends and is the most selfish person I have ever seen. He expects everything to be served on a silver platter. She was shocked as if she never realized that my brother doesnt have anyone beside us. I told her to think about what I told her and call me back in 2 hours if she agrees with me. She did call to my surprise and told me that I am a very compassionate and a good hearted girl. This could be the very first time she ever said something nice about me. I thanked her and asked for a favor but she will have to accept beforehand. She agreed and I told her to stay out of our arguments with my brother. He always thinks he is in the right because she sides with him unconditionally. It is always 2 vs 1 against me. We will see if she keeps her promise.
Later that night I walked in my brother's room and told him I was hurt not because he threw the TV remote or not following my rules, but because I don't deserve to be called names in my own house at the age of 28. He apologized for swearing and screaming and agreed not to do that anymore. I told him I am not the sole decision maker in our house and I have to respect my BF's wishes as well. Since he has been a burden for us emotionally, financially and physically we both appreciate if he could find his own place as soon as possible. I told him even though he kicked me out, I will never do that to him. BF told him he can stay with us until he finds his own place.
He is still with us. He tries to help around the house. Yesterday he asked if he could watch TV.
LOL.
BF knows he is a keeper now.
Thank you all for your kind words and I apologize if I offended anyone in any way.
SECOND Update - **posted two years ago,** August 17, 2020
[UPDATE: I (28,F) am having problems with my brother (30,M) whom I believe is the golden child for my mother (59,F)](https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/iefy01/update_i_28f_am_having_problems_with_my_brother/)
Original post [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/hhrb29/i_am_having_problems_with_my_brother_whom_i/). Short version [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/hi0s12/aita_if_i_kick_my_brother_30m_the_golden_child/).1st update [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/hvgeun/update_aita_if_i_kick_my_brother_30m_the_golden/).
Hello Reddit!
It turns out we cannot post several updates for AITA. So I am posting my update here.
After writing my update, I asked my brother if he intends to follow our plan for him to move out by the end of august. He raised his eyebrows and kept quiet. I told him we had an agreement, we showed respect and patience, but he did not change one bit. He got offended and left the room. He said, ‘There is a right time for everything’.
He already has a job that he has been working for 3 years but he applied for another job and he is currently waiting for a response. I didn’t even know he applied for a new job until recently. He is reluctant to move out before an answer, so he wants to wait and see. I totally understand why he does what he does but…
5 minutes later mother called and told me we kicked him out. I cannot understand how in the whole wide world I ended up being the bad guy who kicked her brother out. I told her repeatedly that I did not kick him out, she did not listen as always. I told her again that my brother does not pay or do anything. My bonuses were cut because of my ankle. The project my boyfriend was working got suspended for 4 months. Moreover, BF is about to finish his thesis, so he is very stressed out. We are having financial difficulties and I am spending my emergency fund; my brother knows this and still did not even offer to pay for anything. He even told me he saved up 30k since he moved in with us. I don’t want his money. I don’t need his money. But it would be nice if he offered.
Mother told me she is going to tell him to pay our rent. I told her to stay out of our arguments like we agreed. She believes she should meddle in our lives as if we are children. I understand she tries to help but at the end of the day she makes everything worse. I feel she doesnt care about solving the problem, but she wants to find the guilty kid (it is always me).
Next day when we came home and saw my brother cooking (brother works from home). He cooked for us for the following days and told me that he can cover the rent and utilities. I kindly declined his offer. I did not tell him this, but I know for a fact that if I accept his money my mother and brother will remind me this for the rest of my life. They have this urge to remind you every little thing they do for you.
Couple of days ago my brother and I got into one of our silly arguments. He again started yelling and screaming. I just kept quiet and watched him. I tried to understand why he was so angry. I asked, ‘why are you yelling at me as if I am your enemy?’ He stopped and started crying. He told me that he thinks he is misunderstood, and it frustrates him. At that moment, my heart ached, and I hugged him. He cried on my shoulder and kissed me on the cheek. We ended the argument with smiles. Yesterday he took me out for shopping, and we shared a dinner just the two of us.
I know many of you are disappointed with me. I am one of those people who believes others’ mistreating us might be a cry for help. I am trying to be a good sister.
Thank you!
P.S: 5 mins after writing this update BF asked for a date again and he got offended and did not respond. I keep asking him everyday to see if he ever gives me an answer. BF said he doesn't have the patience and will be staying with his friend until my brother moves out. Now, I find myself pressuring him to move out and it sickens me. I do not want to kick him out and turn into him! What do I do?
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**EDIT- UPDATE** \[comment\]([https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/hvgeun/update\_aita\_if\_i\_kick\_my\_brother\_30m\_the\_golden/ggq7yap/?utm\_source=share&utm\_medium=ios\_app&utm\_name=iossmf&context=3](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/hvgeun/update_aita_if_i_kick_my_brother_30m_the_golden/ggq7yap/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf&context=3)) FOUND BY u/yogurtcloset8271
My brother moved into his new house. He says he is still paying for his new furniture. He even invited us for dinner. I am still with my BF and we are so happy just as the two of us. My mother on the other hand is upset that I 'kicked him out' before the corona vaccine. Everything is fine. It is a happy ending. :D
Thank you u/yogurtcloset8271 !
MARKING IT CONCLUSIVE!
\*\*BONUS POST\*\* (recovered on UNDDIT) - posted on August 31, 2021
\[Uncle thinks it was my fault that I was attacked by a stranger after his daughter's wedding\]([https://camas.unddit.com/#{%22author%22:%22uhmdontknowwhattosay%22,%22searchFor%22:1,%22resultSize%22:100}](https://camas.unddit.com/#%7B%22author%22:%22uhmdontknowwhattosay%22,%22searchFor%22:1,%22resultSize%22:100%7D))
TL;DR: I (28/F) was attacked by a stranger after my cousin's (38/F) wedding, now cousin's father (72/M) thinks it was my fault and doesn't speak to me.
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2022-11-04T21:54:07 | My father is dating a woman 33 years younger than him and I am shocked. | CONCLUDED | **I am NOT OP. Original post by u/fit_psychology9873 in r/offmychest**
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[**My father is dating a woman 33 years younger than him and I am shocked.**](https://www.reddit.com/r/offmychest/comments/ybrg2c/my_father_is_dating_a_woman_33_years_younger_than/) - 23 October 2022
Throw away account because my extended family frequents my other account, and they do know know about the situation. I F27 got into a heated argument with my dad M58 and his girlfriend F25. I knew my dad had been seeing a new woman for a couple months I had not meant her till three moths ago. She is only 25 and however it does make me vary uncomfortable with the 33 year age gap and I can’t really fathom what they have in common, they are both adults and can decide what they want for themselves.
The first time me and my brother M22 met her we were both shocked. My brother expressed his displeasure with them dating but my father said he loves her and he will not be braking up with her. Me and my brother realized this was something we would have to accept because he will not listen to our reasoning.
I have been back home for a couple days because my brother is settling into a new apartment so I took a couple days off work to help him settle in. While I was home my dad said that me and my boyfriend could stay with him. We had got there when my dad was at work and his girlfriend was in school.
Later that night while my boyfriend was picking up dinner she approached me when I was sitting in the couch with my dad and asked me if I would sleep in separate room form my boyfriend because it made her uncomfortable if I did not.
I asked her why and she said she did not want us having sex in her home. I was shocked I told her that me and my boyfriend have are own apartment and we are not 16 we know how to control ourselves. She said the thought still made her uncomfortable. I told her to stop thinking about me and my boyfriend having sex and that just because she’s riding my dads dick does not make her my mother.
My dad told me to not get an attitude and I couldn’t talk to her like that. I lost my shit that he was taking her side. I told him that he’s been a grown adult longer then she’s been alive and I’m his child she’s not my mom I’m older then her I’m not going to take disrespect.
I left the room, called my boyfriend. He said he was almost there. Once he got there we got our stuff and left. We are staying in a hotel for the next couple days as we help my brother settle in.
I truly need to get this off my chest. I find it disgusting that they’re dating. I’m thinking about going no contact with my dad but I don’t know if I’d be in the wrong to do that because he is grown and he can make his own choices. I’m just so conflicted.
**Small update:**
After yesterday and reading all your comments this morning. Instead of cutting contact with my dad I am going to go out to lunch with him and talk to him and tell him why it makes me uncomfortable, but ultimately it’s his choice. Thank you all for the support and suggestions on what to do. I will let you all know how it goes.
**Official update:**
Me and my dad went to lunch to talk about the whole situation. I told him I think that she is just with him for the money. My dad told me he knows this but he really likes her and he is okay with that because he has more then enough to spend. I told him in the end it is his money the relationship does make me uncomfortable that he’s dating someone younger than me and someone his son could date, but in the end it is his life.
He asked me to just be nice and give her a try, I let him know that I’ll play nice if she doesn’t try and play mom again. I told him I was uncomfortable with her trying to superstate me and my boyfriend that I’ve been with for 7 years.
I told him know that if he ever asked us to sleep in separate rooms that I would completely do it because it’s his house but she didn’t pay any bills. I apologized for coming off disrespectful that night to her and to him but that was really it. I don’t like their relationship, but they are both grown I can’t stop them.
Thank you all again for the support of the situation. I am gonna have my brother talk to him without her there so he could express his feelings of them being together cause I feel like he needs to get it out. As long as he’s happy I can’t do anything.
To the people saying that he might be grooming or abusing her, I don’t think my dad would do that, but I also didn’t think he would date a girl this young I will keep an eye on it, but I truly don’t think he’s that kind of man.
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**Reminder - I am not the original poster.** | toohottooheavy | /r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/ymbm2u/my_father_is_dating_a_woman_33_years_younger_than/ | ymbm2u | 4,667 | 6,453 | [
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2022-11-05T00:27:16 | Neighbor cut down OOP's tree without permission | CONCLUDED | I AM NOT OOP. Original OP is u/Thetechguru_net in r/treelaw
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[Original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/treelaw/comments/k9k3d0/neighbor_had_my_sweet_gum_cut_down/)
Ok, tree law fans, I have an issue and some questions on how to best proceed while I wait for an arborist to call me back to see if I can get a value from photographs and dimensions of a tree that was removed from my property.
Here is the story:
About a year and a half ago (it was spring or early summer) my elderly (turns 80 tomorrow) neighbor came to my door and said "That tree (pointing towards one near the street, in his yard - actually county owned) is dropping stuff on my driveway, what are you going to do about it"? (it is some non-native tree and does drop something that I wouldn't call berries, but leaves brown stains).
I pointed to the tree that he indicated, and said "That one? That is your tree. You can do whatever you want on your property". He insisted it was mine, so I walked out into the yard, and showed him that the property line is obvious because we have a fence in the backyard and said "this tree is yours" pointing at the one on the street, and "this tree is mine" pointing to the one obviously on my side of the property line. A 65' tall, 30" diameter sweet gum.
He said "Oh, OK" and walked away.
Although we have always been friendly, we have not really talked with these neighbors in several years, except, ironically enough the previous year when they asked who I had used as a tree service to remove a dead tree and trim my others, and I suspected the confusion was either alcohol induced, because before he built a back deck, I usually saw him on the front steps with a glass of whisky in his hand, or that possibly he was starting to suffer from dementia. (sorry about the run on sentence and all the parenthetical statements. I type like I talk when I am upset).
Fast forward to today, and I see the tree company is doing some work in front of their house, but I figure they are just trimming, or maybe taking a somewhat sickly maple out of the front yard. From my home office, I can't really see into their yard, and certainly can't see my tree which is close to the front of the opposite end of the house. However, I heard a loud boom, and when I looked out I could see a large limb that could not have come from their little maple, and the angle shows it must have been from my tree.
I ran outside to see what was happening. I know they are completely within their rights to trim any overhang on their side, and although I would not have been happy because it would have been almost half the crown, if that was what they did, I would have not said anything. However, when I got outside, all the limbs had been removed, and they were half-way done cutting down the entire tree.
I yelled at the tree service guys that they were cutting down my tree, and the crew chief said "We asked her, and she said you gave permission".
I took photographs to document what was going on, and then went to talk to the neighbors. She was quite defensive and insisted I had given permission. He (her husband) had told her that he asked if I would pay half to have the tree removed, and I had said, no, but do what you want it is your tree" (not what I said at all, and he never mentioned anything about sharing cost, which I would have refused, I love that tree, and it provides nice cooling shade to my bedroom, and a good vantage point to see birds that roost or even nest right by my window.... I know, that will be hard to value legally though). It turns out, it wasn't the little brown splotches on their driveway that they had an issue with, but the gum balls that land on their walk and driveway and that now that they are elderly and don't see as well, they often step on and slip. After we talked for a while, and her husband said, yeah, I kind of remember that conversation, they apologized profusely, but made no offer to make it right, and still complained that the gum balls were a hazard and that they were upset I had refused to pay for half of the removal (again, never was asked, would have told them to cut the limbs on their property line if I had been..... if the tree didn't survive that, then it would be my problem).
So, finally after all that (sorry). I am looking for some questions of liability. The homeowners made a mistake, and I like them. I don't really want to sue, but I also am upset at losing my tree. Should I stop talking with them and get a lawyer, or should I ask them to plant as mature a tree as possible to replace it (doesn't need to be a sweet gum as I understand their concern) and only bring in a lawyer if they refuse?
Does the tree service have any liability here since they only asked her if they had permission and did not confirm with me, even though I was home so it would have only taken a minute to check? I think they do. I also don't really want to sue them, since they are actually the service I use and historically one of the best in the area. Should I discuss it with them, or again, do I need a lawyer to intercede.
Should I wait for an arborist estimate before doing anything else, or should I be working in parallel.
Since what I really want is a semi-mature tree, even if the removed tree has significant wood value, should that be my initial approach, or should I go in full bore on the value of the tree, and settle for what I really want once they understand that it is likely a bargain (I don't know what sweetgum values are. I tried to research on my own, but could not really find anything. I do know they are used for veneer, and less valuable than oak, but I really don't know if this is a $200 case or a $40,000 case of property damage.
Since this occurred on my property, but was directed by my next door neighbor, would either of our homeowner's insurance be involved? I don't want to cause hardship on the neighbor, but if their insurance would cover it after deductible, I have no problem with that.
Thanks in advance for any advice.
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[Update](https://www.reddit.com/r/treelaw/comments/m7rvfr/update_neighbor_had_my_sweet_gum_cut_down/)
As I mentioned in the original post, I got a referral from the Maryland Bar Association to a real-estate lawyer who didn't seem particularly knowledgeable in tree law or terribly interested in taking the case on, but he did advise me, as did everyone here, to get an arborist to do an appraisal and not to talk to the neighbors about any settlement without legal advise. He did say I could file a claim with the tree service's insurance, but that they would probably say they were acting as my neighbor's agent and tell me to pound sand.
So, the search for an arborist began... I called a number of local arborists, and each said they don't really do this kind of assessment, but each one gave me the name of someone else who might. Each of them, then also referred me elsewhere until I reached a larger company that told me what I should be looking for was a "Consulting Arborist". They gave me two names of local ones, and the web site for their national organization: https://www.asca-consultants.org/default.aspx
I reached one, and it turns out that he literally wrote the book on tree law "Tree Law Cases in the USA (originally published in 2000; Second Edition published in 2007)". Over the phone, from my description he indicated even though it was a sweetgum which has low lumber value, if it was in good condition, then as a shade tree it added value to my property and was worth his fairly expensive fee ($550) for an assessment.
Based on pictures (thank you Google Street View. Pictures from just last year) and the stump size, he calculated my loss of value at $10K and replacement cost of a sapling and stump removal of $2K (if the tree had been an oak instead of a sweetgum, the lumber value would have applied as well, and the loss would have been in the $70K to $100K range a maple of that size (which would be unheard of in this area, but just as an exercise, would have been $2-300K). He also recommended a lawyer he has worked with who has had good success in this area.
I contacted the lawyer and he was happy to take the case on. We started with a demand letter to the neighbor. He agreed with the other lawyer that the tree company would claim they acted as an agent, but said if we wound up in court, we would include them in the case and let the judge sort it out, and we did send them a demand letter as well for good measure. As expected, they told us to pound sand (in nicer language). He did explain to me that although Maryland does allow for treble damages, in reality that only applies to truly egregious cases. If the neighbor had waited until I wasn't home and cut down all the trees near our property line, of if I was a commercial grower they would apply, but the likelihood in this situation where they thought they had permission but were incorrect, it would be unlikely to be awarded, so our demand letter was just for our $12K loss.
After some back and forth over the past couple of months, which included my lawyer educating theirs on the risk of treble damages if we were to go to court, we settled for $9K and an agreement that we would not pursue the tree service (I suspect the neighbors are going to try to subrogate their expense by going after the tree service themselves for not properly advising them of their options).
I deposited the check yesterday, and in a few weeks will have the stump removed, and later this summer after the Cicada Invasion is over, will plant a new sapling.
Thank you to all who advised me here. | fannyrosebottom | /r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/ymf5se/neighbor_cut_down_oops_tree_without_permission/ | ymf5se | 9,604 | 6,503 | [
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2022-11-05T13:58:06 | Husband (34M) got weird about physical affection from me (36F) and things escalated very badly | REPOST | **I am NOT OP. Original post by u/spritelymango in r/relationship_advice**
trigger warning: >!mentions of abuse!<
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[**Husband (34M) got weird about physical affection from me (36F) and things escalated very badly**](https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/qf6fdq/husband_34m_got_weird_about_physical_affection/) - 25 October 2021
My (36F) husband (34M), married for two years and together for five altogether, used to be very affectionate with each other in a way that was playful, flirty and warm. A couple months ago he decided I was too "clingy" and that he wanted to be the one to initiate all physical contact from then on. (I do not think I was/am clingy. I initiated hugs and kisses a few times a day with a few other casual touches like a hand on the shoulder, but was very far from groping him every second.)
I know he has also been coming to terms with some issues from a difficult childhood at that time (not physical abuse, more emotional abandonment/alienation issues with his parents) so I wanted to give him space and not make this about me, especially as he promised to continue being regularly affectionate.
And he has done so, maybe a bit less than before but we still have some affectionate touches (initiated by him) every day and more intimate activities a couple times a week (used to be more like 3-4 times a week, but again, I know he is going through some stuff).
A few days ago, I found out at work I had gotten a big promotion and bonus. When I got home I was so excited that I threw my arms around him, thereby violating his rule that he needed to be the one to initiate contact.
He immediately pushed me away and got extremely angry. (It was not a sexual hug at all, more like the kind you see sports team members giving each other when they win a big game.) I tried to apologize but he started yelling about how I am an abuser and traumatized him. He asked me to leave (I quickly packed a few things and went to a motel not wanting things to escalate further).
I understand from his brother that after I left he tried to go to the police to press charges but they said that a quick hug from one's wife, even if not really wanted/expected, was not the kind of thing they are going to prosecute. He is now threatening to call my employer to tell them I am am abuser who engages in sexual misconduct in my personal life.
I am NOT asking for legal advice about that here - what I am asking is, honestly, would he be justified in telling my employer about what happened? I did make a terrible mistake even if it wasn't malicious. I believe people are allowed to determine that they don't want others to initiate touch and should have bodily autonomy. Just because I wouldn't be traumatized over a hug doesn't mean he shouldn't be.
I am willing to accept that he may very well divorce me over this and that I may lose other important friendships and family relationships. But should I also lose my job? (My job is working with other adults in an office, not vulnerable people. I don't and have never initiated physical contact with coworkers except an occasional handshake or accepting a high-five.)
TL;DR: After getting great news I excitedly hugged my husband without consent (he requires being the one to initiate all physical contact). He was so upset he tried to press charges and now wants to tell my employer I abused him and I am seeking opinions about whether that is justified from an accountability perspective (not legal advice).
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[**Update: Husband (36M) got weird about physical affection from me (34F) and things escalated badly**](https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/qi0pty/update_husband_36m_got_weird_about_physical/) - 29 October 2021
So - things came to a head, but not in the way I was expecting. My husband's brother (BIL) continued to stay with him while I stayed at a hotel. After a couple days, I got a call from (BIL) asking me to come home so that we could all talk (he assured me I would be safe). Turns out - my husband has been having an affair with an intern at his company (21F) and is deeply in love and wants to be with her (he told BIL this shortly after I left).
He wanted to make me the bad guy so first started with the "no touching" rule figuring I would get fed up with it, or that eventually I would make a mistake and he could use that to claim I was an abuser (that is what happened) so that I would be the bad guy. It was also a way to reduce intimacy of all types with me while he was falling out of love with me and in love with his affair partner.
So, he made up the stuff about trauma flaring up, and isn't actually having a psychotic break, although obviously has some level of mental problems to do something so cruel.
For what it's worth, he did apologize - sort of. Said he was just "so in love" with the other woman and couldn't deal with hurting me directly by leaving me right away (?!) so came up with this plan. And just got a little too caught up "in character" when I gave him the mistaken hug with calling me an abuser, making a police report and threatening my job.
We sat down and talked about everything (with BIL as mediator) and agreed to a cordial and quick divorce. Dividing assets 50/50. Thankfully no pets or kids. I know I could probably make things harder for him under the circumstances, but I really just want to move on as soon as possible and put this all behind me. I have a good job/income and don't need anything from him other than my freedom, ASAP.
I appreciate everyone who commented (and all who sent me messages, apologies for not responding personally to everyone but was a bit overwhelmed). Even though things went in an unexpected direction, it was so helpful to see that what was happening wasn't normal and also helped me to prepare for the truth when it came out. Thank you.
TL;DR: My (34F) husband (36M) said he was dealing with trauma and made rules about my not being allowed to initiate touching him anymore. Followed the rules perfectly for a couple months but slipped up and hugged him excitedly after getting a promotion, after which he accused me of abusing/assaulting him. Turns out he was just having an affair and wanted to find a way to make me the bad guy in the marriage ending. Everything is out in the open now and we are getting a divorce. It's relatively cordial under the circumstances and I'm feeling okay for now but will probably need a lot of therapy in the long-term.
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**Reminder - I am not the original poster.** | toohottooheavy | /r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/ymup6i/husband_34m_got_weird_about_physical_affection/ | ymup6i | 6,555 | 16,369 | [
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2022-11-05T15:54:40 | OOP - AITA for telling my fiancé we should call the wedding off if she doesn't approve of my female best man? | CONCLUDED | **I am NOT OP. Original post by** u/MyGroomsmansAGirl **in** r/AmItheAsshole
trigger warnings: >!Infidelity!<
mood spoilers: >!Sad but good for OOP!<
[**AITA for telling my fiance we should call the wedding off if she doesn't approve of my female best man?**](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/gw6m86/aita_for_telling_my_fiance_we_should_call_the/) \- 4th June 2020
Throwaway cause I don't want people seeing my personal shit on my main account.
So, I (28, M) proposed to my girlfriend Jasmin (24, F) in March.
Earlier this week she and I were talking about wedding plans and she already picked out who her bridesmaids were gonna be and was questioning me about my groomsmen to see who'd walk with who and all that.
I told her who I wanted and let her know that my "best man" was actually going to be my friend Kate (27, F). Jasmin kind of freaked and was really adamant about her not being the BM. I asked her why and she listed off a lot of reasons, none of which I believe. She said it'll look weird in the photos, it'll be weird when Kate has to walk down the aisle with her maid of honor, that she doesn't want Kate to be distracting to guests, that Kate's too short (wtf?) to stand next to a bunch of 6ft+ guys. The reasons were ridiculous, and I told her as much. She told me I should respect her wishes for the wedding and gave me suggestions for other BMs. I know the real reason might be jealousy, but I don't want to just drop it and go along with her insecurities.
We ended up getting into a big argument. Jas was upset that I wasn't budging on my stance and I was mad she was acting so irrational. She was being really accusatory about why I wanted Kate in the wedding so bad. I finally told her if she doesn't want to let me have this one thing maybe there shouldn't be a wedding at all. She got really angry and told me to just leave our apartment. I've been couch surfing at a friend's for the past couple days (not Kate). Last time I tried to talk to Jas she asked if I was ready to apologize and I said no, cause I don't want her to think she was right about forbidding me from letting Kate be in the wedding.
And before anyone asks, no, Kate and I have never been sexual or romantic. She's been one of my closest friends and introduced me to my current social circle (I used to be an awkward nerdy guy who had trouble making friends, now I'm an awkward nerdy guy with a social life).
We survived grad school together and she's been with me through high and low parts of life and it seems insane to not include her in my wedding. Jas and Kate know each other but aren't friends, and over time Jas got used to me having a close female friend without being jealous/mistrusting, or so I thought.
AITA?
Edit: I should mention, Jasmin has never acted this way before and is usually pretty easy going and understanding. And she didn't so much as "kick me out" as she said "well maybe you should just go then" and I called her bluff and left. She tried to get me to come back (and also apologize) but we're both hard headed when it comes to what we want. I don't want to call off the wedding and I get why Jas was upset by me saying we should, but I wanted her to know how serious I was.
Edit 2: No idea if anyone will read this. I didn't want to make a whole update post since its only been a day but anyways. I went back home today after cooling off and Jas and I had a long talk and I'm not going into the details.
Tl;dr - We're not calling off the wedding, but we're gonna talk about this more and try to come up with a mutual solution. No idea what that is yet. And just to address a few things I've seen a lot of:
* No, Kate is not single.
* Jas and Kate are friendly, but they aren't friends. I'm not very close to any of Jas's friends either.
* Kate and I have known each other for almost seven years. I've been with Jas for 2.
* I am not attracted to Kate and we're not going to run off into the sunset together. Stop watching bad romcoms.
* Its 2020. I can be friends with a woman without wanting to sleep with her.
* I'm not "choosing another woman" over Jas. If Kate were a man and Jas didn't want him in the wedding, I'd have a right to be pissed. But since Kate's a woman suddenly I don't love my fiancee enough? That's bullshit.
* Oh and if you've implied I'm gonna have an affair/already cheated? Fuck off.
**Verdict - NTA (Not the A-hole)**
[**UPDATE**](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ibiaid/update_aita_for_telling_my_fianc%C3%A9e_we_should_call/) \- 17th August 2020
The original post has been removed and I’m not sure why, I didn’t have any messages about it. The TLDR is I have a friend, Kate, and I wanted her to be my best man. My fiancée disapproved and we got into a fight about it.
My fiancée and I ended up making up and reconciling a few days later. We were talking compromises and it was still a touchy subject but I thought it was going good and we’d recover. I wish I could leave it at that.
She’s now my ex-fiancée. A little over two weeks after our fight a friend of Jas contacted me. She told me Jasmin had been venting to her friends over the Kate situation and she couldn’t keep quiet any longer because it wasn’t fair to me. This friend sent me messages between Jasmin and them where Jasmin is essentially talking about not trusting me and Kate and saying some pretty derogatory things about her. If that was it I’d be angry but not furious. Long story short, the conversation turns into some confusing conversation I didn’t have much context for, but I got the gist. The friend that sent me the messages filled me in with what she knew.
Basically Jas had an affair before we got engaged. It had allegedly been just one time with some guy she doesn’t talk to anymore, but I don’t know what to believe. Based on the messages it seems like that was the case. Apparently all of her friends knew about this and I was being played the whole time.
I talked to Jas and she denied it but I told her I didn’t care, she needed to leave. She was throwing a fit and refused to, so I left my own home again because of her. Told her I’d tell everyone what she did if she didn’t pack up her shit and go by the time I returned. It worked, two days later I came back and she was gone. She’s tried contacting me to “set things right” but I’m not interested. She can keep the ring for all I care at this point, I just don’t want to see her yet.
I felt so stupid and worthless and embarrassed. I didn’t tell anyone the reason we broke it off. No idea what Jas is telling people, and I don’t care. The past month and a half has been a nightmare, but I’ve been slowly recovering my pride, and I’m trying to convince myself what she did was her own fault, not mine. It works about half the time.
And because I know some of you are going to ask because you think this is some shitty fucking romcom, I didn’t go running to Kate. I’ve hardly spoken to her or anyone else for a while now. I’ve been enjoying quarantine and being left alone.
That’s my final update on the situation, those of you who said Jas was being paranoid because she had something to hide can go pat yourselves on the back.
**Reminder - I am not the original poster.** | raredontstare | /r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/ymxvfy/oop_aita_for_telling_my_fiancé_we_should_call_the/ | ymxvfy | 7,247 | 5,631 | [
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2022-11-05T16:08:13 | AITA for altering my wedding dress into a functional dress instead of giving it to my sister who can't afford it? | REPOST | [deleted] | [deleted] | /r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/ymy8o5/aita_for_altering_my_wedding_dress_into_a/ | ymy8o5 | 9 | 5,145 | [
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2022-11-05T16:53:17 | I disinvited my adopted sister from my wedding, and I don’t think we will ever speak to each other again. I’m heartbroken. | CONCLUDED | **I am NOT OP. Original post by u/thorwawayyyyyythro in r/trueoffmychest**
trigger warning: >!mentions of miscarriages!<
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[**I disinvited my adopted sister from my wedding, and I don’t think we will ever speak to each other again. I’m heartbroken.**](https://www.reddit.com/r/TrueOffMyChest/comments/ycq19b/i_disinvited_my_adopted_sister_from_my_wedding/) - 25 October 2022
I am the youngest of two children. My parents always wanted a big family, but they had a string of miscarriages. So they turned to adoption. They had a baby girl through a closed adoption. 7 months after they adopted my sister, they conceived me. My parents said I was their miracle baby.
For context, my parents and I are white. My sister is Hispanic and Black.
Growing up, my sister and I were best friends. We did everything together, and people said we acted like twins. We stayed best friends into adulthood, until she found her biological family.
At first, I was happy for her. My sister always said that she felt like something was missing, and finding her family seemed to be the missing piece. But then she started to treat my parents differently. She would constantly berate them for choosing to adopt, because she said adoption, especially trans-racial adoption, was wrong. She said that the experience was traumatizing to her, and that she wasn’t properly prepared for being a POC due to their color blindness.
I stayed out of it, because her relationship with my parents wasn’t my business. But when she made my mom cry after a particularly cruel remark, I started distancing myself from her. For context, she said that they should have gotten therapy for their infertility, instead of becoming baby snatchers.
Even though we weren’t friends anymore, I couldn’t imagine severing the relationship. And I definitely couldn’t imagine disinviting her from my wedding. She was the one who introduced me to my fiancé after all. So I told myself that she was my sister no matter what, and kept her as my maid of honor.
I changed my mind after she posted a picture of herself with her biological siblings. She captioned it, “It’s been such a relief to find my real family. I finally feel like I’m home.”
I was beyond upset. I never, ever thought of her as anything less than my sister. But apparently, I was never a sister to her. I didn’t trust myself to call her, so I sent a text. “Since you don’t see me as your real sister, there’s no reason for you and -her boyfriend’s name here- to come to my wedding.”
I blocked her number after that. She blocked me on everything in response. Our mutual friends are telling me that she's calling me a racist. I don’t think there’s any way to come back from this. I’m heartbroken about losing my sister. And I’m heartbroken that I never had one in the first place.
**Edit 1:**
Please stop insulting her in the comments.
**Edit 2:**
Someone asked for context about the miracle baby comment, and a different commenter said I should add the response to the post.
“It makes both of us super uncomfortable. My parents think adopting my sister put my mom in the “right state of mind” to successfully carry a baby. They’ve called my sister the best thing to ever happen to them, because she not only gave them a child, but a whole family.”
**Edit 3:**
We talked this morning. One of our mutual friends asked me to unblock my sister on her behalf. I called her and we had a long conversation about everything.
I apologized for blocking and disinviting her without talking to her first. She apologized for being hurtful in the post. She is going to delete the posts calling me a racist, and publicly apologize for calling me one. We agreed to keep each other blocked on social media, because it will only lead to hurt feelings otherwise. She is still coming to my wedding, but not as the maid of honor.
We’re not back to where we were, but my sister says that this is a good thing. Now that we got all our feelings out into the open, we can build a healthier and stronger relationship
Thank you for all the DMs. They helped me articulate myself while also staying sympathetic to her point of view.
**Edit 4:**
Update. The people telling me not to reconcile were right.
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[**Update: I disinvited my adopted sister from my wedding, and I don’t think we will ever speak to each other again.**](https://www.reddit.com/r/TrueOffMyChest/comments/ygk99v/update_i_disinvited_my_adopted_sister_from_my/) - 29 October 2022
After my last post, I got comments and DM’s saying that I shouldn’t have reconciled with her. I should have listened.
Yesterday, my parents offered to treat us to dinner. I couldn’t make it, but my sister decided to go. From what my mom told me, the topic of my sister’s adoption came up. They got into a fight about it in the middle of a crowded restaurant.
It ended after my sister said that my parents should have accepted that their miscarriages were a sign from God that they weren’t meant to be parents. For context, my parents are very religious. Growing up, they told us that God got them through the heartbreak of those miscarriages.
My parents aren’t perfect, but they didn’t deserve that. Nobody does. I’m tired of making excuses for my sister. I’m tired of being sympathetic to her trauma when she weaponizes it to hurt others. I’m done. I should have been done after the baby snatching comment.
She’s not in my life anymore, and I’m trying to convince my parents to do the same. I sent her one final text that said, “I can’t believe you would say that to mom. What the fuck is wrong with you? Don’t contact me again. Go be with your “real” family, and leave us the hell alone.”
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**Reminder - I am not the original poster.** | toohottooheavy | /r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/ymzh8d/i_disinvited_my_adopted_sister_from_my_wedding/ | ymzh8d | 5,744 | 17,405 | [
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2022-11-05T18:58:43 | WIBTA for not attending my best friend's wedding after she told me she doesn't want me to be in any photos but still wants me to be MOH? | CONCLUDED | This one really caught my attention a few days ago. I sorted through the comments and included the ones with helpful information. Most of the updates are included on the original post written in r/AITA, but there is also a final comment in r/bridezillas that I also included. I don't think there are any trigger warnings, but let me know if I should add any.
**I am not OOP. OOP is** [u/ColdAlfalfa1554](https://www.reddit.com/user/ColdAlfalfa1554/). **Congratulations on your miracle baby OOP!!!**
Mood Spoiler: >!OOP makes the right choice!<
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**Original** [Post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/yeh83x/wibta_for_not_attending_my_best_friends_wedding/)**: (October 26, 2022)**
My (F27) best friend (F27) is getting married in February. She has been planning her wedding for 2 years and I have been actively helping her the entire time as her maid of honor. I am extremely excited for her to get married, but she is slightly controlling. She's the kind of girl that has to have everything perfect or it's completely ruined. But her wedding, her rules.
Well, I found out I was pregnant at the beginning of October and am due toward the end of June. This is my first baby and I have struggled heavily with fertility issues so this is a literal miracle baby. My husband and I had literally just given up hope in trying for a little while this past summer. I will be in my second trimester during the time of her wedding. Well, I told my best friend last week and she seemed... upset. She wasn't too happy that I was pregnant and her first question is if I would fit in my bridesmaid dress. The dress is extremely flowy and I told her that I should be just fine, and if not I'll cover the cost of any alternations/buying another dress (I bought my dress in the first place anyways). Like literally her first question, not even congratulations.
I tried to shrug it off and just assumed she was stressed. Her bachelorette party is next month (I've been exclusively planning it) so I just reached out with the final details to her to confirm everything. During the phone call she tried to make me feel bad that I wouldn't be drinking with the rest of them and that it wouldn't be the "bach party of her dreams" and I told her it would still be fun. That upset me even more, but I just tried to shrug it off once again.
Today she called and told me she had a "hard decision" to make but she's been thinking about it and while she would like to keep me MOH she doesn't want me in her pictures. She said that my bump would be too distracting, she didn't want her pictures to turn into a "maternity photoshoot" and that she just didn't feel comfortable with it. However, she still wanted me to pay for the bachelorette party, help her plan the wedding, and wanted me to do almost everything MOH except be in pictures and she was debating if she still wanted me to give a speech. She then sent me a bunch of bag-like dresses to choose from as my new dress since I won't need my MOH dress.
We have been best friends since we were 10. I would have never in my wildest dreams expected her to act this way. WIBTA for dropping out of her wedding? I really don't feel like paying for, and being supportive of, a person who treats me like a disposable mooch after years of fertility issues. But I also feel like I may be overreacting as some of my friends said that I would look odd in the pictures. Thoughts?
**Relevant Comments: (same post)**
*Regarding the absurdity of turning it into a "maternity shoot:"*
"That was the absolute most hurtful comment to me. Her photographer is my friend (I'm the one who introduced them!) and I think she believes since the photographer knows me that they'll focus on me more than her. I cannot explain how I'm close enough to this photographer that if I wanted pictures she would take them for me on a random Tuesday night if I wanted. My friend is not going to risk her literal career over my pregnancy and I'm not going to ruin her photographs because I'll have a small little baby bump.
ALSO ALSO ALSO at my wedding, I DID have a photo shoot of just her and me replicating photos of our childhood (we are both only children so I thought it would be a sweet almost sister-like thing). She suggested it and I loved the idea so I paid extra to set up two separate scenarios of us to commemorate the moment. I never felt like it took away from my day and I love those pictures, it took at most 15 minutes and my husband was our hype man in the background. I never even suggested or even planned on suggesting we get pictures of me pregnant or just my belly or whatever she was thinking. I don't know who she thinks I'm randomly going to become pregnant but it hurts my feelings so deeply."
*Regarding the drinking comment early on:*
"In retrospect, I should have been more off-put about the drinking comment. Idk I just thought to myself that she was upset because we were known for our party days and I was going to allow her to mourn that, but to shame me for not drinking after trying for years for a baby was... weird. Like what response was I supposed to give? Sure because you're upset I will now drink! Too bad for my poor miracle baby!
Also, I'm still incredibly fun not drinking. She knows I can have a good time either way. Sorry, just thinking out loud in the comments haha."
*When gently told to just back out:*
"I am mostly so scared to lose our friendship. I have no siblings and she has been like a sister to me for nearly 18 years. I keep trying to justify her behavior or find a way out of this without wrecking the friendship and I don't know what to do."
*About the other friends:*
"I'll be honest, a lot of them are her college friends/co-workers that I have nicknamed her "yes men" and she knows I do. They weirdly worship her and will hang on to her every word. She runs a really successful business so I know WHY they do, but it's still so weird to me lol. There's one other girl from HS on there that we are both friends with who is on my side 100% (aka why should I not be MOH because I might have a small baby bump) and I've been talking to about how to go about this, but I don't want to make her give up such a long-running friendship either so I told her not to worry and that I would work it out. She can make whatever decision she wants, but I don't want her to feel forced to give up a friendship over an argument that doesn't have to do with her."
*Commenter tells her to read this and then think of what she would say if this were a friend and not herself:*
"Right before I read this comment my husband asked me to do this hahahahaha (he is very much supportive of a full-on cut-off from her but respects my decision). It uh... definitely hurt and opened my eyes. I think I let things slide too easily for me but I know how I absolutely wouldn't let this happen if this was my husband and child situation. And technically my child IS in this situation. I've taken this more as an offense to me but I'm starting to realize how it's a hit to my baby."
*More about the bride: (This was technically posted after the next update but I thought it fit here)*
**"**To be honest, this is kind of how her behavior is. She grew up extremely spoiled and wealthy (and I did not) so I think some of our friendship has been me justifying her actions because her parents just "never said no." When we went off to college our freshman year, she literally moved off campus for half a semester because her roommate in her dorm made a joke about her major. I remember at the time thinking "that's extreme but that's just my bff!" and laughing, but that is very much her personality. When she is great and everything is going perfectly, she is fantastic and the best person in the entire world. When things get a little dicey, she tends to be a little less great bordering on mean. However, her actions have never been toward me. I should have probably known that one day it would get there but since we had 17 years of basically argument-free friendship, I just thought she would always be the person that sticks up for me and I would always be the person that evens her out/calms her down."
**First Update in** [comments](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/yeh83x/wibta_for_not_attending_my_best_friends_wedding/ityhkae/?context=3)**: (October 26, 2022)**
"I'm going to bed now but I've collected my thoughts enough to know that I'm going to call her tomorrow and have a very blunt conversation, hopefully I can get her in person. I'm either in her pictures as MOH with the dress I have or I'm not in her wedding/attending at all. I'll also be speaking about how her actions have made me feel and how her lack of excitement about my pregnancy (despite me holding 110% enthusiasm for 2 years for her wedding because I am excited for her, but also because I know it makes me feel good to have people excited for her) has deeply wounded me. I know it's going to be a friendship-altering conversation and I am not excited to have it, but I will let you know what ends up happening. Thank you all for the support and kind words. I normally am a very anti-confrontation/water off a duck's back kinda person, but all these comments telling me I deserve better have been very encouraging."
**Second Update: (Same post, October 27 2022)**
I want to first say a big thank you to all the wonderful comments of congratulations and support. I often try to be very level-headed about things, sometimes to the detriment of myself, and also still wanted to be a part of the day since she is my best friend and we have grown together for so long. I am someone who really values integrity and I felt like if I dropped out, I would be betraying a core value of mine. And many many many people reached out to me for an update, so here it is:
I sat down with her and had a very long and blunt talk. I even brought out the post to show her that I am not crazy about some of the points I made. I told her about how deeply my feelings were hurt by her words and actions. I told her I couldn't understand why I couldn't be a full MOH and be included in pictures. If I were to be fully honest, she almost convinced me that the whole idea of just keeping me as MOH but with no pictures was for my benefit. She told me it was to take the "stress" off of me for the day and to make sure I didn't feel uncomfortable with my "new weight" but I knew it wasn't true. I knew she just didn't want me to be in her wedding party with a baby bump but wanted my money and planning expertise (I've withheld this information but I am a wedding planner with many connections, however, I wouldn't cut any of them off due to a falling out. I am not planning her wedding as I felt it would be too much for me because I would want it to be to a level of perfection I couldn't achieve, but I did hook her up with another planner friend who is incredible but she has utilized me for free a lot). I think I realized all too clearly in almost an instant that the second she got engaged that our friendship became a business-partnership to her, whereas it never changed for me. For the past two years, what I thought were friendship-bonding experiences for me I realized were merely free expenses for her.
In the end, I decided to step out of the wedding as MOH. I will be sending all the information I have to our joint friend who is in the wedding party and will still be paying for that friend's portion of the bach party instead of the whole thing, as I know it will put that friend out of money which I feel awful about. I have been uninvited to the wedding as a whole, which was not unexpected. My friend was very angry and upset with the conversation and said some deeply hurtful things that will take me a long time to recover from. To say I am devastated is an understatement, as I expected this woman to be the godmother of my child. But I feel extremely relieved to have discovered this before the birth of my child. Now my baby's life will be filled with people who love them unconditionally. and the same goes for me.
Once again, thank you all. I appreciate your assurances and help more than you will ever know!
**Relevant** [comment](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/yeh83x/wibta_for_not_attending_my_best_friends_wedding/iu38ahb/?context=3) **regarding the update: (October 28, same post)**
*Why OOP is paying for the one friend:*
"I promise I am only paying for my one friend who is not the bride! The price is *significantly* lower, and if my friend (who is debating on even staying in the wedding party) goes the trip would be a huge unexpected cost to her that I can't have that weighing on my heart. She is in a very overworked and undervalued profession that rarely gets a break, so I'm taking it as a way to give her a well-deserved paid vacation since I know I planned a kick-ass bachelorette party. If she doesn't go, I think we're going to plan our own girl's trip at an all-inclusive resort for a little TLC since she already has the days off! Either way, it's a win for her! I personally will be using the week either way to get a massage and maybe a small get-away with my husband. We're working out the details!"
**OOP added further information after her story was** [posted](https://www.reddit.com/r/bridezillas/comments/yfh0es/wibta_for_not_attending_my_best_friends_wedding/iu7zh4v/?context=3) **in** r/bridezillas **(October 29, 2022)**
Hi! OP from the post here. After reading all the comments on my post about how my friend was such a "bridezilla" I was advised to check out this sub and saw my post crossposted here haha.
I do know that people use reddit a LOT for creative writing (I've actually never taken to a reddit sub for moral questions like this but I honestly felt so gaslight by the bride and her "yes men" bridesmaids that my request to be in pictures would ruin her whole wedding that I felt actually crazy and didn't know where else to go because it was embarrassing to ask my other friends that knew us) but I can tell you that this is a very true story of a devastating moment in my life. I think I obviously wrote the post in a very black-and-white manner with super basic details, but there is so much nuance to relationships that can't be put into 3k words. I just told the story from my perspective, which in the moment I wrote it was filled with hurt.
But the reason I'm writing this comment is not to tell you to believe me (little creepy for people on the internet to do and also why should you care about my life either way?) but it is to explain me paying for the entire bach party. I grew up extremely poor and got married young (20, we had dated since 15) because my husband and I were excited to start our lives together and didn't really care about the "perfect" wedding at all. To me, weddings are all about feeling and people. We couldn't afford much of anything and I planned my entire wedding and only spent the largest bit of money on the photographer. We literally got married in my bff's family's backyard (it's huge and gorgeous) and my mom's family was kind enough to make all the food and I did all my flowers, DIY decor, etc.
Anyway, this is my long-winded way of saying that I did not even plan or THINK about a party for myself as I was young and couldn't afford it. I had 3 bridesmaids that were in college and we were also all incredibly poor and I didn't want to make them spend anymore money than the dresses for the wedding. My now ex-BFF surprised me with a fully-paid trip for me and all of my bridesmaids to what was honestly my perfect bachelorette party. Thinking about it now still brings me tears and I had no idea she was going to do it. Obviously, her family paid for it, she grew up very wealthy, but the gesture still touches me so deeply. I promised her I would do the same when she got married. I loved planning my own wedding so much I actually changed my major in college to event planning & management and now plan weddings for a career and I love it! And I do pretty well! I could luckily absolutely afford to pay for the entire trip for my bff's bach party like I promised her I would (minus everyone's travel, I'm not paying for 6 plane tickets but I'll absolutely pay for a 3 day stay in a Vrbo easy). It was my gift to her, as she gifted me years ago.
Sorry for the long winded post. I saw a lot of assumptions on the OG post but it was overwhelming to have so many responses to every single comment I posted, as I thought that my post wouldn't get more than like 10 views and maybe a helpful comment. It felt much less daunting to answer it on this forum. Hope this clarifies that for you!
*Another reply*
This happened a few days ago so honestly there has not been much of an update other than what I gave on the post. I told her I wouldn't be her MOH unless I was in pics, she kicked me out of her wedding, and we haven't spoken. To me, our friendship is over and I don't know if there is anything that could be done to restore it. So I don't know if you would call it graceful, but I can confidentially say I am no longer her friend. | LucyAriaRose | /r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/yn2w39/wibta_for_not_attending_my_best_friends_wedding/ | yn2w39 | 17,135 | 6,555 | [
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2022-11-05T19:24:13 | Mom, I need to leave my marriage and feel so broken and scared. | REPOST | **I am NOT OP. Original post by u/saphopotter in r/momforaminute**
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[**Mom, I need to leave my marriage and feel so broken and scared.**](https://www.reddit.com/r/MomForAMinute/comments/f0vtnc/mom_i_need_to_leave_my_marriage_and_feel_so/) - 8 February 2020
I have given him everything I have for the last 4 years, and I am at the end of my rope. I feel like a ghost. A shell of who I used to be. I cried for over and hour at work yesterday.
I'm so scared. But I can't do this anymore. I wish you could hug me and tell me it's going to be okay.
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[**Would it be ridiculous to come out to my parents through Elsa's "Show Yourself"?**](https://www.reddit.com/r/latebloomerlesbians/comments/fdpzhf/would_it_be_ridiculous_to_come_out_to_my_parents/) - 5 March 2020
I'm (27) getting divorced and finally in a place where I never want to hide any part of who I am ever again. I feel like I'm finally learning to love myself and this song definitely captures that feeling, lol.
We're an immigrant family and sometimes it's difficult to communicate because we grew up here and the "values" of my country are much more conservative.
So basically what the title says. Would it be crazy to use it to start the conversation so I can try to show them what a beautiful and exciting journey this is for me?
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[**Went on my first date with a woman yesterday.**](https://www.reddit.com/r/latebloomerlesbians/comments/hkrcdq/went_on_my_first_date_with_a_woman_yesterday/) - 3 July 2020
It was amazing, she's amazing. And I get to see her again today. I feel so giddy.
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[**UPDATE: I went on my first date with a woman yesterday**](https://www.reddit.com/r/latebloomerlesbians/comments/hlehit/update_i_went_on_my_first_date_with_a_woman/) - 5 July 2020
It's been 3 days since my original post. Yesterday was our second date and it was even more amazing than the first. She cooked us dinner at her house, we watched a movie, played some switch games and then talked for hours. It was so late when we realized the time that she offered for me to spend the night at her house. I was nervous but I wasn't ready to say goodbye so I accepted. We talked in her bed until around 4:30 in the morning.
Then around that time she asked if she could kiss me and we literally ended up kissing well until after the sun had risen. And kissing her and holding her in my arms was just- WOW. I feel like I could have done it forever. I have not been able to stop thinking about it and I can't wait until I see her again next weekend. I feel like a week is too long to wait! I'm definitely smitten. 😍
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**Reminder - I am not the original poster.** | toohottooheavy | /r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/yn3k8s/mom_i_need_to_leave_my_marriage_and_feel_so/ | yn3k8s | 2,682 | 3,747 | [
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2022-11-05T21:06:59 | The Funeral Plot | CONCLUDED | **I am NOT OP. Original post by u/Solo1961 in r/pettyrevenge**
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[**Revenge In The Making Against The Ex**](https://www.reddit.com/r/pettyrevenge/comments/xvkqur/revenge_in_the_making_against_the_ex/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) - 05/10/2022
This is a story of my friend, \*Fred\*. He'd been married for twenty years. Takes wife to anniversary dinner at an upscale restaurant whereupon she informs him she wants a divorce. This was typical behavior for her. Instead of waiting for a more appropriate time to break the news, she decided to do it in the middle of the fancy dinner where lots of people would witness Fred's dismay and embarrassment. Always lots of drama with her. A self-entitled, spoiled, Bi\*\*\*.
Fred took it rather well, all things considered (They weren't getting along and found out later she was having an affair). He did multiple things to attempt to make the divorce easy, including creating a complete itemized inventory list of all belongings, made her a copy, and asked that she check off what she wanted.
It started out acrimonious, but it soon became the divorce from hell. Her demands became more and more ludicrous, and the attorney fees kept increasing. So, he eventually caved in and agreed to her every demand.
Fast forward about 18 months later. The divorce is finalized. During this time, Fred has met another woman. They get married shortly after the divorce is done. The ex-wife shows up one day and is in tears. The man who she left Fred for has dumped her. Fred and his new wife are gracious and console her. Fred is a nice guy and is polite during this, but he's still harboring a lot of resentment.
This starts a weird relationship. Ex-wife started calling Fred and the new wife just to talk and would even drop by on occasion. During one phone call, in which she asks to "borrow" some money, Fred brings up the funeral plots he had purchased when they were married. He offers to buy her plot instead of "loaning" her money (he knew she'd never pay it back anyway). She agrees, but demands a crazy number (20 grand? Can't remember). Fred is livid. He's had enough of her.
**QUE THE REVENGE.**
Fred stewed on this for a while, and then a fortuitous opportunity came along.
The stepfather of the ex-wife died unexpectedly. The Ex despised him and had nothing to do with the man (he'd divorced her mother years ago). Fred liked him though. Even went to the funeral. When speaking with the other family members, he learned that there were no preplanned funeral arrangements and money was tight. Fred stepped up and donated his funeral plot for the burial.
This is the plot that is beside *her* funeral plot. The one she wanted to sell to Fred (which he already paid for). She refused to attend the funeral, so she doesn't yet know about Fred's generosity.
Now it's a waiting game. One day, she'll find out.
Fred grins like a baby who just shit his diaper every time he tells of his deed.
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[**The Funeral Plot - Update!**](https://www.reddit.com/r/pettyrevenge/comments/yesecr/the_funeral_plot_update/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) -28/10/2022
TL/DR: My friend had two funeral plots (side-by-side). Ex-wife got one of them in the divorce He asked ex-wife to buy her plot. She wanted to play games. He had her ex-stepfather buried in his plot without her knowing.
His ex finally found out. Somebody told her (doesn't matter who). She proceeded to call him, ranting and raving like the crazy woman she is. Fred told her tough shit. She threatened to sue. Fred said go ahead and try. She then blasted him on her FB account. I did not read them, but it's my understanding the responses from her friends were not exactly what she hoped for and she eventually deleted it.
She has now decided that perhaps she should sell her plot to Fred after all. Fred told her he wasn't interested anymore; he'd already bought two new plots for him and his current wife. She went ballistic and even demanded that Fred have the body of her ex-stepfather dug up and reinterred somewhere else. Fred said only ex-stepfather's family had the authority to do that (and they don't like her).
Fred is having a good time telling everyone his tale of petty revenge. It took him a couple of years to achieve it. He even goes as far as to say it was the best thing his ex-wife ever did for him.
If you're wondering, Fred is in his late 60s, about to retire, financially successful, and his kids are grown (he's a proud grandfather). His kids are staying out of it, although one of them confided that they were on dad's side. Oh, and his current wife loves the hell out of him. Life is good for Fred.
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**Reminder - I am not the original poster.** | winter_resting | /r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/yn664g/the_funeral_plot/ | yn664g | 4,876 | 6,148 | [
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2022-11-05T21:08:16 | I unwittingly created a family with my next door neighbor | CONCLUDED | I am the OP, I was encouraged a lot by DM to post this story on here, so here I am.
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\[Original: October 18, 2022\]([https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/y7k5ng/i\_unwittingly\_created\_a\_family\_with\_my\_next\_door/](https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/y7k5ng/i_unwittingly_created_a_family_with_my_next_door/))
Three years ago a woman named Cassie(32f) and her son Kenny(13m) moved into the apartment next door. They had a few boxes, so I figured I’d(31m) offer to help and get off to a good start. I noticed Kenny had a PS4 so I told him that I game as well, and he was free to come over and play my systems anytime he wanted of his mother allowed it. I have a PS5, Switch and PC as an FYI. Since I’m a mechanic, I told Cassie if she had car trouble she could come to me anytime since I help out a lot of other people on the floor with their cars as well. She accepted.
I didn’t really interact with either Kenny or Cassie besides a few “heys” for a few weeks initially. But a little more than a month after moving in, Cassie knocked on my door and asked if I could check her car because the engine wasn’t turning over. Turns out the spark plugs needed to be changed, which was easy enough to do. Cassie was very thankful for my help and offered to pay, but I told her it was no problem. She invited me to dinner with her and Kenny and I was hesitant to accept, but she insisted on it. The next day we had dinner and it was a good time. I learned a lot about her and talked to Kenny more. He’s a good kid, really into games, science and his guitar. We even all went over to my place for some Mario Kart.
From then on I got really close to Kenny, I viewed him like a little brother. He came over to play my games almost every day, and I even started teaching him about cars. I’ve even brought him to my shop to introduce him to tools. He’s a quick study and he even told Cassie he wants to be a mechanic like me. I told him to aim higher and become an engineer. He’s now even looking into engineering programs.
I think Cassie really appreciated our relationship. She became a lot more friendly with me. I got covid during lock down and out of the kindness of her heart she brought me groceries, cleaned my apartment and even took care of me. I was totally grateful. She even cooks dinner for me every night, and we all have dinner together. She even makes dinner for me when I work late and leaves it in my apartment.
The other day Kenny brought one of his friends over to his apartment. I met the friend and he said “this is OP, he’s like my dad”. Not gonna lie, that took me by surprise. I always viewed Kenny as my little brother, but here he is saying that I’m like a dad to him. I asked Cassie about this, and she seemed surprised I even asked. She said that she would never force that role on me, but that he did view me as his father. He even hoped that me and Cassie would get together so that we can be a real family. Cassie then said she wouldn’t mind that either. I asked her if she was asking me out, she just smiled and said yes. I was surprised, but said okay.
We have a dinner date this weekend, and I'm nervous as all hell, I don’t want to ruin things with Cassie and or Kenny. I really do love both of them. But I’m not sure how I feel about being the father figure for Kenny, it’s a lot of responsibility and I’m not entirely sure I’m the guy for that. And Cassie, she’s a really amazing woman. I just hope I can measure up to her expectations. In just asking reddit, are my worries unfounded? Should I put some boundaries between me and Kenny? How do I not screw up with Cassie?
Tl;dr: I unknowingly became the father figure for my next door neighbors son and his mom asks me out on a date.
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\[Update: October 28. 2022\]([https://www.reddit.com/user/Nextdoorfamily/comments/yfh4h4/an\_update\_to\_i\_unwittingly\_created\_a\_family\_with/](https://www.reddit.com/user/Nextdoorfamily/comments/yfh4h4/an_update_to_i_unwittingly_created_a_family_with/))
Hey all, thanks for all the nice comments on the first post, it’s weird being complimented so much, but I guess I like it lol. Also this update was originally posted in [r/relationships](https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/), but they won't let me post it for whatever reason. People were demanding an update so here I am.
So here are some thing to clarify before the update:
People were asking me if I’m actually attracted to Cassie, and the answer is yes. She’s one of the strongest, nicest, most considerate people I know. She constantly puts people before herself and I always wished that someone would put her first for once. And did I mention that Cassie is super pretty? I guess I just never thought Cassie would find me attractive or be interested in me that way.
Now the update.
I was nervous as hell all week leading up to the date on Saturday. During our usual “family dinners”, Cassie smiled at me a lot more, I don’t think Kenny noticed since he was too busy playing on his phone. Cassie not so subtly suggested to Kenny(13m) that he go spend a weekend with his grandparents. He didn’t really want to, but she pretty much pushed him out the door lol.
On Saturday evening I knocked on Cassie’s door and she opened it up wearing an absolutely beautiful dress. I broke the tension and asked if that dress was for me, she laughed and we went on our way. The evening was a little awkward at first, but when we were walking to the restaurant she grabbed my hand and smiled at me and it sort of got rid of the awkwardness. From there the evening went amazingly. We talked, laughed and had a great dinner. I asked her what made her change her mind about me, and she said it was the previous Christmas.
For reference, Cassie is a hardworking single mom and Kenny has all of his needs met and more. But she can’t afford to get him the best, and it really hurts her that she can’t. She really wanted to get him a PS5 since he was begging for one, but couldn’t justify the cost. Since I have disposable income, I hunted for months, checking stock drops until I finally got one. I then surprised Kenny with it on Christmas and told him it was from his mom. Cassie was shocked and even started crying. Kenny was so excited he didn’t even notice her crying. All she could tell me was thank you repeatedly. Apparently that made her realize that she wanted me in both of their lives forever. She tried to deny her feelings, but it didn’t work. The conversation the other day was the opening she needed to finally confess how she felt.
After dinner we went back to her place for a nightcap. We talked a lot about relationship expectations and how we wanted to proceed. We agreed to be exclusive, to take it slow and not to tell Kenny about anything until we’re sure that this relationship is real and strong. We don’t want to give him unrealistic expectations. She also said that her calling me his dad was too much too soon and she apologized for it. She said it was wishful thinking on her part and probably would have weirded out most people. She said to accept any role with Kenny that I wanted, but she hoped that I would see Kenny as a son eventually.
Sorry to disappoint everyone, but we didn’t do the deed. We decided that it was much too soon. We did however have a buzzed makeout session lol.
The following day we went for brunch and decided to go apple picking. It felt damn good to be walking hand in hand with someone you care about and taking lots of pictures doing silly things. At our family dinner yesterday Cassie sat close to me and was rubbing her foot on my leg. I don’t think I’ve ever been more turned on in my life lol. I’m not gonna lie guys, I think I’m falling for Cassie and falling hard.
Well anyway I think that’s it, we’re together now and hopefully this lasts. I don’t think I want anyone else. Cassie is everything one could want in a partner, and I hope that I can be worthy of her. She's a really special person.
Thanks everyone, you're all so kind.
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Reminder: I am the OP | Nextdoorfamily | /r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/yn67dj/i_unwittingly_created_a_family_with_my_next_door/ | yn67dj | 8,063 | 5,212 | [
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2022-11-05T22:35:58 | AITA for failing 27 out of 31 students for not taking a quiz? | CONCLUDED | **I am NOT OP. Original post by u/teacherbyheart21 in r/amitheasshole**
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[**AITA for failing 27 out of 31 students for not taking a quiz?**](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ygs5o7/aita_for_failing_27_out_of_31_students_for_not/) - 29 October 2022
I teach a math class in eight grade. Because the classroom is really small and they are many people, they sometimes are a bit loud. But that’s ok and I try to give my best to accommodate them to be most comfortable.
Wednesday they were really loud and I announced an online quiz because we did not come to the point to do it in class. I also stated that I would upload it on Thursday and it would be due on Friday at 6pm. It is not much (10 questions) just to see where everyone is at. But it is graded.
I repeated myself twice that it was mandatory and graded and they did not listen apparently.
I uploaded the quiz and four people actually took it. They received feedback and their grade. The rest did not take the quiz. So I gave them all a 0 today.
In less then 15 Minutes the first student mailed me that I could not just fail him. A few students joined in complaining about the 0, some of them apologised for not turning it in. Then a mother emailed me how I could fail her precious daughter. And that if 27 people failed it would mean my quiz was to hard and I would be an AH to fail them all.
Until now I did not respond to any of this mails because then they would except to answer everybody. I will do this on Monday.
But I wonder am I an AH for failing them?
Verdict: NTA
**Maybe for information:** it’s maybe 1% of their grade.
**Edit because I realised I need to clarify something:**
They were loud the entire period. Normally this is not the case. I don’t know what was different this day. This caused us to be slower than I planned and not being able to test where everybody stood on the topic.
So at the end of the lesson I told them that this quiz was being upload and they have to take it. They were not especially loud then. But some were distracted with packing their things and stuff.
**Edit 2 because someone said it was important:**
- it was written on the board
- it was written in the class book (there is all stuff written down in means of tasks and topics from their classes)
**Update:** I just got another email from the same mother why I did not reply to her email since she wrote the first email a few hours ago. I love parents.
**LAST EDIT:** Because I cannot answer every single comment.
Thank you all for your judgments. While there were many helpful and respectful comments with constructive feedback, I am really shocked that people insult me as a person for an action I post here. I do not talk about the YTA judgements, I take them.
I talk about the ones telling me I am a horrid person, a bad teacher or even insinuating that I am mentally sick (via comments and via private messages). Maybe think before insulting someone for one single action, without knowing what else happens in my classes and life.
Now to the quiz: They know how do to it, they did it often before, they won’t fail the whole class because of it.
Also I am not responsible for telling their parents to remind them of a quiz. They are old enough to remind themselves.
Many suggested that they could retake the test: they can. But not for full credit and not in class. I will tell them on Monday and it will be due Wednesday morning at 8am, also online. As it is a simple ten question multiple choice test you can do in 10 minutes on your phone that is more than enough time.
**Also an update in the mother mailing me twice:** I got an email from her daughter telling me how sorry she was that her mom messaged me as she panicked as her mom saw the 0 and told her the quiz was to hard because she forgot about the quiz and therefore did not take it.
**EDIT:** The insults continue and so does the teaching advice from some people here, again in private and in this post. To make it clear to you: I accept every single Y T A statement as everyone is entitled to their own opinion. But I do not need your advice on classroom management, my teaching skills or my personality for asking a judgement of one specific situation. The situation is this one quiz. Not my general teaching because you don’t know my teaching style as you only got told this one single situation.
**Also:** yes I got it, this post has language errors. Surprise I am no native English speaker as I stated before
**Update:** The kids came to me this morning and apologised. They all promised to take the test as soon as they get home today. A few whined when I told them they get a different test with less credit, but most accepted it without discussion.
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**Reminder - I am not the original poster.** | toohottooheavy | /r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/yn8ndx/aita_for_failing_27_out_of_31_students_for_not/ | yn8ndx | 4,807 | 8,083 | [
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2022-11-06T01:28:47 | OOP's coworker is a stalker and a neighbor | CONCLUDED | **I am NOT OP. Original post from** [**r/LetsNotMeet**](https://www.reddit.com/r/LetsNotMeet) **by** [**u/schmidttingthebed**](https://www.reddit.com/u/schmidttingthebed)**.**
Trigger Warnings: >!Stalking, domestic abuse, attempted murder!<
Mood Spoiler: >!Dark, but not for OOP!<
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[**Original: Former coworker is still my neighbor**](https://www.reddit.com/r/LetsNotMeet/comments/a3slx2/former_coworker_is_still_my_neighbor/) **- Dec. 6, 2018**
Summer 2017, I was working at a pharmacy, I had been there for 4 years. A new staff pharmacist around my age (28 at the time) was hired. He seemed odd, but I was nice to him because everyone else was rude to him immediately and I felt bad. He asked me wayyyy too many questions, some I answered and others crossed boundaries (questions about ex boyfriends).
Fast forward a month, he said that he was moving. he lived on the east side of my city and he said that he was moving to the west side, where I live. He said that he actually found a house near the intersection of where I live. I asked him what street and he wouldn't tell me. He also said that the owner will live there for a few more months, so I forgot about it.
Fast forward a few months later, and my mom and stepdad told me they met our new neighbor (our house is one house away from the intersecting street, this house is on the intersecting street, so we are one house away but the back yards connect). My mom said he seemed like a really nice young man. The next time I worked with him I asked if that was him, and he said no. I let it go for a little bit. Then another time, he started asking me questions, describing my back yard and asking if my street name started with the letter that it did. So he admitted it was him. I asked him how he knew it was my house, he said he saw me in the back yard. He decided not to say anything to me.
The next few months were weird, I was still friendly with him as a coworker but he crossed some boundaries. He knew my birthday was coming up (my birthday and address are in the pharmacy database) and my brother was asking for ideas for what to get for me. I wanted a certain phone case, so I was browsing on my phone to send my brother links to the ones I wanted. he would always look over my shoulder when I was on my phone. he saw the type of phone case, he got me the phone case and a $150 pre loaded visa gift card.
I told him (in a very professional manner) that I felt the gift was inappropriate and probably against company policy. I walked over to his mailbox while he was at work to return it. He kept putting it back in my mailbox with messages of begging me to accept it because I make him so happy. I ended up giving it away.
Not much longer after that, I took my coworker (not him, a female) to the zoo. I had some of it on my snapchat story. He kept messaging me on snapchat asking questions about it, and it was bothering me so I blocked him. After that he called my mother (he got her # from when they first met) and told her that he needed to talk to her. He told her he needed to come over and talk to her, so she invited him in and they talked. I was very alarmed by this but she thought it was endearing. I told him once again at work that he crossed boundaries, and he said that he does everything that he does because he cares about me. He didn't understand where I was coming from at all.
Those were the most stand out things he has done. Also a lot of pestering about "tell me who your boyfriend is" and trying to look at pictures in my phone to figure it out, going through coworkers phones and reading their conversations with me (even impersonating them while I was not at work to get info). One time he even cornered me at work and wouldn't let me leave until I told him what characteristics I look for in a guy. He also was mad at me when I got a birth control prescription filled, even though it was being used to correct hormonal problems from another birth control. I started being mean to him at work because I couldn't take it anymore. He then told me that I was treating him that way because he is a "nice guy" who "cares about me" and that I am "looking for a jerk". It became a very hostile work environment, and I left about 2 months ago.
This is a side note, other coworkers and neighbors hate him because he likes to start confrontations. He also plays "he said she said" with people for entertainment. The neighbors have called the police on him and think he is crazy.
I haven't heard from him at all since leaving, but I saw my former co worker last week at a get together and she said that he is trying to get her to tell him where I work now. He told her that he sees me getting into my car every morning so he knows I have a job. I told my mom this and she didn't take it seriously (she never believed I was in danger). I would just like to get an outside perspective. When I come home late I run to the door, and if no one is home I will wait to take a shower, I'm still scared.
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[**Update: Update on stalker I posted about 4 years ago**](https://www.reddit.com/r/LetsNotMeet/comments/yewxbp/update_on_stalker_i_posted_about_4_years_ago/) **- Oct 27, 2022**
Hi everyone, here is an update from a post I made a few years ago about a scary neighbor. Last night I looked out the window and there were multiple police cars and an ambulance. I found out later that my neighbor married a Young girl from the same country as him. She doesn't speak much English and doesn't have family here. She has been here a few months. He has seldom let her leave the house, even to go in the back yard. My other neighbors managed to catch her outdoors once or twice and managed to get her phone number. She said he has cameras all over the house and outside. Last night he was beating on her and accusing her of cheating and the cops were called. After that he shut off her phone service, last night he attacked her with a knife and my neighbors heard her screaming and they called the cops for her. She says he was trying to kill her. She was taken away by an ambulance and he was arrested. Multiple Guns and knives were found in the house. I'm going to cut this post short because I'm typing this on a tablet with no keyboard and it is getting cumbersome
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**Note:** Marking concluded as it seems that stalker has moved on from stalking OOP. | NoHarmPun | /r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/yncz1x/oops_coworker_is_a_stalker_and_a_neighbor/ | yncz1x | 6,403 | 9,221 | [
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2022-11-06T13:25:58 | I told my (35F) husband (37M) that we should get a divorce so he can marry his late wife tombstone. | REPOST | **I am not OP.**
Posted by u/JelousOfLateWifeTA on r/relationship_advice
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[**Original**](https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/p5jvv3/i_told_my_35f_husband_37f_that_we_should_get_a/) _- August 17, 2021_
I (35f) married my husband (37m) 10 years ago. Prior to our relationship, he had been married for two years to L (22f). Sadly, she passed away because of on-going health issues. I met my husband 5 years after her passing. At the beginning of our relationship, I had some issues with his romantic history. To put it bluntly, I was having trouble accepting my husband’s past, and that he did not stop loving his late wife but was forced to do so. I went to therapy for a year to treat that, and I manage to overcome this issue. My husband knows this and was very supporting of me and the treatment. I now like to say that L and I would have been best friends.
The issue: after ten years of marriage, we have been having a lot of arguments, derived for bad communication. We just seem to blow off t everything out of proportion. About three months ago, every time we have an argument, he takes the car and goes away for hours. When I asked where he went, he told me that he “went to see her” (L). Now, this is very weird from him, because he, at best, visits L´s grave three times a year. I then asked him to not run away every time we fight, and to please tell me when he goes to the cemetery so we can go together. He just brushed me off.
He has been doing this for months now, and it is destroying me. The feelings I fought the first year of our relationship are coming back, I am sad all the time, I cry at night. But my husband just keeps going away for hours. At this point, I think he is doing it out of spite more than anything else. Yesterday, I reached my limit. We fought over freaking trash, that´s how petty our arguments are. He took the car at 4 pm, returned at 11 pm. I was waiting for him at the dinning room. The combo went like this:
Me: Where were you?
HB: I visited her again.
Me: I´ve told you multiple times about how your actions hurt me, and you continue to do them.
HB: You can´t stop me from going.
Me: Well, we can get a divorce. That way, you can marry L´s tombstone, being that you care more about it that our marriage.
I could see the shock in his face when I said that. I apologized immediately, but I think he did not hear me. I saw how he started crying. He has been locked in his office since yesterday and refuses to get out.
I feel like the biggest AH ever. What I said was a low blow and something horrible. I attacked him where I knew he was going to hurt. But, at the same time, a part of me thinks that what he is feeling right now is just a fraction of what he has put me through for months. I literally made a vow to L the day I got engaged, I told her “You can take care of him from Heaven, and I will take care of him here on Earth”. I broke that vow.
Is there anyway I can salvage this relationship?
Edit: A redditor told me to put this in the post. Three months ago we found out that I am pregnant, after 8 years of trying. He has been visibly stressed out and reactive since the discovery, even tho we both wished for a baby.
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[**Update**](https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/p7j5nc/update_to_i_told_my_35f_husband_37f_that_we/) _- August 20, 2021_
Hello, everyone. My previous post was locked and removed, but I still wanted to update for everyone who kindly commented and left advice under the post.
Before the update, I wanted to clarify something. I was only “jealous” of L in the first year of our relationship. But as I said, I worked through it in therapy. Through out my relationship with my husband, I´ve hosted dinners in her honor, ordered embellishments for her grave, pushed my husband to reconnect with his former in-laws, and I even placed her in my altar of Día de Muertos alongside my family members. I consider her a friend, even if I never met her.
The update: We agreed on temporary separation, since we still don´t now how are we going to co-parent and stuff like that.
Shortly after my post, he came out of his office. I made us both dinner, and we talked (for what it feels the first time in months). First, I apologized but what I said, but I told him that the point still stands. I then asked him if he truly goes and sits at her grave for hours. He said that he does not.
Turns out, that he sits at her grave for an hour at max, and then goes on a tour around the city visiting their favorite places. He goes to restaurants and asks for her favorite dishes, drives around her favorite spots in the city. I then asked her why? Why was he doing it NOW, that we found out I was pregnant after so much trying? He said that he could not avoid thinking about what it would have been to raise a child with L, and about how many things he missed experiencing with her. He did say that he did not regret our relationship, which makes it better, I guess.
I also asked him if I failed him in any way? Was I a bad wife, a bad friend? Did a fail to fulfill his needs? He said that I “just wasn´t her”. Honestly, I think I'd rather have someone punch me than him telling me that. Finally, I asked him when is he starting therapy? He responded that very soon because he wanted to be a good father. I said “fine, because I don’t want someone around my child, who grieves an imaginary child and an imaginary life, when he has a living and breathing family.”
That´s all, I think. He moved out to his parents house the same night. Her mother did call me to tell me that she and my FIL chewed him out for what he did, I thanked them, and told them that I am still very interested in them having a relation with my child, and they should not pay for their son´s mistake. I also visited L. I apologized for breaking my vow, but that I hope that she is able to watch over husband, and to help him through out his therapy.
I want to thank everyone who helped me realize my mistakes, and how I was neglecting myself. You were all very helpful, and I owe you all a lot.
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[**Final Update**](https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/tn2beh/my_36f_stbx_husband_38m_has_changed_and_asked_me/) _- March 25, 2022_
Hello. It's me. Again. Since my last post a lot has happened. I gave birth to my son a bit over a month ago. He is the most beautiful baby ever. I love him more than anything. I've also been going to therapy and it has been great. Overall, life is kinda dreamy right now, doesn’t seem real.
Anyways, since everyone here was so helpful last time, I figured I would ask you for advice in this situation.
After our separation, my husband started therapy. He was diagnosed with depression and is on meds. He also started to attend a grief support group. Since all of this happened, he's changed so much, is like he's a different person.
During all of my pregnancy, he's been so supportive, helpful and respectful of my boundaries. He is also very apologetic and has asked for forgiveness for everything that he put me through this last year (like, he made a list of every way he failed me and apologized for each one of those things).
I've also attended various of his therapy sessions, apart from marital counseling. That helped me understand the inmense grief he's been carrying, apart from his own mental health issues, and how all of it became exacerbated with the arrival of our baby.
The last 3 months of my pregnancy were pretty bad. The doctor adviced me to move as little as possible. My husband offered to be my "live-in nurse", and I accepted. So we have been living together for the past 4 months (of course we don't sleep in the same room or anything like that).
He's been so great with me. We’ve had so many amazing conversations, and we just work wonderful together. I feel like I regained my husband, that the person I married is here again.
After putting the baby to sleep yesterday, we had a conversation. He told me that he thinks he is ready to rekindle our relationship and asked me for a second chance. He told me that he will do anything he can to be deserving of a second chance.
I honestly don’t know what to do. Like, this past year I watched him try to better himself, and succeed at it, he’s also been so kind to me and is great with our son. But I also know that he is in a pretty vulnerable state right now, and I really don’t know if I would be able to pick up our relationship where it ended.
I don’t know what to do. Should I give it a try?
TLDR: My stbx husband has changed. He asked me for a second chance, but I don’t know what to do given how our relationship ended. What do I do? | rainingsakuras | /r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/ynpvhe/i_told_my_35f_husband_37m_that_we_should_get_a/ | ynpvhe | 8,689 | 13,605 | [
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2022-11-06T14:06:31 | Soon everyone will know he’s been messing with his stepmother and stepsister | ONGOING | I Am not the OP, the original post is on [**r/TrueOffMyChest**](https://www.reddit.com/r/TrueOffMyChest/) by u/honeyed-spice
**Original Post** (made 14 days ago 23/10/22) [https://www.reddit.com/r/TrueOffMyChest/comments/ybxnt7/soon\_everyone\_will\_know\_hes\_been\_messing\_with\_his/](https://www.reddit.com/r/TrueOffMyChest/comments/ybxnt7/soon_everyone_will_know_hes_been_messing_with_his/)
For a little while I’ve suspected my husband of cheating. I didn’t have any justification for thinking or feeling this way but I couldn’t stop having this gut feeling that something was wrong. So I decided to keep a closer eye on him and I still found nothing. And for a longtime I was angry with myself for suspecting him and for invading his privacy. We went to marriage counselling and I apologized for breaking his trust in me and for a little while all was well. (I can’t believe I apologized to that lying sack of shit). But that wretched feeling never went away. I tried so hard to get over this feeling that he was deceiving me in some way and I just couldn’t. So I decided it was time to hire a private investigator instead of playing inspector gadget myself.
Let me tell you this was the best thing I ever spent money on. Within a month the P.I was able to confirm my suspicions but it was a shock to find out that it was his stepsister and his stepmother. Not only that he may be the father of his stepsisters newborn baby. I could’ve killed him but I kept my composure and I kept this information to myself and continued to act as normal as possible. Believe me that was a very difficult thing to do. I slowly started detaching from him and even moved into our spare bedroom and we continued to drift apart. I moved out,got a new job and started saving money for our divorce. I got my life in order.
Now here we are almost year later and in the final stages of our divorce and I’ve still not told anyone. I’ve spent the last year preparing for our divorce because I’ll be damned to leave this marriage empty handed. I wanted to handle our financial affairs first because my husband works for his father and I didn’t want to leave him unemployed during our divorce process! This son of a cunt dragged out our divorce and fought me for everything even things that were mine to begin with but I kept my calm and I won’t say a word until I get everything I deserve. That’s when I’ll tell his father. And his father is not a man to be messed with. I’ve been assured the cheque will clear in 3 days (or less)and it’s over for Robert cause as soon as that money hits my account his mother,stepmother, stepsister,brother-in-law and father will receive a beautifully written email with pictures and videos of what he has been up to. His dad will tear him apart!
COUNT YOUR DAYS ROBERT!
Edit 1: I got my money! Time to send it. Edit 2: His stepmother and stepsister do not know about each other. I don’t know how long he has been sexually involved with them but I do know it started in adulthood for all involved.
**Update Post** (made 8 days ago 23/10/22) [https://www.reddit.com/r/TrueOffMyChest/comments/ygm5y8/following\_up\_on\_soon\_everyone\_will\_know\_hes\_been/?utm\_source=share&utm\_medium=web2x&context=3](https://www.reddit.com/r/TrueOffMyChest/comments/ygm5y8/following_up_on_soon_everyone_will_know_hes_been/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3)
Can’t seem to access my original account. So here I am.
Let’s clear some things up! When Robert’s father remarried, Robert was already a 30 year old man. So no he wasn’t sexually groomed! And his stepsister was 31 when she met him. Again no one here is being sexually abused! All involved were already well into adulthood when meeting and when they started to fuck around.
As for the money well honey that’s money he owed me but was being a dick about giving it back. I invested in his business ventures and he refused to pay me my share! And that’s not shit I was willing to let slide! You can’t get a broke man to pay his debt. So fuck yes I wasn’t going to let him be unemployed during our divorce.
THE AFTERMATH—
I sent the email as soon as I saw the money had hit my account. The first to call me was Robert and I picked up. First words out of his mouth was- YOU EVIL ASS BITCH! I replied with- YOUR MOMMA. And I ended the call!
The second person to call me is stepsisters husband. He was just heartbroken. He asked me a ton of questions and he asked for my divorce lawyers information. We also discussed him getting a DNA test for all their kids.
Through brother-in-law I found out that there was a all out war between stepmother and father-in-law. He tried to kick her out but she locked herself up in the bedroom. While father-in-law was throwing her shit outside stepmother-in-law called her daughter for help.
At some point stepsister and stepmother got in a fight. The fight was so bad that the neighbors called the police. In the scuffle to separate mother and daughter they hurt one of the police officers and were arrested. They are still in jail because neither of them have anyone willing to bail them out.
The following day I got a call from Robert telling me that his daddy almost ran him over. So he wanted to come stay with me because he’s scared that his daddy or brother-in-law will try to beat his ass again. Robert is scared to go home. His dad and brother-in-law are pretty much camped outside of his place and have already jumped him twice.
Robert is terrified. He tried to stay with his mother and she told him that he had made his bed and should now lie in it.
FYI I am not done with Robert yet. I’ve got more planned for him!
Marked as ongoing because it's obvious OP is not finished with Robert yet. | Screaming-Harpy | /r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/ynqsry/soon_everyone_will_know_hes_been_messing_with_his/ | ynqsry | 5,735 | 14,042 | [
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2022-11-06T14:44:37 | OOP bails on their brother's wedding at the last minute. | CONCLUDED | *Reminder, I am not the OP. This is a repost.*
Trigger warning: >!bullying, homophobia!<
[Original post from August 21, 2022 - AITA for bailing on my brother's wedding last minute?](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/wtyu3a/aita_for_bailing_on_my_brothers_wedding_last/)
I [29F] have been working as a wedding planner for about 6 years now. Last year, my brother (B) [29M] has asked me to plan his wedding for him, and as his sister I was happy to do so for free. Everything was going pretty well until maybe a week and a half before the wedding, when B told me to remove our little brother (J) [24M] from the guest list. I tried asking him why but the only answer he would give me is that J was "being stubborn and selfish". Of course, I had to ask J about this, apparently B showed up at his apartment and offered to "let J attend the wedding as long as he doesn't act so gay". J of course took offense to that and told B to fuck off, probably leading him to calling me and uninviting him.
B has always been harsh to J, he's the type of manly man that despises anything feminine, so when J came out to us B's bullying got worse and worse, leading to there being a pretty big rift between them. I've been trying to get the two of them to work out their differences but B won't even try and hear out what J has to say to him. I decided that uninviting J to the wedding was the last straw and that I'm not gonna keep helping B if he's gonna continue to act like an asshole to our own little brother. So I sent B all the info for everything I planned at that point, the contacts for the venue, the catering, decorations, everything. Then I told him that if he's gonna keep treating J like shit then he should plan his own wedding because I'm not going to.
B told everyone that I bailed on him last second, and that the wedding would have to be postponed because of me. As you'd expect, people were mad, relatives were bombarding me about how important this would be for B, and how I'm ruining an important milestone in his and his girlfriend's life. When I tried to explain myself I got people telling me that I shouldn't have done something so drastic over a petty squabble between brothers.
AITA?
**Verdict: NTA**
*Mini-update provided by OOP in an edit to their original post.*
Update:
It's been about 5 days since B told our family I bailed on him, and a few new things have popped up. Mainly, B's fiancee has told everyone that it was her who decided to postpone the wedding, and it's not because they couldn't finish planning.
She said that "this current situation with J has brought up some past issues in their relationship" and that she needs more time to talk to B about it and reflect before fully commiting to marrying him.
One of the few times I've ever seen B express vulnerability is with his fiancee, I'm hoping that she can be the one to talk some sense back into him, and hopefully even talk through his hatred of J.
I've seen some comments say that B coming to J's apartment to invite him shows that B really does care about him being there, I thought I should at least tell J that, even if it may be untrue. His response was "appreciate the sentiment, but B has never given me any incentive to be a part of his life. If he really did care about me then his invite wouldn't be attached to an insult but instead to an apology "
[Update from Oct 30, 2022.](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/yhdpk9/update_aita_for_bailing_on_my_brothers_wedding/)
After B's fiancee's (G) [29F] announcement, the drama died down a bit. I was a little concerned because both her and B were completely silent for a good month, no texts, no calls, it was like they disappeared.
During this time I took the advice of some commenters and apologized to my J for trying to force a better relationship between him and B, and for brushing off the bullying that B put him through. He said that he forgives me, but I still want to work on being a better sister.
A few weeks ago I got a message from G asking if we could meet at a restaurant and if I could bring J with me. I asked why, especially after all the silence, and she told me that her and B wanted to talk. I informed J about this, I wanted to know what was going on so I was gonna go, but I told him that he didn't have to go with me if he didn't want to. He told me that he thinks he'll be able to handle it, and if B still treats him the same he'll just leave.
Me and J went together, when we got there I could sense that B was feeling nervous. He looked like he was about to cry. Me and G started the conversation with just catching up with each other on what's been happening since we last met. At some point though, B cracked, he took a deep breath and looked at G.
B started a speech about how we grew up and my mind was racing trying to figure out where this was going, until suddenly I just heard the words "I'm bisexual" and everything cleared up. B went on to talk about how he's felt he needed to hide this his whole life, he was envious towards J for being able to express himself so openly, which led him to start bullying J and pushing him deeper and deeper into the closet. It ended with him apologizing to J and asking for forgiveness.
J was quiet for this whole talk until he felt it was his turn to speak. He said "B, I hear you, I know where you're coming from, I understand where you're coming from but none of that excuses the shit you've put me through since we were teens. I can and will try to forgive you, but it's going to take a lot of effort on your end"
The rest of the night was a bit of a blur for me (there was alcohol involved) but I do recall B and J cry-hugging by the end, which I was very glad to see. J says that there's still a bit of awkwardness between the two of them, but with time he thinks he might just see B as his nice older brother again.
As for the wedding, it's back on but with an undecided date as of right now, and yes J is going to be allowed in this time, he can even bring his boyfriend along with him. B's even decided to have J be a groomsman and told him "you can act as gay as you want J", which I don't think is the best thing to say but I like the sentiment.
*Reminder, I am not OOP. This is a repost.* | justathoughtfromme | /r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/ynrqpp/oop_bails_on_their_brothers_wedding_at_the_last/ | ynrqpp | 6,270 | 5,336 | [
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2022-11-06T16:05:04 | AITA for taking in my sister without giving a heads up to my husband? | REPOST | **I am NOT OP. Original post by u/ordinary_bicycle_837 in r/amitheasshole**
trigger warning: >!homophobia!<
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[**AITA for Taking in my sister without giving heads up to my husband.**](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/nzo6ja/aita_for_taking_in_my_sister_without_giving_heads/) - 14 June 2021
Hear me out. I was at my parent's place. I was over to help out my mom out with the garden. My younger sister is staying at home for college. It seems dad was yelling at her about something. He checked her phone and found that she is a lesbian. My mom was just watching her yell at him and backing him up. My sister was just crying. I am a pretty soft spoken person and I couldn't stop my dad from yelling but when he was done. I told her to pack her stuff and took her to my place. She is a pretty sensitive person and my parents are pretty assertive and rude sometimes.
I tried to text my husband but he was in a meeting and he rarely checks his phone while he works. He was surprised to find my sister in our home. I talked him about it and his okay with it but he is upset on two counts. The first being that I didn't give him any heads up and he hates being surprised by anything and that he will have to give up his quiet room which he uses to destress after work. He just hates having things jumped on him. He knows she has to stay here for a while and it makes sense.
I feel like an asshole as I should have done things a bit more calmly. I should talked to my husband before getting her out of there. I was pretty emotional during this whole thing. It was one of the worst things I have witnessed. I know much he loves his room and how great it has been to his mental health to have a place to be alone and process things. It has helped our relationship a lot. I feel like I am not prioritizing him here and I took a major decision without consulting him.
Verdict: NAH
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[**Update : AITA for Taking in my sister without giving heads up to my husband.**](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/pkbne2/update_aita_for_taking_in_my_sister_without/) - 8 September 2021
This is a strange update, My sister moved out ended up leaving within a month but her stay with us was illuminating in may ways, The things my sister pointed to me helped me realize that our marriage was designed to cater to all his wants and to meet bare minimum of my needs.
I tried to bring this up with him, Small things which could make me feel better but he didn't want to. I suggested couple's therapy and he thought it would just a process of blame being pinned on one of us. I started therapy with my own money and he was upset that I was wasting it when I was perfectly fine.
I started to paint again, something that he didn't like and he didn't scream at me he just changed his routine a little so that I had less time to paint and make a mess which he had to witness while I painted. My marriage was built around not making him sad, throughout the relationship I was the one who was responsible for his feelings and I was the one who had to set mine aside to make him happy.
I got out and I am living with my sister. They had a extra room they had been looking to sublet and I took them up it. It is funny that I end in the same position that my sister started out the post in, I am not happier. I miss him and I have spend almost 9 years with him but It is liberating not to spend hours molding myself to make him happy. I am lot more calmer now. I really want to thank the commenters who planted the seed of doubts about my husband.
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**Reminder - I am not the original poster.** | toohottooheavy | /r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/ynu42y/aita_for_taking_in_my_sister_without_giving_a/ | ynu42y | 3,639 | 7,822 | [
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2022-11-06T17:47:19 | OOP - AITA for yelling at ex-husband's GF in front of kids | CONCLUDED | **I am NOT OP. Original post by** u/amiacrazymum **in** r/AmItheAsshole
trigger warnings: >!Verbal Abuse!<
mood spoilers: >!Happy!<
[**AITA for yelling at exDH's GF in front of kids?**](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/f49nth/aita_for_yelling_at_exdhs_gf_in_front_of_kids/) \- 15th February 2020
I (38F) have got three kids (4,6,9) with ex(43M) who cheated on me with a 24yo (Now GF, she moved in two weeks after ex and I split) two years ago. We immediately divorced, and I only have the kids a couple days every other week as I work 70h/w. I finance everything in regards to the kids: extracurricular, camps, clothing, etc. I can afford it easily, so I go shopping with them, get the emails about their sports, host their parties etc. I am still very involved in my children's lives.
My kids told me they don't like the new GF. They say GF is overbearing, controlling, tries to enforce affection, and mothers them. I told ex to talk to her, but he dismissed it, so I told the kids they aren't obliged to listen to her beyond house rules.
Last Thursday GF picked the kids up from my place. I say goodbye to my kids, and go back inside. Five or so minutes later I'm leaving for work, and I see GF's car standing still in my driveway. I walk over and knock on the window.
Me: Hey, is everything alright? Why aren't you leaving?
My younger ones are in the back being quiet, but my 9yo is staring daggers at GF and there is obviously something going on between GF and 9yo (S from here on).
GF: Yes everything is fine! I'm just making a point, S refuses to comply with my rule so I'm not leaving till he does.
Me: S, is that true? What are you refusing to do?
S: She wants me to call her mum, I told her no because you are my mum.
Me, taken aback: GF, I don't believe you get to decide what my children call you. They have told you multiple times they want to call you by your name, and you need to accept that.
GF: Well, I think it's important for them to have a mother's figure in their life and that they call their real family by their titles. Since you're so busy all the time *youngest ones* have even been forgetting you, so I'm just trying to give them a healthy childhood by having them at least remember having a mum.
So this is where AITA comes in. I lost it. I have rarely been so angry. I didn't yell, as I never do, but I did say some pretty nasty things. I told her that she should be grateful to even be a part of my children's life, that she will never replace me as their mother because she has yet to even get them to like her, that she has got absolutely zero parental authority over my children and how dare she try to force my child to do something he's explicitly said he's uncomfortable with, to just accept her role as their father's new girlfriend and to take them to their dads.
I got a phone call later from ex raging at me for disrespecting his new GF and my mum also says I could've handled it better. AITA here?
edit: changed initials to avoid confusion.
Thank you so much for all your responses. I am blown away. I have decided to take the appropriate steps and have scheduled a meeting with my boss to discuss working fewer hours. I had never even thought about parental alienation, but I'll be damned before I let that happen.
Edit2: I've gotten a lot of comments and messages regarding custody and why I don't have 50/50 or even full. It's because I work. A lot. Less hours will still mean a min of 50, but I truly never thought about being alienated from my kids. POS ex has always been a good dad, never thought this would happen.
[**UPDATE - 1 on Parenting Subreddit**](https://www.reddit.com/r/Parenting/comments/fgft56/my_children_dont_feel_comfortable_at_their_dads/) \- 10th March 2020
Lengthy, sorry!
I (38F) have got three kids (4,6,10) with ex(43M), who I divorced almost three years ago. He almost immediately moved in his GF(24) and due to my work schedule (70h/w) the kids live with him. He was a SAHD when we were married due to his lack of career/education, and even now doesn't have the means to finance himself and the kids, so I pay for everything child-related and the mortgage as I don't want the kids to be in a situation he loses the house they grew up in. I earn above average, money is not the issue here.
Recently I had some drama with GF forcing my kids to call her mum. Details in previous post, but that's the gist of it. I got angry at her, and this sparked them(mostly 10yo) sharing more information regarding their home live at their dad's.
10yo told me he regularly fights with GF/ex, is sent outside/to his room for extended periods, is being forced to empty his plate even after feeling stuffed, and apparently ex has also been telling the kids that I don't care about them because I'm not around a lot. She pushes bathing "as a family" even after 10yo told her no, and has been telling my 6yo daughter she shouldn't play in the dirt/with "boy" things. They also say GF is overbearing, controlling, enforces affection, and mothers them. I addressed things with ex, but he tells me it's no big deal and that I just don't what's normal in a classic family setting as I've always been at work.
My 10yo recently asked if he could stay with me longer after I had them for the weekend and my 6yo chimed in. I agreed and they stayed an extra night and I dropped them of at school, but now they've been asking more often and it's come to the point my 10yo flat out asked to live with me.
I work crazy hours and am barely at home. They'd be alone 90% of the time, and I don't want that!! Plus, I don't even know if these issues are serious enough to warrant a change in custody agreement!! I'm worried I'm spoiling them when they're at my place because I don't parent them full-time and that my view of raising kids is warped because I work so much. I feel like they need a stable family live, with parental figures who are at home at reasonable hours and have the time to regularly spend quality time with them, but I also don't want to leave them in a home environment where they don't feel comfortable! I looked into working fewer hours, but at my current position it's not possible without losing my job. Even working a different job wouldn't make me be at home more as I'd still need to finance three kids/rent/mortgage by myself as my ex absolutely cannot contribute anything!
I don't know what to do? How serious are these things, should I get my kids away from this situation? He's always been a good dad to my knowledge and I'm so surprised about his passive stance in all of this. We did not divorce amicably as he cheated on me with GF, so I'm also worried I'm viewing everything they do as bad just because I personally don't like them.
[**UPDATE - 2**](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/hpcqkd/update_for_yelling_at_my_exs_gf_in_front_of_kids/) \- 11th July 2020
It's been quite a while. I wasn't planning on it, but many of you have personally messaged me asking for an update. Thank you for all the kindness and concern for my family.
Early March I was phoned at work by my neighbour saying my 10yo son was at her place. He had biked in the dark to my house. He told me that he'd left because GF had punished him for not joining a family bath in a way no one should support.
Of course I went home immediately. I told my boss that I was leaving for the night, and I wasn't sure if I would return the next day. After checking if my son was okay, we went to Ex's house.
After arriving, GF immediately started raging at S, but I shut that down very quickly. I went inside the house to collect my children, who were awake because GF was yelling very loudly. They cried and asked to come with me, which was absolutely horrible. To come to the house of your co-parent and to hear your children beg to leave. It took something from me. I put the children in the car, locked it, and went back inside to grab their essentials. This time, Ex followed me in and tried to excuse GF. I told him that he would not be welcome anywhere near the children until they wanted him to and I trusted him again. I also told him I would be suing for full custody and that my lawyer will contact him about buying out my part of the house. Nothing he said after that is worth repeating.
I came back outside to find GF attacking my car trying to get the children. Things got very nasty and many things were said. She refrained me from reaching my car and the police had to be called. The officers allowed me to leave with my kids after a brief chat.
I did not return to work until early April. Because of COVID19, my children went to my parents in the country. We videochat daily, my parents say the children are flourishing, though still very shocked and traumatized by what happened. They are talking with a therapist individually. My children have also been inspected by a physician for physical trauma, of which there is no sign, thank the stars.
I will be taking my ex to court soon and will likely get full custody with paying alimony. The house will be put up for sale. Ex has formally been told that GF's presence will result in me fighting for no visitation.
Lastly, I did not end up losing my job. I have decided to get a professional live-in nanny and perhaps au-pair, and am looking into larger properties to accommodate everyone. The kids are very excited to come home to me in September. Thank you all very much.
**Reminder - I am not the original poster.** | raredontstare | /r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/ynx1xj/oop_aita_for_yelling_at_exhusbands_gf_in_front_of/ | ynx1xj | 9,505 | 10,685 | [
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2022-11-06T18:47:19 | OOP’s coworker doesn’t believe she has a peanut allergy | CONCLUDED | **I am NOT OP. Original post by u/goflipaburger in r/legaladvice**
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[**[DC] I have a peanut allergy and coworker refuses to accommodate me but the company has accommodated me otherwise. What do I do?**](https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/7p170i/dc_i_have_a_peanut_allergy_and_coworker_refuses/) - 8 January 2018
Hi all. I share an office with no windows with my coworker. We both on occasion eat lunch at our desks but he frequently brings a PB&J sandwich and I have a very bad allergy to peanuts. My blood test showed I scored a 4.5/5 on the allergy scale, or close to that, i forget the specific info on the diagnosis, but it is considered life threatening and I've been prescribed epi pens
My employer sent out emails in the past few months to the entire office making them aware than an employee has a severe peanut allergy but he keeps bringing it in.
I've never had to use my epi, but my lips and eyes swell and it is painful and uncomfortable.
He says it's all mental but I trust my doctor and science.
I hate to be dramatic and get HR involved but it is potentially life threatening and it's a bit scary, so I am considering it. What are my options?
I was thinking I would tell him that neither of us can eat in the office from here on out and if he finds that unfair he should contact HR. but idk if that is also illegal. Is that fine?
Thank you!
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[**[UPDATE] I have a peanut allergy and coworker refuses to accommodate me but the company has accommodated me otherwise. What do I do?**](https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladviceofftopic/comments/7p9l2n/update_i_have_a_peanut_allergy_and_coworker/) - 9 January 2018
I spoke with my coworker and he did apologize. He's agreed to eat all peanut products in the lunch room and will wash his hands before coming to our shared space.
In addition to that I had the office install a wall mounted purell dispenser on the wall inside of our office at the door so I can clear my hands after opening the door. (Edit: I've also been given wet one wipes and will stick to washing hands and first line of defense, wipes as second)
One concern I had expressed to him was that he believed my reactions to peanuts were mental. I told him his opinions are his own, but I need to follow my doctors orders. I didn't say this but I was worried that his opinions on allergies would lead him to "test" just how allergic I was, but from our convo I'm not worried about that anymore. Even with his opinion he saw just how anxious I am being around peanuts and agreed that it wasn't fair to me.
Today my lips are really swollen so despite my precautions yesterday I somehow ingested it :| not pretty, but did help for him to see it first hand (again lol)
I'm happy this was resolved inter-personally and without HR. its a huge relief. *PHEW!!*
Thanks for the advice!!!
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**Reminder - I am not the original poster.** | toohottooheavy | /r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/ynyssp/oops_coworker_doesnt_believe_she_has_a_peanut/ | ynyssp | 2,917 | 6,959 | [
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2022-11-06T20:09:01 | OP's parents wouldn't give him a family ring so he could propose to his girlfriend because OP's sister isn't married yet | CONCLUDED | From u/Throw_away_6675565
**Original: October 27th, 2022**
https://www.reddit.com/r/TrueOffMyChest/comments/yf151z/my_parents_wouldnt_give_me_a_family_ring_so_i/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button
Just need to get this off my chest.
My girlfriend's birthday is on Saturday and I plan on proposing to her. Our anniversary is 6 months from Saturday (April 29) and I think that would be a great day for a wedding. When my grandma died she left all kinds of jewelry to my mom. She always said if I wanted one of her rings to give to a woman in the future she would let me pick. I know my mom knows she said this. I asked my mom for one of the rings but my mom said "not yet". She and my dad said my sister will be upset if I get engaged while she is still single and not married. It's not a secret that she's desperate to get married. But that's not my problem. My sister turned 29 in March and I turned 31 last month. My parents said she'll be upset if I get married a month after her 30th birthday. So I went out today and bought a ring. It was never about money because I can afford to buy one. I thought it would be special to give my girlfriend a family ring. I'm still proposing on Saturday despite my parents forbidding me to. I'm just pissed off that they asked me to hold off until my sister is married when she isn't even in a relationship. Pisses me off but I don't want anything to spoil my girlfriend's birthday.
**UPDATE: October 30th, 2022**
https://www.reddit.com/r/TrueOffMyChest/comments/yhhi1g/update_my_parents_wouldnt_give_me_a_family_ring/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button
I proposed on Saturday like I originally planned to. I proposed with the ring I bought after my parents denied me one of my grandmother's rings. (As I said in my original post it wasn't about money. I could afford to buy a ring. It was about being sentimental because my grandmother always told me I could have one of her rings).
I didn't do anything elaborate or public. I proposed over breakfast and she said yes. She called it the best birthday gift she's ever gotten. She had the same idea as me and had suggested we get married on April 29, our third anniversary, before I even brought it up. So that's what we are doing. We both agreed we don't anything huge or expensive so we're going to keep it small.
It's 1:15pm now, about 28 hours since I proposed. When we announced the news my sister was upset just like I knew she would be and my parents were mad I didn't listen to them. I'm 31 and don't rely on my parents for money. I told my parents and sister if they are unhappy they can skip the wedding. It would suck if I didn't have any family there but I also don't want them to spoil this. I wasn't going tell my fiancée what went down but I did once my sister started melting down so she wouldn't be blindsided by any of it. She assured me she loves the ring and thinks my family is wrong. Her family had the exact opposite reaction as mine and they are all happy for us.
So that's it. All is well. My fiancée is currently at work and it may sound stupid but I miss her. She told me her coworkers are happy for her and I know mine will be too when I go in later today. EDIT: I also appreciate all the supportive comments in my last post so thanks for those.
***REMINDER: I am not OP*** | Typ0r8r | /r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/yo14mu/ops_parents_wouldnt_give_him_a_family_ring_so_he/ | yo14mu | 3,455 | 10,613 | [
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2022-11-06T21:11:25 | My (22f) sister (19f) keeps showing off to my bf (28m) | REPOST | **I am NOT OP. Original post by u/throwrajellygirl in r/relationship_advice**
trigger warning: >!sexual harassment!<
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[**My (22f) sister (19f) keeps showing off to my bf (28m)**](https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/lem1t6/my_22f_sister_19f_keeps_showing_off_to_my_bf_28m/) - 7 February 2021
First, i've always been jealous of my sister. I work hard to keep fit and stuff but she's just naturally slim, tall, blonde and has E cup boobs. She just sits around home and eats junk food and stays super pretty, and I have to go to the gym every day and eat healthy to look half as good as her.
A bit under a year ago I got a boyfriend, and he's amazing. He's, sweet, kind and smart, and also super fit and good looking (relevant because I can't imagine her seeing past that part). But the past 3 months or so she's started getting more flirty with him.
At first it was just jokes and fun, joining us and spending time with us. But lately it's been more
- She almost never wears a bra when he's visiting now, and always wears shirts that are practically see through
- If she's wearing a loose top she’ll find reasons to bend over in front of him
- If she's wearing a skirt or shorts she'll sit with her legs way open facing him so her panties are visible
- will find reasons to brush past him, if she's braless shell squeeze past him closer than she needs to so her boobs are against him, or she'll wear tiny shorts and rub past (ON HER TIP TOES!) so her butt brushes his crotch
Our mother denies all this. I tried talking to her a few times and shes said "It's *sisters* house, she can dress how she wants" and "well if he's looking at your sister that's his fault".
She denies it too of course but our brother noticed and I even overheard one of his friends teasing him the other day saying "I love it when *bfs name* visits because *sister* gets practically naked"
My BF handles it great. He makes an effort to look away and insists he thinks I'm prettier but I've noticed him get hard after she's done something a few times. Like last week she needed help moving her old tv, and our mother said he should help. As soon as he arrived my sister went into her room and changed into a loose tank top and didn't put a bra on, and said something about how she didn't want to get sweaty moving stuff even though he was obviously going to be doing all the work. She made every effort to stretch and bend over, I'm sure he must have seen her nipples when she first did it although he was looking at the wall when I was in there but he was hard when he finished.
Idk what to do, I trust him but I hate her doing it
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[**Update: My (22f) sister (19f) keeps showing off to my boyfriend (28m)**](https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/lti6u0/update_my_22f_sister_19f_keeps_showing_off_to_my/) - 27 February 2021
Hi just thought I'd make an update post. Not long after my post she wore a crochet sweater with no bra and her assets were clearly visible. We were in the kitchen and she came out to join us with no real reason but to show off.
Bf and I just started talking about people embarrassing themselves and he kissed me and kind of semi made out and he said loudly that I'm the only girl he'll ever want.
The next morning we all talked together and just asked her why she does it. She tried to deny it and we talked again later and had a D&M about finding her a boyfriend. She did it a few times after but has mostly stopped.
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**Reminder - I am not the original poster.** | toohottooheavy | /r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/yo2x75/my_22f_sister_19f_keeps_showing_off_to_my_bf_28m/ | yo2x75 | 3,564 | 8,423 | [
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2022-11-06T23:36:26 | After almost 3 years, OOP updates on a husband who expects "equality" in expense sharing. | CONCLUDED | *Reminder, I am not the OP. This is a repost.*
[*Original post from Feb 26, 2020 - AITA for wanting my husband to start paying more for our housing?*](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/f9tgvs/aita_for_wanting_my_husband_to_start_paying_more/)
Hi all. For reference, I am 29f and my husband is 30m. We’ve been together since I was 20, and got married when I was 26. When we moved in together when I was 25, we were splitting our rent evenly. I was making 65k and he was making 80k, and we live in a large US city. It didn’t really make a huge difference in my budget vs his to split rent 50/50 for 2600 a month rent.
However, things have changed. I got pregnant a few months after we go married (which we were so happy about and wanted). I didn’t want to not work, but I wanted to be home with our baby, so I found a full time remote job in my field of work. The downside is I took a cut to my salary from 65k to 50k. We continued to split rent in our apartment.
My husband, between being 26 and 30, has received a number of raises and has switched his job. He is now a senior business analyst, making roughly 195k a year. Since we were having a child, we were going to need a bigger apartment. We found a 3 bedroom for 4000k per month. He still wanted to split rent evenly, despite my protests, and despite me wanted to try to find a smaller apartment for less. In the end, I sort of let myself get walked over because he really is such a smooth talker and I do love him.
Anyway, flash forward 2.5 years, our rent has increased to 4400k. My take home pay monthly after taxes is roughly 3600k. I am paying 2.2k monthly in rent. I am also taking care of our baby and our home, doing chores, and cooking daily. My husband works from 8 - 6, but typically doesn’t get home until 7. I am burnt out. I barely have enough money per month to do things I enjoy. I feel like I am financially struggling while my husband is living a life of luxury. Yes he does take me out on dates and on vacation, but he doesn’t seem to understand that this is not enough for me.
I spoke to him two days ago very seriously, and when I asked about trying to split rent based on our income and pay an equal percentage of our income so that it is more fair than fully equal. His reaction stunned me. He asked me why having 1.6k extra a month wasn’t enough for me. I told him I’m not saving anything. He told me I should spend less on extracurricular activities - which makes me laugh because what extracurricular activities? All I do is work, cook, clean, shop for the house and raise our child. I told him I am basically working two full time jobs at once and I need help. Then he asked me if I am suggesting he pay me for being a mother and that stunned me - I really had no response to that.
Anyway, he told me that this is the lifestyle we agreed when we moved in together way back when. However, he doesn’t seem to understand, or rather does not want to understand.
Now he is mad with me because he thinks I am being selfish and has been acting cold to me these past few days. I am getting the itch to apologize and take it back like I always do, but I really feel I am right here.
Am I the asshole?
EDIT: Thank you all for all of the responses. I can honestly say I did not expect to get this feedback.
I am honestly overwhelmed and cannot reply to all of you, especially while I am working but I wanted to update some things here.
I love my husband with all my heart, and it is heartbreaking for me to read these comments and realize that I am being taken advantage of. I need to figure out the best way to approach this issue and solve it before it gets too far. I want to work this out and the fear of being alone is haunting me.
Yes I did sign a prenup that was overseen by his family attorney. My husband comes from extreme wealth and I was young and stupid and went with it. Head over heels like my mother always said I was.
As for his family - we get along great and they love me. It’s very confusing because they are such incredibly generous people, and they are family. But they don’t know about our financial situation because my husband and I believe that our marriage is private. And I would feel like I was betraying him by telling them.
I’m sorry I cannot reply to all of you, but please know I am reading all of the comments and making of plan of approach with them.
EDIT 2: for those talking about the dates and vacations bit that he pays for - I have asked him numerous times to help lighten my financial load instead of going on these trips and dates and he has refused. He said he can do what he wants with his money and if he wants to take us on vacation that is what he will pay for. If I could afford vacation I would pay. In fact, when we were in a more even financial situation, unmarried, not kids - I paid for almost ALL of our vacations and dates because I love to treat people. And I can’t do that anymore.
EDIT 3: I also DO NOT have bad spending habits. I worked my way out of my student loan debt in two years after graduating. I saved 60k but the time we got married, and I have that all in my retirement which I am thankful for because I can no longer contribute to it. This has NOTHING to do with how I spend. I am actually pretty frugal when it comes to shopping, especially since I prefer to keep things cheap for my budget.
**Verdict: NTA**
[*Update from Oct 29, 2022*](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ygtghg/update_aita_for_wanting_my_husband_to_start/)
I sincerely apologize for taking so long to return to Reddit and write an update to this. A lot has happened since. For those who don’t know, this post was originally written at the end February of 2020. The world, therefore after, fell apart.
Things were… not good with me and my husband at the time of this post. I want to preface this by saying we are still together to this day - and we’ve welcome and new child to the world - this time in a much healthier environment.
COVID changed a lot for me, along with the intense virality of the last post. Neither my husband or I got laid off of furloughed (and we were and are so thankful) but my husband moved to work from home. That perspective shift changed a lot for him when he say what I had to deal with day to day - things I could never properly communicate about how difficult it is to work while raising a child and what I brought to the table that he could never see. Despite his newfound appreciation for me, I still found myself resenting him.
It was in June that I finally proposed that we go to couples counseling, after doing my own virtual therapy sessions since March (from which I learned about why I let people step over me based on my childhood and past and how to overcome that).
To my surprise, my husband agreed and so we’ve been in weekly counseling since - even to this day. It helped him get to the root of his fears and address why he has trouble trusting me financially - which had less to do with me and more to do with what he was brought up believing and had been instilled with. After coming to the point of telling him I wouldn’t want to continue building a family or a life with him where he watched me struggle from luxury (with the help of our amazing counselor who guided us), my husband was willing to adjust our lifestyle to be more equal.
I’m not saying everything was or is magically perfect. I know people wanted an update where I left my evil husband and took my baby to start a new life but I did marry this man for reason - I saw the good - and past this struggle we’ve had to overcome, he’s become the man I knew I’d married.
We now have a joint bank account as well our own on the side. We each put 2/3rds of our income into the shared account and get to keep 1/3rd for ourselves. I am in a new job now and making much more money than in the original post (not that this effects the relationship, but so people know my 1/3rd is enough for me to enjoy).
It’s still a road to recovery but we have more trust between us and are no longer living a 50/50 lifestyle.
Again, I’m sorry for not updating sooner, but the past few years have been a lot for us (and everyone).
Thank you all for your support and advice - I promise I wouldn’t be sitting here typing this without it.
*I am not the OP. This is a repost.* | justathoughtfromme | /r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/yo6hed/after_almost_3_years_oop_updates_on_a_husband_who/ | yo6hed | 8,329 | 14,901 | [
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2022-11-07T05:26:35 | UPDATE ! : My partner told me he was excited to start a family, but went and had a vasectomy in secret. I don’t know how we can movie forward from this. | CONCLUDED | [removed] | crispyliza | /r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/yodqj5/update_my_partner_told_me_he_was_excited_to_start/ | yodqj5 | 9 | 1 | [
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2022-11-07T05:48:44 | New neighbors downed 20+ trees on their land, now cutting “protected habitat" | ONGOING | **I am not the OP. This is a repost sub.**
*Edit: Long/multiple updates. Trigger warnings: Ecological injustice? Mood spoilers:* >!Kind of frustrating!<
**Original post is [New neighbors downed 20+ trees on their land, now cutting “protected habitat” on shared easement](https://www.reddit.com/r/treelaw/comments/vrondf/new_neighbors_downed_20_trees_on_their_land_now/), posted in r/treelaw. Posted on 5 July 2022. Updates were provided on the original post by way of edits, marked with dates as warranted.**
They are planning to develop the natural hillside above our house into multiple single family houses. I know there is no recourse for the 20+ (very old) trees they cut already on their land, but they are now cutting willows down and brush in an area that is protected habitat. This is stated on their survey and development plan that they forwarded to me.
The land is private property owned by them, but we have an easement agreement covering the protected area. There are a specific breed of endangered toads that live there. The protected area is a stream/waterway that runs through both of our properties out to a large storm drain below my property.The EPA has already been notified by another neighbor and they were on site according to that neighbor but they have done nothing.
I have been taking pictures of the destruction and have asked the chainsaw happy neighbors not to continue but they aren’t stopping. Is there anything left I can do? I feel that this is absolutely morally wrong, but more than that there has to be some legal recourse for destruction of a protected habitat/tree grove right? Who can I contact about this?
I know this is a complicated situation and i am willing to clarify further if i’ve left anything out. Any insight helps.
Edit: Spoke to an attorney today, we are prepared to issue a cease and desist. Calling the neighbors again tomorrow morning to try to get them to stop on their own before going the legal route.
Edit 2: Update 7-8-22 City code Enforcement is trying to serve them a cease and desist. They are evading code enforcement by only working early mornings. They are still felling trees on the hill but not in the protected creek area. I didn’t realize how much brush they had cut prior but the creek is very brown and seems to be somewhat filled in with soil. Already confirmed with planning department that they are currently not permitted for any type of work.
Edit 3: Update 7-9-22 They have been served at least one cease and desist. They are ignoring that and continuing to cut brush and smaller trees in the protected area. They’ve also filled in the stream area with soil. They’ve cut branches off of one large oak tree in the protected area and on our shared easement. They are dodging calls from everybody and may be poisoning wildlife. We have found multiple squirrels and small mammals dead grouped in the same areas with no immediately visible cause of death or signs of predator interactions. The earliest fish and game said they can get an officer out is Tuesday. There may be nothing left to protect by Tuesday. The workers were asked by another neighbor what the plan is for the area and they said clearcutting. I am so incredibly frustrated with this situation and the disrespect these people have for the land and our community.
Edit 4: Update 7-10-22 Fish and Wildlife have told us that they are going to charge everyone involved with the “gross annihilation of a federally protected habitat.” They have issued one more cease and desist. They now have at least two cease and desists. One from F&W and one from the planning department. I woke up this morning to chainsaws again. They are actively violating both cease and desists and continuing to cut. They’ve cleared a large chunk of willows and pecan trees on our easement, probably 8-9 10+ year old trees today. They started work at 4 am. They’re speeding up to avoid getting stopped. Found out the grandfather is picking up random workers from a home depot nearby and paying them to clear cut the whole area. We are preparing to sue them for damages and potential liability if our house were to flood or get damaged due to their actions.
Edit 5: 7-12-22 Code enforcement was out this morning. No one has been on the property today cutting or clearing. F&W might have spooked them. I was told by the neighbor directly contacting the F&W agent not to talk to the offending neighbors any further directly in order to avoid anything that can be seen as harassment. They have left canisters of gasoline and oil out and open in the middle of the dead/cut brush. F&W has been notified of this as the risk of fire is very high in our area. We have had major wildfires in the area often and as recent as 2016. One day without cutting is a small win but whenever i walk out my front door i can see directly out to the street now because the tree line has been thinned so much. The coast live oak that they cut all the lower branches off of may not survive because it’s essentially been girdled. There are only about 15 trees left where there used to be 30ish, not counting the ones up on the hill.
Edit 6: 7-13-22 Bad news. F&W dropped the cease and desist order because they paid the necessary fines. The amount of the fines has not been disclosed. I do not know if they are still trying to charge them criminally or not. F&W said all the animals have migrated out of the area due to the destruction, so it is no longer their problem what happens to the area going forward. I am pissed. This seems so backwards but they refuse to do anything more. As far as i know, code enforcement has a cease and desist out still and there has been no cutting today. My faith however that the area will be replanted/restored is gone. I am trying to find a professional of some sort to inform us of the increased risk of flooding/damage to our property but i’m not sure who/what professional to call. I don’t even know if legal action against the responsible party is a possibility. Ideally we could sue them for damage to the shared easement and increased flooding risk but i don’t know if there’s any ledge to stand on there.
*Relevant comments on original post:*
https://www.reddit.com/r/treelaw/comments/vrondf/comment/iewgnta/
>What state are you in? Going to make a huge difference.
>>California
>>>(salivates in regulatory compliance)
>>>OP, if you feel comfortable sharing some extra details in a DM, I'm a California based regulatory scientist. I normally help developers manage the very complex California environmental regulatory scene and nothing pisses me off more than irresponsible development. Trees might be the least of their worries here.
>>>If you haven't been, take lots of pictures. If you can share a more specific location, I can give you names and numbers of people to call. This could be a "CDFW compliance officers show up and arrest someone" scenario.
https://www.reddit.com/r/treelaw/comments/vrondf/comment/iewq073/
>You said the trigger word endangered species the agency to call isn’t the EPA but CDFW the California Department of Fish and Wildlife. What county are you in? But yeah They could likely be in for a world of hurt. I assume you’re talking about the red legged frog?
>>Sorry, i’m not very well versed in this realm. This is the first time i’ve ever experienced dealing with something like this and as a big time tree hugger it’s feeling like a nightmare in slow motion. This thread has helped more than 5+ hours of googling
*E/N: I found this story to be immensely sad and infuriating. Stick up for your local ecosystems, folks.*
**The update post: [Update on last post- Neighbor downed 20+ trees on hill, now clear cutting protected habitat](https://www.reddit.com/r/treelaw/comments/w6dlt7/update_on_last_post_neighbor_downed_20_trees_on/). Posted 23 July 2022.**
This is a follow up on my last post, as the circumstances have changed dramatically. For more context please look at my last post.
Fish and Wildlife and the city planning departments have both dropped their cease and desist orders against the offending neighbors after they paid 6 figure fines. They will not be required to replant the area, serve jail time, or get their future permits pulled. The work they are doing currently is completely un permitted and has caused other homeowners property damages(downed fence, hit water main line, broken pipes). In addition to the environmental destruction. The city and F&W have essentially said it’s pay to play even though are multiple endangered species in the area including an endangered toad and an endangered bird. This is not to mention the other wildlife, coyotes, bobcats, squirrels, rabbits, hawks, eagles, etc. that have all moved out of the area. I am continuing to pester the city officials to pull their building permits whenever they put them in. In the city’s code (i read the whole thing) it says un-permitted work can result in a 5-7 year ban on building on a property. I am trying to hold them to that. They are planning on putting 6-8 houses on a 4 acre lot that is supposed to be a “suburban rural” community with lot sizes 1 acre+ per house.
There are only 6-7 trees left out of the 20+ that used to be in the protected area. Due to this, my house is at an increased risk of flooding/ storm damage as well as mudslide risk from the hill. I am working on getting flood insurance but i’d like to get a professional out to look at the house and give us a better picture of any mitigation efforts we can do to reduce this risk but I don’t exactly know what type of professional that would be. Engineer? Biologist? I would really appreciate help in that area.
Additionally, i would appreciate any advice on any other organizations i could contact regarding getting the area replanted or their building permits pulled. I have exhausted the EPA, Fish and Wildlife, and the city planning and code enforcement departments. I am also working on getting a surveyor out to redefine where the easement is on our property line to try and save the few trees left there. There was no reason for them to clear cut the area other than greed. I desperately don’t want them to win.
*Relevant comments on the update:*
https://www.reddit.com/r/treelaw/comments/w6dlt7/comment/ihd6xsa/
>This is a great and easy write up for a local journalist. You’ve done a lot of homework- do you have local officials refusing to enforce things in writing?
>>my other neighbor who i’ve been working with has it in writing. She seems very anti- press though. Not 100% sure why. I think she doesn’t want to make enemies with the new people.
https://www.reddit.com/r/treelaw/comments/w6dlt7/comment/ihdbj9e/
>Have you not called a land use attorney yet? I mean them shrugging off a 6 figure fine doesn’t make it seem like there is much else you can do. The money they stand to make off these new homes would outweigh any fines they could be hit with. Even with a red tag they can do a restoration plan and get it fixed/removed. It ends up being the cost of doing business. Especially if the cdfw and the city already came out and are backing out. A lot of jurisdictions code enforcement is a bitch but it essentially moves your project to the top of the pile. You pay fines and make mitigations buy the governing agency is forced to look at your project possibly months before it normally would.
>>I'm not 100% clear on what you’re suggesting. No we haven’t gotten an attorney as i wrongfully assumed the city would actually do something about this. I am working on getting one, but since its the weekend it will have to wait until Monday. We have already called code enforcement and they have done nothing because “they can’t pull their permits because they haven’t applied for permits” which seems backwards.
>>>Put in the work to find at least 2-3 attorneys and make the calls. It helps to show an urgency that might not be as clear if you’re calling Monday afternoon.
>>>I hate to say it, but you’re already way behind the curve here. Urgency is key if you’d like to get anywhere with this.
>>>>Yes i understand that it’s not ideal but i’m doing what i can. I’m not able to do much today or tomorrow as i work 10 hr shifts both days and i can’t exactly call people at 8pm and expect responses.
>>>>>Try researching environmental non-profits that take on cases and see if one is willing to do this pro bono? Or at least they could refer you to a good attorney perhaps.
https://www.reddit.com/r/treelaw/comments/w6dlt7/comment/ihdfc9m/
>Those are 6-8 houses that will be paying increased property taxes. I've seen building departments and towns turn a blind eye because they want the extra revenue. See if you can get the state involved. They won't care about the taxes and might be more likely to pump the brakes.
>Along with a bunch of neighbors we stopped a build too close to water on our lake. The Fish and Wildlife department said no. The neighbor then went and asked the county who said yes. They got their permit and started. Nothing anyone could do.
>>I agree that there is some level of corruption or ulterior motives going on here. I am hoping the fact that they have done all of this without permits will get some heads turning. I just contacted the town council in my area and they are offering to throw their weight behind it. I also didn’t know we had a town council until an hour ago so there’s that.
https://www.reddit.com/r/treelaw/comments/w6dlt7/comment/ihdc1pa/
>Do you have local environmental groups? Maybe a nature center or local science museum or 4H or even scouts? Getting protesters out there neing visible and loud might buy you some time.
>>we have been specifically told by fish and wildlife not to harass the people as we can get sued for that apparently. I believe that falls under harassment.
*E/N: There is more interesting discussion on this post, but due to length I'll stop here. But I'll say it again because it bears repeating: fight for your local ecosystems!* | Motor_Crow4482 | /r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/yoe4w3/new_neighbors_downed_20_trees_on_their_land_now/ | yoe4w3 | 14,159 | 2,370 | [
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2022-11-07T07:45:59 | Man's Fiancée Is Upset Bc He Doesn't plan To Wear A Wedding Ring (AITA Sept 13, '22) | CONCLUDED | Originally posted by u/ChiChomsky in r/AmItheAsshole on Sept 13, '22
[Original Post ](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/xd15yj/aita_for_refusing_to_wear_a_ring/)
AITA for refusing to wear a ring?
My fiancee (27f) and I (30m) have been together for almost 4 years and have been engaged for a couple months. We're starting to get more seriously into wedding planning and the topic of rings came up.
I don't wear jewelry. I barely wear colors! I'm on the autism spectrum and don't care to draw attention to myself. I didn't think this would be such a big deal but I never saw myself wearing a ring. My fiance has different views on the subject.
I knew her ring would mean a lot to her so I listened over the years, spoke to her friends and her mother and knew exactly what she wanted so I got that for her when I proposed. She loved it!
Fast forward to now and she's not as happy. I explained my views on wearing jewelry and she wasn't having it. She told me that it's a symbol of our commitment and thinks I want to "appear single" but nothing could be further from the truth! I absolutely adore her but I'm very stuck in my routines.
I didn't think this would be a big deal but she won't let it go. I told her I wasn't going to wear jewelry and she lost it. She told me I am selfish and won't talk to me. I don't get it. She KNOWS I love her. I show her everyday and she's making such a huge deal out of this. I need help, AITA?
*Verdict:* No Assholes here
*Update added as an edit*
UPDATE: I apologized to my fiancee for my reaction and for not considering why she felt the way she does and we had a long talk. Previously I really didn't understand why this was such an issue to her but that shouldn't have mattered; the fact is this is important to her and I care about how she feels.
I tried to explain why I'm so opposed to this and I think she mostly gets it. She knows I struggle with these sorts of things but really do try to work on these issues and don't use them as excuses.
I brought up many of the wonderful suggestions you all have made and I think we'll be able to figure out a good compromise. What we're leaning towards now is having a ring to wear for the wedding, family events, etc (I'm already so uncomfortable in those situations so it doesn't really matter!) and I'm thinking about a tattoo on the underside of my finger so I have that permanent symbol without the sensory problems or visual distraction.
Thank you all so much for the input and helping me to better understand this so it doesn't cause a rift in an otherwise wonderful relationship with the absolutely most incredible woman I've ever met. I truly appreciate you all taking the time and offering insight - it means so much to me. | KittenDealinMama | /r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/yog57s/mans_fiancée_is_upset_bc_he_doesnt_plan_to_wear_a/ | yog57s | 2,757 | 7,387 | [
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2022-11-07T14:29:43 | Husband (37M) is an addict. Do I (29F) keep trying or throw in the towel? | CONCLUDED | **I am not OP.**
Posted by u/onthefence1
TW: >!Substance abuse!<
Mood spoiler: >!Good ending!<
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[**Original**](https://www.reddit.com/knxzi/) _- September 22, 2011_
Married for 8 years. 4 year old daughter.
Over this past weekend I discovered my husband has been smoking pot. To help with nerve pain that is in the process of being treated/diagnosed by a doctor. This would be his 4th relapse during our marriage. All of the others were before our daughter was born, and once while she was a baby. The other relapses were pain meds while being treated for a back issue.
I have been very understanding. I have done all that I can to help him to help himself. I am starting to feel like I'm done fighting. I don't want to spend the rest of my life waiting for the next relapse. Of course once I found it he was all apologies and 'I'll do whatever I have to so I don't lose you and our daughter'. And while I feel bad that he's in pain and trying to help alleviate it without seeking drugs, I also feel like I've done this enough.
Our daughter is very much a daddy's girl and would be heartbroken at the idea of us splitting. For that reason alone I feel like I should try to make it work...give him another 'last chance'. While we've discussed things it's never been around her. But she is perceptive of the tension of course. Two nights ago she told him she never wants to live somewhere without her mommy and daddy both and it about broke my heart.
I just feel run down and not happy. I don't want her to know that part of him. He says maybe she'd be better off without him in her life everyday as he was better off without his dad (severe alcoholic). I go back and forth day to day between wanting to try to make it work and feeling like it's too late.
He will have to change jobs if he's going to seek recovery again as his job now prevents him from going to NA meetings. He was active in the NA community before this job (3 months ago) and had been clean for over a year and was doing well. I know the job isn't an excuse but it certainly didn't help the problem. I'm in the process of starting my own business and feel like I need him to pick up the slack (in wages and insurance) and he's unable to do it. So I'm stressed about no insurance, barely making ends meet if he works free lance (which is what he did before this job), and stressed in general I guess.
Hoping for someone who's been there and done that being able to offer some advice. We are going to counsiling (first appt next week) and trying to work it out as of now. I'm just starting to feel like I want and need more than he's able to give. I'd like to have another child, a husband that's able to support us as I open my own business, a "normal" relationship where I don't worry daily about a relapse, someone to take care of me. Maybe that's more than he can give? I often feel like I am taking care of him, checking on him, etc.
**TL;DR**: Husband is on 4th relapse in 9 years. We have a four year old that adores him. I'm not sure what to do.
**EDIT**: I posted briefly so as to not get into a zillion details, but to clarify since there seems to be some confusion.
My husband is an addict. I have a firm understanding of what that means. This time it was pot. So he wouldn't seek pills and doctor shop like he has in the past. His first relapse when I knew him ended with an arrest for breaking and entering (to steal pills) when I was six months pregnant. We lost our house. He went to jail. Our finances were ruined.
This was after over six months of black outs (I didn't know what they were at the time), missing work (fired from his job), severe depression, etc. At one point I had him admitted to the mental section of the hospital b/c I didn't know what was going on. Only that he had no idea what day it was or who the president was. That was the first one. It began with legitimate back pain being treated with a muscle relaxer, which he abused (took not as prescribed).
After jail we got things back together (after living with my parents for a few months and lots of help from his NA friends). Then he relapsed on our daughters first birthday. Was high for her whole party. I have no pictures from that day b/c he was the photographer and every one of them is blurry. Went to jail for a probation violation (I called his PO and begged him to test him b/c hubby had been doing so well that his PO had stopped giving him drug tests). That was ativan, muscle relaxers, ritalin.
Next relapse was last year on stolen pain meds. He medicates depression. When the depression gets out of control (he's being seen for that), then he seeks meds by doctor shopping. His back issues come and go. We put safe guards in place this time around by making it so I can access his medical records to be sure he's not asking the neurologist for pain meds. So he scored some pot from some people at work to take the edge off the pain. The doctor hasn't figured out the correct, non-narcotic, treatment for his nerve/back pain yet.
The reason I'm considering leaving is b/c the six plus months of blackouts and mental hospital stay were horrifying to me and I don't want our daughter to ever see that. Since that's my past experience I can't help but think it may happen again. So it's "just pot" this time. But it's still an illegal substance he used behind my (and his NA sponsor's) back. I have no idea if he drove our daughter or not. I couldn't tell he was using. I found it hidden in the garage. Thanks for all of your input. Keep it coming please.
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[**Update**](https://www.reddit.com/kswmh/) _- September 27, 2011_
Yesterday I moved my and our daughters things out. After reading all of your replies and considering my own happiness and the best interests of our daughter I explained to him that I couldn't do this anymore. Especially in light of all that I read about being codependant after a few people suggested that. I clearly learned that from my own mother who will do anything and everything for everyone else...even at the expense of her own happiness. I don't want to teach our daughter that that's normal.
I also found out that he was doing more than pot. (Though this was in the middle of packing my clothes. I had come to this decision before I found out he was in deeper than I thought.) He sold my Nikon and my kindle to buy drugs. I got everything of value out of the house along with our things. We're staying with my grandma and while our daughter took it very hard when we told her, she's doing quite well. I'm allowing him to come see her (supervised by myself or my mom), and I would bring her to play with him at the park or what have you. But he's not allowed to take her anywhere on his own. He's been clean for 3 days now. I won't deny her her father, but it will be on safe terms that he sees her. He has been very understanding of the rules I'm making about it. Says he's going to make it right.
We are in a safe and loving place and doing well under the circumstances. Yesterday was the single hardest day of my life. But today I woke up as if there were a new light. I didn't cry in the shower. I feel a bit more like my old self. I feel stronger.
Thank you, reddit. All of your advice and your clear opinions gave me the strength to do what I know was right.
**TL;DR**: I left yesterday, and while it was difficult to tell our daughter we're doing surprisingly well. We're taking it one day at a time. Thanks for the help! | rainingsakuras | /r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/yoom07/husband_37m_is_an_addict_do_i_29f_keep_trying_or/ | yoom07 | 7,491 | 5,097 | [
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2022-11-07T15:16:54 | I posted a thirst trap to teach my bf a lesson. | CONCLUDED | **I am NOT OP. Original post by u/left-humor7837 in r/offmychest**
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[**I 23(f) posted a thirst trap to teach my bf 28 (m) a lesson.**](https://www.reddit.com/r/offmychest/comments/y4ddt6/i_23f_posted_a_thirst_trap_to_teach_my_bf_28_m_a/) - 15 October 2022
Ladies and guys, I’m young and I’m not very experienced so I wanna know if I did the right thing. My bf, whom I love so much, keeps liking thirst traps of one of his friends, who he did mention that she made a move on him in the past. I have always had this bad gut feeling about this specific friend of his, and he tried to reassure me that there’s nothing and she has a bf. This girl, let’s call her Lexi, has a lot of typical bikini posts on her insta (I am not slut shaming her in anyway) but I’m just trying to get my point through.
Lexi has never posted anything about being in a relationship or having a boyfriend of any sort (I know you’d think maybe she wants to keep it private? But she’s the type of girl who’ll even post what water she drinks). A month ago, he liked a pic of her that was almost nude, and I asked him if he’s okay with doing that. He said yeah she’s a friend, I thought this is okay. And I asked him okay would he mind if I posted the exact same picture and wore that? He said “NO WAY”, so I calmly explained how it doesn’t work like that.
Today, I had this strong urge to check again and yet again, there was a picture worse than before that he liked and not just that, many others too of Lexi. I didn’t ask him anything, and I posted a thirst trap myself with the same caption as that girl, a picture he strictly told me he wouldn’t allow me to post anywhere. He hasn’t seen it yet, but idk if I’m doing it right or wrong. My plan was for him to see it and prove my point. Help me out? Guys can you please help me out cause idk how guys think!! 🥲
**Update:**
He saw it. He’s calling me, texting me non stop. Should I take my time or answer it?
**Update 2:**
We talked. He fumed, like I expected. He said “I told you about that picture, why did you post it and what’s with the caption? What are you trying to hint here?” I replied with “wait you don’t like it? I thought it was a good caption, you seemed to like it on Lexi’s post tho” him: “THATS NOT THE SAME?” Me: “oh? Is it not? We talked about this and you clearly said you won’t do that again, but here we are” him: “take the picture down!” Me: “it sucks yeah? You can like naked friends of yours but I can’t post for my friends?”
Bottom line he’s upset. Things are heated atm. I don’t know if I messed things up by this but I’m sure he did understand me clearly. Should I wait for him to contact me again? Delete the picture?
**Update 3:**
I didn’t delete the picture. It’s still up. He’s trying to explain but just comes back to the lines of ‘it’s not the same’. He apologized and said I’ve made my point clear. He said he’s going to do his best to be better, and he’ll respect my boundaries. Well he did ask what has gotten into me because I normally wouldn’t react like this, I told him I said it in the past but you still went ahead and did the same, I was bound to blow up after this. After all, I’m a human too. Bottom line, he apologized. I still didn’t take down the post tho. Lesson learned, I’ll take it down now. Maybe in a while.
**Most probably the last update:**
To everyone who sent me all the supportive messages and kind words, thank you so much. I appreciate it. I know there were many people who didn’t support my actions, but I’ve reached a point in life where I’m done playing nice. I’ve been walked on my whole life. I wanted to stand up for myself and prove a point.
Did it work? I guess. Do I regret this? No. I know taking the high road would’ve been better but believe me, I’ve taken the high road so many times now that I was bound to fall a little. I know it was a petty move, but it proved my point. Will this relationship last? Idk time will tell, but this just made me more confident. And to the one’s asking me for the link to the post in my personal messages, I’m not gonna give a link ffs 🤦🏻♀️
- To the boys who are personally dming me calling me a whore, and stuff like “insecure toxic gf”, I honestly don’t care so don’t bother dming me stuff like that. I don’t have to explain myself or my actions to you little boys :)
Ps, I know no one asked, but I am turning 24 in 6 days ! :) I’m looking forward to celebrating my birthday and it’ll be new beginnings for me.
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**Reminder - I am not the original poster.** | toohottooheavy | /r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/yopz2e/i_posted_a_thirst_trap_to_teach_my_bf_a_lesson/ | yopz2e | 4,540 | 10,683 | [
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2022-11-07T15:56:20 | OOP turns to Reddit for help recovering details of their abduction as a child. [TW: CSA] | NEW UPDATE | **I am NOT OP. Original post by** u/gdnqe **in** r/RBI
*Disclaimer -*
* *This thread was posted on BORU almost 2 years ago, since then there has been an update which IMO was long overdue*
* *OOP has made only one post on RBI and edited to add updates. The latest update is from the news.* *^(I have done some formatting for better presentation)*
trigger warnings: >!Abduction, Sexual Assault, Drug Addiction!<
mood spoilers: >!OOP is able to recover memory, Offender commits another crime and ends up in jail!<
[**I was abducted as a child.**](https://www.reddit.com/r/RBI/comments/ect6gn/i_was_abducted_as_a_child/) \- 19th December 2019
Hello, I’m hoping to find some help and guidance through this difficult process. As a child I was abducted and sexually molested, along with a neighborhood girl around the same age. I’ve desperately tried to find more information about this case in order to get answers and heal from this experience. However, my mother has refused countless times to tell me who the man was or what happened to me during/after my abduction. I believe the shame has made her try forget about it or at least try to make me forget. This happened nearly 15-17 years ago, when I called the Ventura County Office, they told me they only kept police records up to 10 years.
I’ve tried everything from asking other family members, to even searching online, but I’ve found NOTHING and I’m not sure where to go from here. I’ve tried to google my name but since this happened when I was a minor and my amber alert was cancelled later that day, that my name wouldn’t have been included.
What I know: I was around 4-6 years old, the girl was around the same age as me. So this must’ve happened anywhere from 2003-2005 (I’m 20 now) I lived in Saticoy, California, this is where I was abducted from my front yard (This town is close to Santa Paula so there is a possibility I could’ve been there as well) I was found at a park with the other girl. I remember the night I returned home to my mother she told me I was going to be on the news, but I fell asleep and after that, this incident was never addressed...
I’m hoping that finding out more about this case will bring me peace and help with my healing, I hope that one day I could be reunited with the girl who was abducted with me... but that may never happen. I’m desperate for any help/guidance/advice.
[**UPDATE 1**](https://www.reddit.com/r/RBI/comments/ect6gn/i_was_abducted_as_a_child/) \- 19th December 2019
I want to thank you all for all the love, advice, experiences, support, and help you guys have given me. This means the world to me and I never thought this post was going to get this much attention. I am overwhelmed (in a good way) and I wish I could reply to all of you. I made this post in the middle of the night and woke up to so many beautiful responses and I’m so grateful, I cried reading all of them. Right now I do plan on updating all of you as soon as I find out more information, I have started to remember things that have been buried and I’m trying to process everything in the best of my ability. Thank you all so much, this means so much to me.
[**UPDATE 2**](https://www.reddit.com/r/RBI/comments/ect6gn/i_was_abducted_as_a_child/) \- 19th December 2019
I decided to contact a few of my mother's old friends via FB, since my mother is a drug addict and I have no way of contacting her (plus I doubt she would ever tell me anything) and my moms friend had this to say once I asked her : [SS of Chat.](https://imgur.com/a/ghrKBJf)
She (mom's friend) had no idea I was kidnapped which is making me suspicious on rather or not I was involved in an Amber Alert, maybe it was something my mother just made up? I do remember going to the police officer once I was at a park my abductor dropped me and the other girl at. u/pseudoynymph told me that she found the article but I'm still waiting for her to send it and confirm that it's actually me.
u/invasionfromkat has been helping me these last couple hours, provided me with addresses my mother lived at and found the actual address in Saticoy. Weirdly enough, if money and drugs were involved then it would make sense to why shortly after my kidnapping my mother and I moved to Iowa. I started kindergarten in Iowa in 2005, making me 6 years old (my bday is August 18th 1999). So I must've been 5 when this happened.
[**UPDATE 3**](https://www.reddit.com/r/RBI/comments/ect6gn/i_was_abducted_as_a_child/) \- 19th December 2019 \[6.23 PM\]
New information was found, Detective Mesa ran the case and it was processed through Ojai Police Department, I’m guessing that’s where I was found. As for obtaining the records, the lady told me that I could only get my statements and it wouldn’t include the other girl OR the man who did the crime... Which doesn’t sound right, she did provide me with other numbers for Major Crimes and Ojai Department, as well as a case number... I’m really hoping I could get the full report that includes everything but I’m not really sure how any of this works, I’ll make sure to update anything new that is found.
[**UPDATE 4**](https://www.reddit.com/r/RBI/comments/ect6gn/i_was_abducted_as_a_child/) \- 19th December 2019 \[10.23 PM\]
u/pseudoynymph posted this: [News Article, 2005](https://imgur.com/a/cpYxWcU) and this completely matches up, the ages, the location, and the man.
His name is James Lewis Apodaca (also went by Jimmy) and he was 37 when he was charged. Did the math with the birthday given from a James Lewis Apodaca on the sex offenders list with the date of the crime, and it matches up.
My friend did a background check (it only provided a little information) [Sex Offenders Registry.](https://imgur.com/a/c62JBUF) It says there's several "Unlawful Sex Minor" charges, by any chance do you guys have a subscription to any of these background checks? I'm going to request my full report on Monday and look through everything as well as share it here...
But from what it looks like, he wasn't charged with any sexual offenses in my case. But it said in the posts found that James had to take parenting classes, so maybe the other girl was his daughter? Thank you so much for all the help and support, I'm going to see where this case goes and if there's a chance for me to press charges, I will. Thank you all, this means so much to me and all of you have been so kind. I deeply appreciate this.
[**UPDATE 5**](https://www.reddit.com/r/RBI/comments/ect6gn/i_was_abducted_as_a_child/) \- 19th December 2019
Hello, I want to thank you all for the love, guidance, and support I’ve received on here. A few weeks ago I was asked to be interviewed by u/endless_thread , a podcast hosted by Ben Brock Johnson and Amory Sivertson. I wanted to update this thread and share it with all of you.
More of OOPs story - [Podcast Link](https://www.wbur.org/endlessthread/2020/01/17/i-was-abducted) *(Audio as well as transcripts available on the page)*
I want to thank you all, because of the love and kind words I received I was able to find the strength to tell my story and the strength to reopen this case. Happy New Year, I hope it’s a blessed one for all of you.
[**NEW UPDATE - on James Apodaca (News Excerpt)**](https://kvta.com/news/oxnard-registered-sex-offender-gets-life-in-prison/) \- 05th August 2022
A registered sex offender from Oxnard is headed to state prison for what will be the rest of his life for kidnapping a woman in the Ojai Valley with the intent to rape her.
The judge Friday sentenced 55-year-old James Apodaca to 75-years-to-life in prison.
A jury in June spent less than a day before they convicted him on all counts in connection with the crime that happened in August of 2021 in Oak View.
On that night, Apodaca forced a woman into the trunk of his car. Prosecutors say she was rescued after a citizen heard her screams for help and alerted a deputy sheriff in the area who stopped the vehicle and then chased Apodaca on foot. They say Apodaca threatened the deputy with a metal pipe but was finally taken into custody after the deputy deployed a Taser.
The jury found Apodaca guilty of kidnapping with the intent to commit rape, assault on a peace officer, second-degree robbery, and several other crimes.
**Reminder - I am not the original poster.**
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[**OOP has clarified come points / assumptions in the comments to this thread. Please Read**](https://www.reddit.com/r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/yor50u/comment/ivixmz3/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3)
*Be Kind in the comments people. Please don't go around making assumptions. OOP can read your comments (not that it should matter, be nice regardless).*
**Please DO NOT try to dox OOP, they have found peace in the situation.** **Only the offenders name is mentioned in the post.** | raredontstare | /r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/yor50u/oop_turns_to_reddit_for_help_recovering_details/ | yor50u | 8,864 | 3,395 | [
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2022-11-07T17:38:32 | AITA for ruining a pregnancy announcement by telling the woman she may have taken the wrong test? | REPOST | **I am NOT OP. Original post by u/final-cheesecake-146 in r/amitheasshole**
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[**AITA for ruining a pregnancy announcement by telling the woman she may have taken the wrong test**](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/oanl22/aita_for_ruining_a_pregnancy_announcement_by/) - 30 June 2021
Obligatory sorry for the formatting. I'm on mobile and it's my first post on here.
My husband and I (30m, 30f) recently invited eight friends for lunch and were asked if we could also include a new couple, Doug and Sasha (both 30s). We have never met them, but everyone who was invited has, so we said sure.
At one point Sasha needed to use the restroom, and I told her to use the master since the other bathroom was occupied. I was helping my husband finish with food when Sasha came out of the master bawling and holding something in her hand. At first I thought she hurt herself, but she said something to Doug that caused him to drop to his knees, cry, and begin kissing her stomach. All of our friends begin screaming, jumping, and crying. It was insane.
Finally, Sasha tells my husband and I that she is pregnant. Of course, we congratulate both she and Doug and gave them a bag for the test (their request). I will admit I did find it odd that she brought a pregnancy test and took it at a complete stranger's house, but I did not say that.
Once everyone sat down to eat Sasha said: OP, I hope you don't mind that I used one of your pregnancy tests. I just saw them and had to. I responded (confused) I don't have pregnancy tests. Sasha says yes, in your drawer. I asked Sasha if she meant the blue box in the back of my lower left drawer that was closed.
She seemed to realize I was pointing out that she basically snooped and sheepishly said the box said pregnancy for pregnancy test. I said Sasha, the brand is Pregmate and those are ovulation tests. I do not own pregnancy tests. Did you take an ovulation test?
Doug freaked the absolute F out at me saying his wife was not an idiot and can read a box. He insisted Sasha get the test out and show me that I'm wrong. Sasha refused saying she didn't need to prove anything to a complete stranger and insisted they leave immediately.
One of the couples thought Doug and Sasha acted ridiculous. The other three couples thought I should have pulled Sasha aside to discuss my concerns and said I was an asshole for saying something in front everyone.
Honestly, the whole situation caught me off guard and everything happened so quickly. The whole thing was bizarre and confusing. I just didn't have time to put the pieces together mentally before asking about the ovulation tests.
Also, I found out later through one of our friends that Sasha did take an ovulation test, and she is not pregnant.
Verdict: NTA
**EDIT TO ADD UPDATE:**
I do not meet the criteria for a standalone update. I'm not sure if anyone will see this. In case anyone does ...
First, let me thank anyone who took time to read, comment, or give an award. I am very, very, very grateful for the feedback.
Based on the responses, today I called up one of my friends who was present (and took Doug and Sasha's side) and basically told her I was owed and explanation for wtf happened. Here is what I found out:
- Apparently my friends have know D&S for much longer than I realized. This is strange because they have never talked about D&S before this.
- Doug constantly brings up wanting to have a baby every time they see him.
- One night Sasha confided in the women that Doug divorced his first wife because she was "old and infertile" - she was the same age as Doug. Doug married Sasha because she was "young and fertilize" - Sasha heard him tell this to some friends. At that point D&S had been trying to conceive for over a year, and Sasha was concerned that Doug was going to leave her. They (the women in my friend group) tried to convince Sasha that this is not a healthy relationship, but she insisted she was happy and just needed to get pregnant. They "gave her the courage to seek medical assistance" which she had previously been too scared to do.
- Sasha end up getting prescribed fertility meds at her appointment and was scared to test with Doug, so they told her they would come to her house to be with her when she tested and be a support system for her.
- The day D&S were at my house was after Sasha's first round of meds and she was in the window to test. She had not planned on testing but had a "lightbulb moment" when I told her to use my bathroom.
- Sasha only took the test and did not steal anything. When the test came back with two lines, Sasha was in shock and immediately wanted to share with her husband and support system.
- Doug was mortified by the ordeal and D&S have been fighting a lot.
- Sasha has been badmouthing me to anyone who will listen. She believes I ruined her marriage and embarrassed her and Doug because my husband and I were threatened by D&S and the friendships they were building. Sasha told my girl friends they shouldn't spend time with me anymore because who can be friends with someone who treats a guest in their own home that way.
- My friends felt they had to take Sasha's side in the moment because they knew how important the pregnancy was to her marriage.
- I am back on good terms with my friends.
Also, yes my husband and I have been privately trying to get pregnant. I am pissed that now my friends are aware. Thank you to my fellow TTCers, past and present, who mentioned this invasion of privacy or gave well wishes. You all touched my heart.
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**Reminder - I am not the original poster.** | toohottooheavy | /r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/you84q/aita_for_ruining_a_pregnancy_announcement_by/ | you84q | 5,674 | 20,933 | [
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2022-11-07T19:48:45 | Girlfriend just made out with a random girl at a club right in front of me... | CONCLUDED | **I am NOT OP. Original post by u/swift_change in r/offmychest**
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[**Girlfriend just made out with a random girl at a club right in front of me...**](https://www.reddit.com/r/offmychest/comments/yg4uwe/girlfriend_just_made_out_with_a_random_girl_at_a/) - 29 October 2022
This happened about an hour or so ago. My (M24) girlfriend (F23) and I were out clubbing with a bunch of friends and roommates of mine and while we were all dancing I saw that she was getting pretty close with a bunch of different girls, both strangers and mutual acquaintances.
I really trusted her and even though I knew she was bi, we have had a talk about exclusivity and so I thought nothing of it. Well while I was watching her, almost in slow motion I watched her and some random girl just mutually go in for a kiss and began making out literally less than a metre away from me...
I went outside for some fresh air, then went for a walk outside the club, and now i've made my way home by myself and I feel so lost. I don't know what else happened there, and honestly I don't even know if she's realized I left. I know we were all drinking and it was only a kiss, but it was so blatantly right in front of me. I just feel disrespected and I'm hurt and I just need to vent...
**UPDATE:**
Thanks everyone who responded and took the time to try and help me with how I was feeling. Honestly I've never been flooded with so many notifications on reddit and the fast majority were so positive. This will be an update and a bit of more info for those were curious.
Many of the comments were very pro "revenge porn," saying I should use her for a threesome and dump her, or makeout with someone in front of her. Some comments were even a little mean. Ultimately her and I had previously set strong boundaries about being monogamous and what cheating looked like. This was clear to both of us which is why I was hurting last night.
I learned from some friends that she had gotten kicked out from the club for being too intoxicated and no one could find her, so I ended up taking a taxi downtown, finding her and taking her back home so she was safe and secure. Say what you will about this, but she is still an important person to me and I wasn't about to leave her alone on the streets, and I don't regret this.
After getting home it was pretty clear she wasn't in the best state to discuss what had happened and so even though it came out that she had cheated and she was crying and apologizing, I got her to bed and the bulk of the conversation happened this morning.
Initially she was pretty lost regarding where she was (alcohol related, neither of us are worried about her being drugged), and so when she first saw me she was excited but once she remembered the events from the previous night she started profusely crying and apologizing.
We talked and I forgave her since it seems that there were some underlying insecurities making her feel like I was losing interest in her which wasn't true, but mental health is cruel.
However, I did tell her we needed to take a break from dating. Obviously neither of us are thrilled about this, but I need this time to heal from being hurt and the two of us need to work on rebuilding trust. We're also in a new foreign city and we need to decide if this relationship is worth pursuing still.
Most importantly her and I were/are best friends before dating but I think the spark that made us click so well needs to be found again, and during this break we both have made promises to prioritize and rebuild our friendship first.
At the end of the day, we communicated and I'm glad I didn't do anything impulsive. I care about her, but trust has been broken so things have ended between us at least for now. Sorry if this isn't a very interesting update, but thanks for sticking around for the support and advice. Thanks all.
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**Reminder - I am not the original poster.** | toohottooheavy | /r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/yoy4v5/girlfriend_just_made_out_with_a_random_girl_at_a/ | yoy4v5 | 3,933 | 5,252 | [
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2022-11-07T20:32:18 | Million Dollar Student Loan Debt | CONCLUDED | **I am NOT OP. Original post by u/SnooChickens9459 in r/StudentLoans**
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[**This Can’t Be Real - anything that can be done?**](https://www.reddit.com/r/StudentLoans/comments/wb5l5l/this_cant_be_real_anything_that_can_be_done/) - 29 July, 2022
Today my mom received this [letter](https://imgbb.com/NWx51Yc) in the mail and I seriously can’t believe this is real.
Is it really possible for a loan that was under $10K to become almost a million dollars? And are they really expecting her to pay this back asap?
She’s worked in public service (as an educator for the public school system) for the last 25+ years and has struggled financially as a single parent for my entire life. She continuously gets denied for any type of assistance for her loans and even went through garnishment for 10 years where she was made to believe all of these loans would be settled at the end of this.
And now she’s getting this letter in the mail as she faces retirement. Like this has to be some glitch, or is this normal? Anything we can do? I can’t even process.
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**Relevant Comments**
u/Betsy514 (President | The Institute of Student Loan Advisors)
Jesus Christ. Thank you for paging me. I can't wait to sink my teeth into this one
u/Betsy514 (President | The Institute of Student Loan Advisors)
Op. Please reach out to me via email. You can check my post history and Google me to verify I'm legit but I run a non profit that provides free stude t loan advice. It would be my absolute pleasure to help with this one.
u/SnooChickens9459
We appreciate you so so much! My mom is going to reach out to you!
u/Betsy514 (President | The Institute of Student Loan Advisors)
Good. I cannot wait to get started on this!!!! Have her put to Betsy and Perkins issue in the subject line so I see it right away please
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[**Update Post**](https://www.reddit.com/r/StudentLoans/comments/yhy0gq/update_moms_million_dollar_loan_issue_resolved/) - 30 October 2022 (3 months later)
Great news! My mom and Betsy u/betsy514 were able to resolve the nearly million dollar loan issue!!
Turns out, it was legit and my mom did “owe” almost a million dollars.
It’s scary to think what would’ve happened if I didn’t make a post about it. At the end of the day, you all saved my mom’s life! (She was literally on the verge of a health crisis because of the stress this situation caused her).
Betsy was able to advocate for my mom and the university ended up acknowledging that this loan did actually qualify for forgiveness by a certain point. So instead of owing $955,000.02, my mom only has to pay ~$400 😭😭😭 unreal!
Happy to share more of if all have questions about what was done. Sharing this in the hopes that this thread will continue to inspire goodwill among us all!
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**Relevant Comments**
u/Betsy514 (President | The Institute of Student Loan Advisors)
Thank you for updating everyone. It was truly my pleasure to be able to help her. The whole situation was outrageous.
u/SnooChickens9459
If anyone is able to, highly recommend supporting u/betsy514 and the organization that helped our family save everything! A small token of support can go a long way. Betsy is way too humble and generous with her time - she did this all for FREE. She absolutely deserves all the goodness that returns her way!
https://donorbox.org/donate-to-tisla
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**Reminder - I am not the original poster.** | An_Asian_Guy_ | /r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/yozeng/million_dollar_student_loan_debt/ | yozeng | 3,424 | 20,115 | [
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2022-11-07T20:46:45 | OOP - Found out I‘ve been dating my father for almost four months. | CONCLUDED | I'm not the OOP. This was posted by u/callmefatherfacker in r/trueoffmychest.
Trigger Warning - >!incest, physical and mental abuse!<
Mood Spoiler - >!yikes!<
[Original](https://www.reddit.com/r/TrueOffMyChest/comments/ye2p8z/found_out_ive_been_dating_my_father_for_almost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) (27 Oct 22)
**Found out I‘ve been dating my father for almost four months**
Throwaway because I can never have anyone know this happend to me. I still have no idea how to process it. Buckle up because this is a long one.
So I‘ve never met my dad. He ran off when my mom found out she was pregnant with me. My brother was only 8 months old at the time, so he also has no memory of him. There are no pictures of him anywhere and my mom hates talking about him. All I know is that he was emotionally abusive to her and a real asshole.
I (25m) have a thing for older men. Call it daddy issues or a fetish or whatever you want but I pretty much only date or sleep with men 40 and up. My family doesn‘t know this or that I‘m gay for that matter. It wouldn‘t be an issue, they just never ask, we don‘t really share personal things like that. About six months ago I met David (fake name, duh) at a club. We hit it off great, he‘s in great shape for his age (supposedly 43, although that‘s a lie, he‘s actually 47 as I‘ve found out), really attractive, charming, etc.
He left for a 2 week work trip a few days after we met but we kept messaging each other and I really liked him, which is rare for me. We went on a date after he came back and have pretty much been dating ever since. He has a lot of money and I‘m kind of his sugar baby but that‘s not the reason I was attracted to him, definitely a plus tho. I didn‘t tell anyone we were dating except for two of my best friends. He also never met any of my friends or family and I never met his.
This changed last night. We were at a restaurant when out of the corner of my eye I spotted my mom. I don’t live at home and we only usually text if we need something, so I didn’t know she’d be there and tbh I still don‘t know why she was, she hates going out and thinks it‘s a waste of money. She had not seen us yet but David noticed me looking at her. I‘ll forever remember the way his face changed when he saw her. His expression went from his casual, charming smile he always had to this blank, panicked look. I obviously noticed and got a really bad feeling, so I asked him what‘s wrong and he just got up and excused himself. I kept asking him where he was going and grabbed him so he couldn’t just leave. At this point I was really confused and suspicious but I would have never guessed what would happen next. I don‘t think anything could ever prepare me for it.
At some point while he was getting up my mother must have spotted us because next thing I know she‘s next to our table, asking me what was going on. I couldn‘t really pinpoint her facial expression because it looked like she was horrified but again, at this point I didn‘t know David was my father and she doesn‘t know I‘m gay. David is visibly uncomfortable and looks like he wants to die, he was literally sweating. I, assumed this was because he didn‘t want my mother to know I was dating someone of his age.
I was about to try to explain what was going on to my mom when she said ‚why would you go behind my back like this?‘ I was so confused, because again, I DIDN‘T KNOW HE WAS MY DAD SO LIKE WHAT WAS SHE GOING ON ABOUT??? She probably assumed I had looked for and met up my father without talking to her about it despite her telling us how badly he treated her. To me, however, it seemed like she was acting crazy for no reason. I kind of took it personally and thought she was trying to tell me who to date and what to do so I casually told her that I was just on a date with my boyfriend and I tried to grab David‘s hand but he just jumped up and RAN away. He literally bolted like a fucking olympic runner. I cannot get the fucking image out of my head of him jumping between waiters to get away. Everyone was starring at us by this point, it was so embarassing and I was mortified.
My mom looked like she was frozen in place. I was more confused than ever, I had no idea what was happening. I had assumed she had asked me that because she didn‘t want me to be gay, which made no sense, she is very open and liberal, or date older men, which made a bit more sense but was still none of her business. But her expression just made my skin crawl, it‘s like I could feel the horror she must have been experiencing.
She just told me to get up and come with her. I was still confused but something in her body language told me to just do as I was told, I quickly payed for our drinks and appetizers (thank god the main course hadn‘t been served yet bc damn was that shit expensive). My mom excused herself to her friends and once we were in her car outside, we just sat there in silence for what felt like at least 10 minutes. I didn‘t really dare to say anything, I was still processing that my boyfriend just fucking ran away from me and my mother, I had also tried to text him but he wasn‘t responding (shocker, I know).
When my mom spoke, it sounded like she had been shot. She sounded so wounded, I think it might haunt me forever. She asked me who that man was and I explained to her and I went on about how much I loved him because again, I was still thinking of David as my boyfriend and assumed my mom‘s reaction was because of his age or gender. I cannot believe that I went on about how much I romantically loved my dad right to my mother‘s face. It makes me want to puke.
Long story short, she told me he was my father and that she instantly recognized him. That talk was the most traumatic experience of my life. We both started crying at some point and just wept for a while in the car, I was howling, it was fucking primal. I‘m not usually emotional or prone to crying so it was really shocking to me just how much pain a person can feel. Most of it id just a blurr now, especially compared to how clearly I remember every ofher moment of the evening up to this.
We drove home, I slept in my old bedroom. We haven‘t talked about it since but my brother is also staying at our place still (he‘s a med student, never moved out bc of housing costs) and he knows something‘s up. Tried talking to me about it and I just broke down again. How do I ever tell anyone about this?
The worst part is I think despite all of this I still love David? Just writing that makes me want to throw up. I cannot believe this is reality. Like how fucked is all of this? Why did this happen to me? I don‘t even think I could tell my therapist about this.
I tried messaging David but I just don‘t know what to say. The last message I sent him literally just says ‚please call me, I love you‘ (sent right after he ran away). Like what the fuck. What the actual fucking fuck. Like how do I come back from this? How do I ever look my mom in the eye again? I haven‘t left my room yet and I‘m in tears again while writing this. I can‘t even remember the last time I cried before yesterday and now I‘ve been doing it non-stop.
If anyone has any advice (as if, who the fuck else would ever accidentally do this besides stupid me) it would be highly appreciated. Also feel free to make dark jokes about this, it‘s my coping mechanism. I also did not proof read this as I don‘t think I can bring myself to read it again.
[Update](https://www.reddit.com/user/callmefatherfacker/comments/yhoxb2/update_found_out_ive_been_dating_my_father_for/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) (31 Oct 22)
**Update: Found out I‘ve been dating my father for almost four months**
Okay posting this the first time was a nightmare, so this is take 2. Please let me know if you see the comments.
Firstly, I really appreciate everyone’s comments although I’m not in a mindset right now where I can take them seriously. Just feels kinda weird when people tell me everything’s going to be alright when my entire life is in shambles. I do think I’m doing way better than I should, I think I’m just dissociating though.
HOWEVER WHAT I DO NOT APPRECIATE is countless people dming me, asking me questions about my sex life, so I will address this once and for all so yall can stop, you fucking animals. You know who you are. Yes, we had sex. No, I was not the bottom, I do not subscribe to such outdated and heteronormative ideals of what gay sex is supposed to be like. I am a switch and only date other switches. Yes, the sex was good, I don’t date people who are bad in bed. No, I will not continue to have fucking sex with my FATHER, send you nudes or give you sex stories of this. Like what the fuck is wrong with yall. Anyways, there you go. Have the tea you so clearly desire so you can fucking leave me alone.
I also don‘t appreciate the blatant racism in my dms and on tik tok, saying he wanted to ‚get rid of my black ass‘ or that ‚that‘s what you get for having white dna‘ like??? Are yall fucking crazyy?? Granted this was mostly in tik tok comments but some of yall have no shame dming some random person and just spewing blantant racism?? Also THAT‘S what‘s bothering you about this?? Bruh 💀 there was homophobia too but like ain‘t not even worth addressing that, yall know it‘s wrong and still keep going, no point in even trying to correct you.
Now, for all the other lovely people:
I think I need to talk about my mother first. A lot of people have A LOT to say about her and I just think I need to set some things straight. She is not a bad person and did everything she could to raise us to the best of her ability. She‘s also a black single mom living in a country where she is a minority and which put a lot of road blocks in her way but she always made sure to give my brother and I the best childhood she could. When I think of her I only have fond, loving memories. Some people assumed because of some of my previous statements that we are not a close family, which is definitely not the case. We just really value independence and freedom. I live about an hour away from my mom but still visit her monthly, we call at least once a week. We just don‘t force each other to confess things or information the person doesn‘t willingly give up. My brother for example has always been very open about his dating life with my mom, she‘s met all his girlfriends and they often came to family gatherings. I‘m just more private.
That being said, she has not always been perfect, because no parent is. A lot of people were upset at her for not telling us about our dad and trust me when I say that she is aware that she has made a mistake. But she also moved to another continent just to keep us away from him and make sure we never run into him. There is no way that she could have known that he would move to the same country as us years later. I‘m not gonna name specifics because I don‘t want anyone to recognize this is me since a lot of this is already quite specific but she really did her best to make sure we never have to go near him and none of this is her fault. I don‘t blame her in the slightest, if anything I blame myself for being so angry at her whenever she tried to tell me or my brother about him. I was never interested in finding out more about my father, in truth I resented him deeply for leaving my mother alone to fend for herself in a world that wanted to see her fail.
Since this has come to light a lot of things I didn‘t know about my family have also been brought up. I found out that my brother and my mother often talked about my father, just not infront of me, since I was so adamant to never learn anything about him (I remember throwing a tantrum because my brother kept asking when dad‘s birthday was). My brother knew his full name, had seen pictures of him and knew most of the full story of what had gone down between my mom and him. It is not my story to share as it is fully hers and so I will not go into details but know that he was not just emotionally abusive like I had believed my entire life, but also physically and financially. The story of him leaving when she found out I was pregnant isn‘t fully accurate either. He apparently threatened to harm her if she didn‘t get an abortion and so she packed her things up and left him. According to her he never reached out or tried to find her and she moved to make sure it would stay that way. She really just tried to protect us and I‘ll never be able to truely articulate how grateful I am.
Obviously finding out about all this just makes me feel worse, I always shut them out when they tried to tell me about my father and refused to learn anything about him because I naively presumed that I was better than him and therefore didn‘t need to bother learning anything about a man I wasn‘t good enough for. Obviously that backfired and here we are. Thankfully my mother does not blame me whatsoever. She is extremely understanding of my side and we‘ve convinced her to find a therapist and she also joined group counseling for victims of domestic violence.
My brother on the other hand is absolutely livid. I felt we had to tell him eventually and after consulting with my therapist we decided to just rip it off like a bandaid, set him down and I basically first told him I was gay (he did not care, as expected), then that I was into older men (he was very confused where this was going and also why I was telling him, I don‘t think he was ready for it or took it well) and then that I met dad and that bomb kinda hit and took all his attention at first because he‘s always wanted to meet him and really struggled with not having a father, unlike me. His excitement quickly faded though when he connected the dots of me being into older men, meeting dad and my mom and my weird and worrying behavior for the past days. It fucked him up pretty bad, I really regret telling him at all. He can‘t come to terms with it and is visibly disgusted by the thought as he always viewed our father as our FATHER, while I viewed him as some afterthought sperm donor that ran off. He hasn‘t really talked to me since we told him and when he does it‘s disgusting remarks, insults or passive aggression.
My mother is furious with him and it‘s not helping. She‘s always hated when we‘d fight but now especially she feels like he‘s treating me unfairly since I‘m „already going through so much“ but I think he‘s fully within his right to be angry or disgusted, he‘s just being such a dick about it. It‘s also really uncharacteristic of him to act like this. He even went as far as to call my aunt (mom‘s sister) and tell her what happend. Thankfully we can trust her to keep it a secret (her husband and her are basically a second set of parents of us but I still think it‘s really fucked up of him to do that). He also refuses to see a therapist and keeps saying that I‘m the mentally messed up one, not him, whenever we try to bring it up. It‘s only been like less than 48h since we told him though, so I‘m sure he‘ll come around.
He also really wants to go meet dad, which everyone keeps telling him is a terrible idea because he really is the worst (stay tuned bc god damn) but he‘s so stubborn and keeps yelling at me to give him dad‘s address. He‘s so obsessed with this idea of a man that doesn‘t exist and wants shit to do with him. Even before I found out he was my father, he never wanted to meet my family. Granted, I also didn‘t want him to meet them but the one time we talked about it he laughed at the idea as if it was preposterous.
Now, he‘s really the only person I blame in all of this besides myself. He really is a little cowadly piece of trash and I wish I had never fucking met him. I think this entire thing and his behavior after being recognized just really broke something in me that I didn‘t really know was there. I never cared about him before but now I genuinely know that he will also never give a single shit about me and that really hurts.
Basically I kept texting and calling him the evening of what we‘ve referred to as THE EVENT because I was desperate and confused and couldn‘t really believe what was happening. I then texted him two more times the day off and called once. No response to either.
Then two nights ago I decided to call him again even though everyone in my entire life was against it. This was also just after we told my brother and we had a huge fight about it. I was really vunerable and idk what the hell was fried in my head but some part of me must have believed that he‘d comfort me. He had been extremely emotionally available during our relationship, which very much contratsd what my mother had told me about him and their relationship. I didn‘t think he‘d pick up the phone but he did and it was fucking terrible. He immediately started yelling as soon as he picked up (he had never yelled at me before, ever), started calling me all kinds off slurs like faggot and pussy which is just ABSURD, started threatening me that he‘d off me and my bitch mother if I ever contacted him again, said that if I told anyone about this that I‘d regret ever meeting him (jokes on you, bitch I already do). It was such a fucking turn of character I was genuinely not prepared for it and had no idea what I was supposed to do. I just cried on the other end of the phone while he kept yelling at me till he finally hung up. The entire thing was utterly terrible and I can‘t believe that I didn‘t trust my mother and listened to her sooner when she clearly tried to tell me how horrible he was on multiple occasions throughout my childhood. I just feel so stupid. I‘ll probably never contact him again but I cannot believe I undid all the efforts my mother put in to keep us safe all those years and let him play the both of us in the exact same way just bc I wanted some dick.
I took some people’s advice and sent the post to my therapist with a short email explaining some more private stuff. I sent it around 5am the day after *the event* and then went to sleep for almost 15hours and woke up to tons of missed texts and calls from her, starting with extreme concern and then slight annoyance because I think she thought it was a sick prank since I didn’t respond. We talked on the phone later and she told me that I can call her whenever I want (she is not an in person therapist, which I prefer). I do feel security in knowing that I can confide in her and I’m glad I told her. I also joined some online support groups, most of them either shamed me bc of the age gap or my sexuality so that didn’t really do much good.
I’ve also told my two best friends, against what some people advised. I trust them with everything and they wouldn’t be my friends if that wasn’t the case. I will be using fake names for this but basically Leah, my oldest friend (we met in kindergarten) called me on facetime, not unusual. The night of this happening I had told her I was sick so she’d leave me alone but she called me to ask how I was doing the next day. I had just had another mental breakdown and was still sobbing when I picked up the phone and she was obviously concerned and I just kinda blurted it out. Of course she thought I was joking at first, asked me if I was on drugs or some shit (I don’t even do drugs lol) because I pretty much never cry. I then just kinda told her everything and it was really freeing. She was the first person I told. I then sent our other friend the tik tok of this and just let her react to it, then told her I wrote that and let Leah handle it. I’m really grateful for them, they have been insanely supportive. I’m still staying at home and they’re helping me to feed my cat and look after my plants for as long as I need. No judgement at any point, just them asking me how they can help. Get yourself friends like this.
So, all in all, my dad is trash to no one‘s suprise, I might have mentally broken my brother, therapy works and my mother and friends are the best people on this planet. I‘ll keep answering questions for the next few days and I think after that I‘ll log out of this reddit account for good. Documenting and sharing this with people has really helped me and I appreciate all the comments, even if I cannot do much with them to help my recovery at the moment. Also the jokes are top tier, keep em coming. Everyone‘s tiptoeing on eggshells around me so it‘s nice to see the comments just go feral. I just want to feel normal again.
**Reminder - I'm not the OOP** | prettiergenghis | /r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/yoztix/oop_found_out_ive_been_dating_my_father_for/ | yoztix | 20,657 | 8,392 | [
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2022-11-08T09:10:36 | The Flairs. Anyone want to clue me in? | INCONCLUSIVE | [removed] | O2Bee | /r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/ypghbe/the_flairs_anyone_want_to_clue_me_in/ | ypghbe | 9 | 1 | [
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2022-11-08T09:43:23 | OOP is losing his fiancé because he did something against her wish | CONCLUDED | **I am not OP.**
Posted by u/After_Ad9564 on r/TrueOffMyChest
[Original](https://www.reddit.com/r/TrueOffMyChest/comments/y6hjwq/im_losing_my_fianc%C3%A9_because_i_did_something/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf) - September 17, 2022
trigger: >!mention of SA, suicide!<
I (m32) proposed to my fiancé (f39) 2 months ago and she said yes. I love her with all my heart. she's very sweet and intelligent and drop dead hot. Only problem that we were facing was that I haven't met her family because she has not had any contact with them for 20 years and for my family that's a red flag. Mum suggested to me that since we are engaged now they're my family too so we contacted them. Her mum was so sweet and she started crying the moment I introduced myself. Her father is also very kind.They talked to me about her childhood, how wonderful and kind she always been and it made a lot of sense what she turned up to be. I thanked them for raising such a beautiful human.
I kept in touch with them and I soon met all her siblings. She has 3, then I introduced them to my family and I was happy they got along. Mum suggested then that the next step is to invite my future in laws to my parents house and take my fiancé there so she could finally work on the dispute that she had with them. She never told me and when we asked her parents they didn't know either.
When she got there she screamed" what are they doing here!" and ran out. I have never heard her raise her voice like this before. I ran after her but she just drove off. I went back and apologized. Her mum was crying her eyes out and so were her sisters. her dad and brother looked cut up.
When I went home she was crying and packing. She told me that she needed to move out and that she was staying with her friends. I also started crying and asked her to tell me what happened. When she was 18, her brother(19 at the time) r\*aped her best friend's little sister (then 17). He apparently had feelings for this girl for years but she never was interested so one New Year party he waited until she was very drunk and r\*aped her. He later boasted about how he finally had her and now can move on. He got away with it even when everybody knew he did but there was no evidence. My fiancé tried everything to help convict him because she was the one who overheard him boasting to his friends and discuss what he did to that girl. My finance's family did everything to protect him. A year later the girl committed suicide. That broke my fiancé who still suffers from severe depression.She said the indifference in her family's reaction when they found out about the girl's fate still makes her blood freeze in her veins. She knew she could never forgive them. The way she was talking, like this happened yesterday. I felt sick and I wished I didn't have to ask. I have seen her brother and how proud her parents are of their only boy who's successful and a father of two. I apologized and begged her to stay. Told her that had she told me all this before, I would never have brought them back to her life. she said that I should have trusted her judgment since I always boasted about how kind and just she was.
She called me later and told me that she couldn't do this anymore. Today she left the ring while I was at work. and tok the last of her stuff. I feel like my world has turned upside down. Tell me what I should do to make her forgive me. She's so angry with me and my family and I totally understand her. Mum says that my fiancé is being overdramatic now and all this has happened so long ago and we should all move on since her family still loved and wanted her back. I don't know what to do.
update:
God morning. What a rough night I had after trying to read all your comments dms and messages. Filled with nightmares. I have called my fiancé before breakfast. I told her that I love her more thatn she even knows and that I know she loves me. That I never in a million years thought people who loved each other this much would break up. I apologized and promised to make it up to her for the rest of my life if she gave me a second chance. I told her we can move away from our families and I promised her that it would be the two of us from now on. Nobody will have a say in how we live our lives but us. She was crying the whole time and I must admit that I'm not a cryer myself but I haven't stopped crying since yesterday. I hope she gives me a new chance to make it up to her
cheers
[Update](https://www.reddit.com/r/TrueOffMyChest/comments/y7ak0d/i_hurt_my_fianc%C3%A9_and_lost_her_trust_update/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf) - September 18, 2022
#I hurt my fiancé and lost her trust. update.
I have a short update:
I want to start by saying I've never experienced so much hate in my life before like what I got on my post from yesterday. I'm not mad however I appreciate that you took my fiancés (well, ex) party because she deserves all the love and support. I hurt her badly and I can't even describe how much I regret my actions. The only thing I can say is that it was never intentionally done to hurt her. I thought I was doing something good.
We are no longer together. She said that she couldn't come back from this and that she wanted to be alone now. I told her that I love her like I never loved anyone before. I have loved her for over 10 years. She said that she loved me too but that she needed to do this on her own now. So we are done.
I need a break now from everything and especially from my family. I will never blame my wretched behaviors on anybody. I chose to do the wrong thing, nobody made me but I still feel resentment towards everyone who helped me hurt my girl. I need to be alone now too.
thank you again.
ciao
update:
trigger: >!Abortion!<
I mentioned earlier that my fiancé is been home on sick leave. her best friend called me now and we talked. my fiancé is pregnant and she's terminating it. She doesn't want me with her when she goes through with it. I am shattered now and I don't know if I ever can collect the pieces. How life can turn upside down in a matter of weeks. I lost everything and I only have myself to blame.
this is the last update .
[Update #2](https://www.reddit.com/r/TrueOffMyChest/comments/y9xdgo/my_fianc%C3%A9_agreed_to_couples_therapy_but_without/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf) - September 21, 2022
#My fiancé agreed to couples therapy BUT without the promise of forgiving me or taking me back. I feel like I got a new shot at life
I was hesitant to make this update because you hate me so and also I'm worried that your strong feelings of hatred will be misdirected to my fiancé. but I chose to write here the first time and I want to see it through and hopefully, people can learn from my mistakes, plus I'm anonymous so yeah...
I want to thank the people who reached out in my dms, who didn't dare to comment out of fear of being downvoted all the way down to hell. thank you, your support helped me not lose my mind completely. This update is for you first and foremost because I literally can't answer all of you.
My fiancé called me today after her appointment at her shrink. she asked me if I wanted to have lunch with her. she looked so sad and it broke my heart. this was the first time I saw her after she moved out. I just wanted to hug her and break down crying, ask her forgiveness but I didn't want to make it about me so I just kissed her cheek. she didn't talk for at least 30 minutes, just looked out of the window. I waited. she then told me that it didn't matter that I didnt hurt her intentionally, I just did. I agreed. she started talking about her appointment with her gyno. she's 6 weeks. we have been trying for a year, we never made a big fuss, we just thought that if it happened it happened but I know that she wanted a baby and that's why her friend friend told me because she was terrified that my fiancé is going to regret it. I told my fiancé that it was absolutely 100% her choice wether she wanted to keep it or not. but that she should never do either from a place of hurt seller anger. she should do it because it feels right for her. she then told me that she is going to think. little bit more. she also told me that she was ready to talk to my about her life with her family but never any details. and only in therapy sessions. she also said that she was ready to listen to me and what made me do this stupid thing t her. but also only in therapy. she also told me that she doesn't want to move back with me and that she wanted to postpone the wedding. she refused to take the ring back and said she will ask for it when/IF she thought we had a chance. she said that if we separate, she wants to know she's done everything. I told her I love her more than anything and she said she believed me and that she did too. we are starting therapy on Tuesday and will hopefully continue every week.
I've spoken to her friend now and she said that my fiancé looks like she's feeling a bit better after our lunch and that she even made a joke.
so I'm hopeful.
have a lovely Friday
[Update #3](https://www.reddit.com/r/TrueOffMyChest/comments/yeqf8k/nobody_asked_but_heres_one_final_update_and_then/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf) - September 27, 2022
#Nobody asked but here's one final Update, and then I'll leave you be
Boy I suck in this banana game here!
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Look before you start the attack on me (also leave my baby alone, we are keeping them), I just want you to know that I love my girl. I have loved her for years, even before we got together and when she finally agreed to go out with me I started looking for rings. I have never done anything to hurt her before. She knows this and I appreciate that she took it into consideration before throwing me out of her life. What I did was unforgivable but sometimes good things can come from a bad situation. In our case, she will never have to carry that burden alone. I can finally share her secret and support her. After her initial feelings of anger and betrayal have calmed down I can see that she's tortured and while she has been in therapy for years she's still has a long way left until or if she comes to terms with what happened. I'm just glad that I can continue this journey with her.
So we had our first session with a therapist. It was emotionally draining. I hated seeing her so hurt and but I realized how important it was. I always view her as this beautiful stubborn strong creature, and maybe I have handled her accordingly. She is tough so I can be tough. you get me? Beside therapy, she has asked for space, and I would have obliged had she not called me every night to talk for hours (how cute is that?) Last night I asked her to move back and she didn't hung up. She didn't answer me first and we continued talking about other things. Before saying good night she told me that she wanted to come home. We will continue therapy but she is moving back tomorrow and that's why I'm making this update now. When she's home I don't want to be busy answering comments.
Since we both have no relationship with our families we are contemplating an elopement around Christmas. A wedding seems too excessive and waste of money(planned for august next year). Instead, we could do something small and romantic for our friends and maybe donate the rest of the budget. This idea excited her very much and she already started planning and dreaming while I listened. I just fucking love this woman.
**Again I am not OP** | TheDarkySupreme | /r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/yph56t/oop_is_losing_his_fiancé_because_he_did_something/ | yph56t | 11,635 | 3,189 | [
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2022-11-08T16:00:53 | Step-Daughter says she hates me and wished I'd get Covid so "I wouldn't be around anymore" | REPOST | **I am NOT OP. Original post by u/raedwaldrex in r/stepparents**
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[**Step-Daughter says she hates me and wished I'd get Covid so "I wouldn't be around anymore"**](https://www.reddit.com/r/stepparents/comments/kqy59e/stepdaughter_says_she_hates_me_and_wished_id_get/) - 5 January 2021
Sorry, long first post but want to get it off my chest
So I have a stepdaughter who is 14. Ive been with her mother since she was 4, she doesn't see her biological father at all (his choice) and he has played no role in her life, I'm the only father figure she's really had other than her grandfather.
We used to be fairly close, up until she was around 12 or so and then it was like someone had flipped a switch. She's constantly disrespectful, says hurtful things like she wishes I was dead and even goes to great lengths to avoid seeing me or being near me. She is only ever nice to me if I have something she needs or wants, like money or if I'm making her food or something.
So her school called our house phone today to see how she was and made sure she had all she needed to do her school work as we are back in lockdown. She bought the phone back in to me after the call and I asked if everything was OK. We had a semi-normal conversation for a change until she said she wanted to go back to school. I told her she couldn't as her mum is extremely vulnerable and if she got covid and passed it to her she would get extremely ill.
SD: If I passed it to you would you survive?
Me: I don't know
SD: well I hope you get it and don't, then you wouldn't be around anymore.
I've spoken to my wife repeatedly about the things she says and she has spoken to her but the response she gets is that my Step Daughter hates me and always has and any time she's been with me (like when I took her to the football or went out geocaching with her, she was faking enjoying spending time with me) and all those times in the past when she's said she wants to call me "dad" were fake too.
It breaks my heart. I feel like I've done something to change her view of me but I don't know what as she won't say. She won't give a reason why she says she hates me and
she always has. I tend to stay out of her way, to avoid it all which makes me sad and causes tension with my wife sometimes.
Is this normal behaviour? My wife says its normal teen girl lashing out behaviour but even her friends have pulled her up on it when they've been round in the past and heard what she says to me. I tend to let it slide mostly but that Covid thing, that was harsh.
**Edit:**
So this has blown up way more than I expected. Thanks for all the responses there is much for us to look into. Much to my surprise she's decided to spend the evening with us playing a board game with just me and my wife which is good as its allowed us to have a proper chat. My wife has got her to apologise, and I told her how much that stuff hurts me.
We’ve gone through some stuff briefly and she is very anxious about school, her life, where she fits in the world. We think she may have anxiety as she's over worrying about things she shouldn't be and things she thought we'd be mad about but aren't really (her choice of partner and what she wants to focus on exams wise) I've just told her I want her to be happy and whatever she chooses to do I'll support her.
**Edit 2:**
Incidentally, I'd recommend the game "Where is Moldova" brilliant board game. Not quite up there with Zombocide bit we like it.
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[**An update from my original post about SD wanting me to get COVID**](https://www.reddit.com/r/stepparents/comments/ll4804/an_update_from_my_original_post_about_sd_wanting/) - 16 February 2021
Hello all. You may have seen my previous post about the issues I was having with my step daughter
Well I didn't know where to put this but just had to put it out there, so yesterday I took my youngest (my biogical) son to the park and much to my surprise she wanted to come too.
Cue the following conversation.
SD: Can I tell you something.
ME: Yes, of course
SD: You do know I don't actually hate you right? Just wanted you to know that.
ME: Thanks for telling me, I love you too
I feel so happy now. We are in such a better place and its a load off. Her general attitude around me is much better, and I think now she knows I'm there for her, for good, it has helped.
Just wanted to post this somewhere as it's brightened lockdown up so much knowing that.
For anyone else, stick at it. Step parenting is so hard but it's worth it in the end.
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**Reminder - I am not the original poster.** | toohottooheavy | /r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/ypqfnw/stepdaughter_says_she_hates_me_and_wished_id_get/ | ypqfnw | 4,598 | 14,004 | [
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2022-11-08T16:33:49 | OOP - Fiancée's cousin tries to hijack the wedding. | CONCLUDED | **I am NOT OP. Original post by** u/irishlyrucked **in** r/AmItheAsshole
trigger warnings: NONE
mood spoilers: >!Happy!<
[**AITA for telling my fiancee that if her cousin gets married on our wedding day that they won't be welcome at our wedding?**](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/i5eqfx/aita_for_telling_my_fiancee_that_if_her_cousin/) \- 7th August 2020
My fiancée, Nicole, and I had chosen our wedding date, booked the venue, and notified the immediate members of the family of the date and the pending save the date mailings. Nicole's cousin, Amber, found out that we had announced the date and called Nicole upset that we had booked a wedding on her wedding date. We were confused because Amber and her boyfriend weren't even engaged, but she and her boyfriend claimed that they knew that was the date they were getting married. They were going to do a courthouse wedding with their families, then wanted to come to our wedding.
I told everyone I wasn't comfortable with that because Amber's side of the family are completely self-centered, and I didn't want them trying to take over our wedding/reception. I stood my ground and told Amber and her boyfriend that if they got married on our wedding day, they wouldn't be welcome, and I'd let the planner and venue staff that they would be turned away, and I'd be willing to hire extra staff to make sure they were refused entry. We also found out that the boyfriend lost his job, which just cements my thoughts that they're trying to get a free reception out of my and my fiancée.
Nicole is upset with me because they're family, but I'm just tired of Amber and her boyfriend trying to make every situation about themselves, now including our wedding.
So, AITA?
Edited to fix paragraphs and no, not getting married on Halloween
Edit 2 My fiancée doesn't want to share the wedding/reception for those assuming she wants to. She just doesn't want to deal with the familial fight that will break out between her side of the family and Amber's side of the family.
Her parents are paying 1/2 I'm paying 1/4 and my parents are paying 1/4
We're not getting married on a weekday. The city Amber lives in has Saturday hours for the JP courts for weddings.
**Verdict - NTA**
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[**UPDATE**](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/il8a51/update_aita_for_telling_my_fiancee_that_if_her/) \- 2nd September 2020
Well everyone, a lot has happened in the last few weeks. Nicole's cousin and fiancée have announced their wedding date...two weeks after ours.
It came down to a comment I made in front of Nicole's twin sister (Brittany). Amber had announced their engagement, and said that they were getting married in October, but no specific date. The three of us were chatting about things when Brittany brought up the announcement and mentioned how it seemed they were trying to steal the spotlight again, and I muttered about them even stealing the wedding day. Nicole had said she talked to Brittany about it, and she had, but didn't tell her they were doing it on the same day.
Brittany lost her mind about it. She three-way called Amber and Amber's mom and read them the riot act. It was both glorious, and extremely uncomfortable to listen to. There's a lot of...stuff...between those parts of the families. Brittany told them they had a week to figure out when in October they were getting married other than our wedding day, or she would tell everyone in the family what they were trying to do.
Amber's mom tried to downplay it all, but Brittany wasn't having any of it. Even though she's about 5 minutes older than Nicole, she was acting like she was a much older protective sister. It was a long phone call, but in the end they figured the jig was up. A few days later they announced the date, but since Amber's fiancé lost his job, and their families can't afford a traditional wedding, they're only inviting a small portion of their original guest list, and having a zoom wedding.
Luckily, we don't get back from our honeymoon until the day after their wedding. Shucks!
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**UPDATE on 16th October 2020**
Happy news, everyone. The wedding went off this past weekend, and not only did my wife's cousin not get married on our wedding day, she dressed as a normal guest. She did, however, get drunk and pee in some bushes. No one in her family was surprised to hear about that.
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*Thanks to u/corduroyclementine for helping correct the timeline*
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2022-11-08T17:18:56 | [URGENT] My idiot brother has mopped our entire brand new wooden flooring with weedkiller. Need help figuring out how to fix his mistake before Dad gets back or he will be executed | CONCLUDED | [removed] | robendboua | /r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/ypsk9h/urgent_my_idiot_brother_has_mopped_our_entire/ | ypsk9h | 9 | 325 | [
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2022-11-08T18:05:38 | OOP - I cheated on my wife three years ago. She agreed to forgive me if we opened the marriage but now I live in agony every day | CONCLUDED | I'm not the OOP. This was posted by a now deleted user in r/trueoffmychest.
[Original](https://www.reddit.com/r/TrueOffMyChest/comments/yghell/i_cheated_on_my_wife_three_years_ago_she_agreed/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) (29 Oct 22)
**I cheated on my wife three years ago. She agreed to forgive me if we opened the marriage but now I live in agony every day**
So basically my wife (39) found out that I (41) have been hooking up with a woman I met online who lived 2h away. When the woman visited we checked into a hotel. This went on for 3 months and we had met a handful of times when my wife caught us. she was waiting in the hotel lobby and saw us coming down from the room. She left me the next day.
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We separated for 8 months and they were terrible on all of us especially the children (m9, f7 and f3). We started talking about getting back together. My wife thought that since our sexlife wasn't enough for me, and that she was sure I will cheat on her again, we might as well open the marriage. I told her no because I've learned my mistake but she wouldn't waver. I relented. We decided(she did) not to tell each other the when, where and with whom.
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Now, over two years later, we are back to normal on the outside. On the inside I'm dying a little each day. Every time I see her happy I wonder if this is just her old bubbly self or if she was thinking of someone. She is a very beautiful woman and I'm sure she has no problems finding men who want her. Whenever she takes a shower after coming home, whenever she rejects my advances I think that she has been with someone and that kills me. I have tried to discuss closing the marriage again but she shuts these attempts very quickly with the divorce card. Before all this happened we had amazing sex several times week but now, we have probably done it 4-5 times these past 3 years. She demands I use protection and she refuses to let me eat her or make her cum in any way. I stopped asking because the sex is painfully bad now. I haven't slept with anybody else because the look on my wife's face in that lobby still makes me sick with guilt.
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I don't know how much more I can take. I love my wife and I want to spend the rest of my life with her. Will she ever stop punishing me? Have you ever forgiven a cheating spouse and stopped punishing them? What's going on in her head?
[Update](https://www.reddit.com/r/TrueOffMyChest/comments/yhf9ga/updatei_cheated_on_my_wife_three_years_ago_she/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) (31 Oct 22)
**Update:I cheated on my wife three years ago. She agreed to forgive me if we opened the marriage but now I live in agony every day**
Thank you everybody for the reality check.
The general consensus that I gathered from the comments (I never thought there will be so many, I'm still reading them), is that you believe that my wife doesn't love me any more. It's probably the truth. She is staying with me for the children and I fully understand her. I love my children too and I want to be in their lives all the time, every day. We have worked so hard for the beautiful life we have and we did it all primarily for the sake of our children. I will not ruin that now for selfish reasons.
I have decided to stop hoping/wanting/demanding love and forgiveness from her, instead I will accept that I will always live with this guilt. that's only fair. I will enjoy the other aspects of our marriage. Like raising our beautiful children with an amazing person like her and watch them grow up to be the good human beings they are. I will always love my wife and I will always regret what I have done but I need to move on too, I'm going to seek help for my mental health and probably start seeing other people too when or if I'm ready.
**Reminder - I'm not the OOP** | prettiergenghis | /r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/yptsuf/oop_i_cheated_on_my_wife_three_years_ago_she/ | yptsuf | 3,980 | 8,286 | [
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2022-11-08T18:07:41 | AITA for treating my adopted children the same as my biological child? | CONCLUDED | **I am NOT OP. Original post by u/[deleted] in r/amitheasshole**
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[**AITA for treating my adopted children the same as my biological child**](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/yf1x0y/aita_for_treating_my_adopted_children_the_same_as/) - 27 October 2022
Me (44M) and my wife Ami (43) have a biological son Ethan (16) and an adopted son Aiden and daughter Gracie (16, 12). We adopted Aiden and Gracie 10 years ago.
We have been talking about colleges for a while with the boys and they both want to stay together wherever they go.
We have college funds for all three children with the same amount in so they will be able to afford to go if they decide to.
My mother died and left me a lot of money and I used it to fund their accounts as I thought this was more important than paying off our mortgage that we are comfortably paying each month.
The more the boys talk about college the more Ami gets upset with how much money it’s going to cost.
This all ended up in a huge argument between us with her calling me a AH. She apparently is happy to fund Ethan’s college but only part for Aiden and Gracie.
I told her this isn’t fair as they are all our kids not just Ethan. He doesn’t mean more just because he has our DNA.
I told her it was my inheritance and I can do what I want with it and I wanted to make sure the kids had a good start to life. She said that she deserves stuff too and me spending all the money on the kids means she doesn’t get what she wants.
She left a few days ago and I haven’t heard anything from her. I thought kids didn’t hear the fight but today Aiden came down and said sorry for causing a fight between us and that he is grateful that I stood up for him and Gracie.
My heart went out for him and I said that I will always stand up for him and that I loved him and Gracie. He said I know but I’m not sure about mom.
So am I the AH? Should I compromise a bit to keep Ami happy?
Verdict: NTA
**UPDATE**
I am putting this on here but please still keep sending your opinions as you may say something I haven’t yet thought of.
I will try and answer as many questions as I can
The adoption was her idea as it was her cousin and his wife that were losing custody of the kids. Sadly they are no longer with us and haven’t contributed to their upbringing at all.
I work full time and pay all the mortgage and bills. She works part time just for something to do. She keeps her money. This was agreed and is not an issue. I have explained in another comment this situation.
The house is in my name as I inherited it from my grandfather. I took out a mortgage to remodel when we adopted the kids.
All three kids are in therapy. Ethan doesn’t necessarily need it but he felt he was missing out on something so he goes too. They have group and separate therapy which was recommended to us.
Ami left a few days ago. She is safe with her sister but has not contacted us in any way. I hoped she would at least contact the kids but no.
I don’t think I can be with her anymore as I can’t see how she can repair the relationship with the kids. I think her coming back now will be detrimental to their well-being and it’s something I can’t risk.
In no way will I abandon Ami though. I love her with all my heart and if there is something going on that I don’t know about then she needs help and her family abandoning her is going to cause more harm than good. I am willing to support her but not be a couple at the moment.
If it’s just that she is greedy and selfish then she can forget about having any kind of relationship with me. I guess I will find out in the next few months.
Also I don’t think of Ethan as my biological son and Aiden and Gracie as my adopted children. They are all my kids. Biological and adopted aren’t words I use day to day when describing my children. My post was worded this way to make it easier for people to understand. I thought this would have been obvious but according to the messages I have been getting apparently not!
Thank you for all your comments. I knew I was in the right but sometimes you just need a stranger to say it and point out some things that you have missed
**UPDATE**
Ami asked me to meet her without the kids so I did. She said she was sorry about trying to get the money spent on her. I explained that we could do all the stuff she wanted to do within reason just not out of their funds. She admitted she was wrong and that I’m not a AH.
However she doesn’t want any help from me (she is aware that she has issues but wouldn’t tell me what) I said that I would do anything she needs but she wasn’t interested.
She did say that she hates that Ethan is so close to Aiden and it was ruining her child. Obviously I will never tell either of the boys that and it did prove to me that Aiden and Gracie may be her problem.
She is moving to Canada to live with her mom. I don’t care what she gets up to there.
She didn’t want to have any more contact with the children. Didn’t even want to say goodbye so I let her go.
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**Reminder - I am not the original poster.** | toohottooheavy | /r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/ypturu/aita_for_treating_my_adopted_children_the_same_as/ | ypturu | 5,105 | 7,493 | [
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2022-11-08T19:05:23 | Religious pro-life woman is against her daughter getting an abortion. She destroys her marriage and relationship with her daughter while doing so. | INCONCLUSIVE | [Original](https://www.reddit.com/r/prolife/comments/s01jkx/please_pray_for_my_family_and_unborn_grandchild) Jan 9, 2022
Mods, please approve my post despite being a new account as my husband knows my main account.
My 20 year old daughter “Lily” is in her sophomore year of college at an Ivy league school out of state where she got scholarships/financial aid and got pregnant by her boyfriend “Matt” who she then discovered is cheating on her. She dumped him for cheating and now said she plans to abort the baby she is 10 weeks pregnant with and I am devastated because my husband and older daughter ”Kara” (22) plan to help her do this despite my objections that it is wrong of Lily to abort her baby out of inconvenience.
I thought we were a Catholic family that like all Mexican families puts family above everything, but my husband in particular is doing the thing where he is justifying and rationalising the abortion because it is Lily and “I don’t want her life ruined”.
Lily said she “deserves a better baby daddy and better situation” if she has kids in the future and got angry when I told her that the time for her to decide if she was willing to have him as the father of her child was before she had sex with him, but she got very mad when I saw that and told me it is not her fault she was lied to and cheated on. I don’t disagree with that, but disliking that Matt cheated is not justifiable reason to murder a child.
My husband said having the baby will ruin Lily’s life. I said this doesn’t have to.
I told Lily what we can do is have her transfer here to a nearby state college and I will drop down to part time work to help while she continues school and we will raise the baby together. She told me “no fucking way” because “I’m not going to Arizona State where fucking anyone can get in instead of [Ivy League] because there is a big difference in prestige and I don’t to give up where I am going”. I told her that actions have consequences and Kara went off at me saying I sound like a “crazy forced birther”. Lily said she doesn’t WANT to raise the child, and then I told her that she needs to take responsibility for having sex, she rolled her eyes at me, told me to “join us in 2022 where people don’t have to be moms until they want to and I DON’T WANT TO RIGHT NOW, I’M ONLY 20”. Lily wants to go to an Ivy League law school and then move to New York City and “a baby would totally fuck that up”. I offered to totally adopt the baby and raise it for her, just please don’t murder it and Lily said “I don’t want to be pregnant with this fucking baby and am getting rid of it, you need to accept that” and hasn’t talked to me in 3 days.
This is driving a huge wedge between both my husband and I, Kara and I, and Lily and I, and I am at a loss what to do. Please pray for my family. I also don’t know if I can stay in my marriage if my husband follows through with his promise to drive Lily back to her college, take her to get the abortion, and help her out for a few days while she recovers.
[Update 1](https://www.reddit.com/r/prolife/comments/s2kol2/they_murdered_my_grandbaby/) Jan 12, 2022
Following on from my previous post - my husband and my oldest daughter "Kara" drove my pregnant 20 year daughter "Lily" back to college while I was at work yesterday, and they just informed me Lily had a surgical abortion today and it went "safely" and she is now recovering. My precious first grandbaby was murdered
My youngest two daughters (I have 4, and a son aged 12) found me sobbing. "Andi" who is 16 said "it was the best thing for Lily", whole "Emma" who is 14 said "I don't think I could have an abortion personally, but it was Lily's body and her choice mom, you need to get over it". I haven't spoken to my son about it. I am so devastated that I basically have 4 daughters convinced by the world that it is OK to have consensual sex and then murder the children they create just so they can stay at a certain college or because they don't want to "get fat and covered in stretch marks and never" as Lily so horribly put it. i'm horrified how selfish my daughter has become, choosing baby murder over the temporary inconvenience of pregnancy, choosing an Ivy league school and killing her baby over finishing college in Arizona and giving life to the child she made through consensual sex. I'm heartbroken.
And my husband aided and abetted her. I never wanted to be a divorcee, but I don't think I can stay in the relationship and Andi and Emma have told me they want to live with Dad if I do because I am being so "backward and controlling".
Please keep praying. I feel so lost. I feel like Jesus and the Virgin have forsaken me.
*i couldn't recover update 2*
[Update 3](https://www.reddit.com/r/prolife/comments/w1m5v9/my_daughter_has_become_a_radical_proabort_after/) July 7, 2022
My second oldest daughter abandoned her faith and family values by aborting an unplanned pregnancy because she wanted to stay at her ivy league instead if coming back home to allow me to help her raise her sweet baby. She didn't want to be tied to her cheating ex boyfriend even though the decision they made to have sex was consensual. My husband aided and abetted her to get the abortion. Our relationship has been strained ever since and he has started talking divorce because I'm an "unsupportive mother" for not wanting my grandchild murdered for my daughter's preference for New England to Arizona!
My two oldest daughters have become huge pro-abort activist since the fall of Roe. The daughter who aborted went to the huge protest in New York City with a sign that said "My abortion was the best choice I've ever made". She posted it on Instagram. She wrote in the comments that she was 20 and still in college and newly single and her life would have been over if she was "forced" to have a baby (no mention of the fact she willingly took the risk of making that person!). I replied to it listing all the help I offered her because she was painting herself like her life would be over and she'd be living in a box with no money to feed her baby if she had it. She deleted my comment and told me to "watch it or I will block you from my social media". I have been told both her and my oldest daughter have been making disgusting pro-Roe TikToks. I barred my youngest daughters from looking at their social media but my husband overruled me. I am trying to raise my children in the faith, like we pledged to on our wedding day, and he doesn't care. All 4 of my daughters are pro choice. I don't understand where I went so very wrong raising them. I did everything I could to teach them the value of life, faith and family.
I asked my daughter who aborted how she will explain this content to her children in the future and she rolled her eyes and said she never want children because she'd rather travel, have a career and have money and children are "annoying" and she doesn't want to end up like me, which broke my heart because I've dedicated my life to being a good Catholic and a good mother and doing the right things and my children are all abandoning our family values.
[Update 4](https://www.reddit.com/r/prolife/comments/wfcgp5/i_should_be_welcoming_my_first_grandchild_but_he/) Aug 3, 2022
My 21 year old daughter should be cradling a bump right now as she prepares for the greatest thing a woman can do - motherhood. She should be putting the final touches on a nursery, getting excited to meet her greatest blessing. Maybe the baby would have come a little early, and she'd be on the couch right now, nursing her sweet precious son or daughter and looking at them with love in her eyes.
But my grandchild was murdered.
My husband and her older sister took her for an abortion. I offered that she could move back home and we'd raise the child together, but she refused because she wanted to stay at her Ivy League college and didn't want to be a mom. I offered to adopt and raise my precious grandchild, she refused because she is so selfish she didn't want to be pregnant and "ruin her body". It breaks my heart how selfish she is, it is hard to look at her and her sister who have become radical pro abort activists. Their sisters are following in their footsteps and I hate the way the world has turned against family and faith. There is nothing good about society's new direction.
I wonder so often if I'd have had a sweet granddaughter who'd have her own quince one day or whether I'd have had a lovely little boy who liked football. I'd have made sure they knew the Lord, and I'd have done anything for them, the way you do for family until my daughter forgot that faith and family are what life is all about. Please pray my daughters see the errors of their ways, please pray my son (13) doesn't end up like his sisters and grows up to be a man of faith who raises a godly family one day, please pray for the soul of my grandchild, please pray to end abortion and the murdering of our precious children.
[Update 5](https://www.reddit.com/r/Catholic/comments/wgxo9m/please_pray_for_me_my_husband_wants_a_divorce_as/) Aug 5, 2022
My family has been ripped apart as they have abandoned our faith and values. My daughter, who I will call "Lily" became pregnant while studying at her University in the North East. She learned this while at home for the holidays, having broke up with her boyfriend because he cheated on her. She decided to abort for selfish reasons - wanting to remain at her Ivy league school, not wanting superficial changes to her body, wanting to punish her ex and not thinking he was good enough to father her child when that is a decision to make before having sex, not wanting to transfer to the local Arizona State University because she prefers Yale, not wanting to give up moving to New York after graduation, and frivolous things like travel. I'm devastated at my husband for supporting Lily’s selfishness. One our wedding day we pledged to be people of faith and family and he has broken that. my daughters are all pro aborts, the oldest two activists. My heart breaking. I've prayed for the Lord to call them back to their faith and it is not happening. My daughter acts like a child would have ruined her life. and not been her greatest blessing. The baby would have been due around now. I cry thinking about how she should be cradling a bump, finishing up a nursery, maybe even already nursing her sweet son od daughter if they came a little early. Instead she thinks the most beautiful calling for a woman is ruining your life. And I am so heartbroken my grandchild was murdered in the bomb. I will love and miss them forever.
Now my husband wants to divorce. I reminded him we are Catholic and do not do that but he wishes to proceed. I'm so lost. Please pray for me. | riverstyxoath | /r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/ypvdpe/religious_prolife_woman_is_against_her_daughter/ | ypvdpe | 10,772 | 23,878 | [
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2022-11-08T19:25:25 | OOP: I(F22) am jealous of the relationship between my boyfriend(M21) and the girl(F22) who has a crush on him | CONCLUDED | **I am NOT OP. Original post by u/Amazing_PandaBear49 in r/relationship_advice**
trigger warnings: >!cheating!<
mood spoilers: >!sad!<
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[I(F22) am jealous of the relationship between my boyfriend(M21) and the girl(F22) who has a crush on him](https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/ye0i5e/if22_am_jealous_of_the_relationship_between_my/) - (26 Oct 2022)
I have never really put this into words but here it goes. A few weeks after my boyfriend and I started dating I overheard a group of girls talking and one of them mentioned that my boyfriend was cute and she had a crush on him. I didn't pay too much attention to it because it's honestly not a big deal and I can't control how people feel. A few months after that I heard my boyfriend talking about how he likes the way she carries herself and he started talking to and hanging out with her more. This didn't really bother me either what bothers me is that he lies about it. I could hear them laughing in his room together or hear her go to his room (we stay in mixed student accommodation and they are both kind of my neighbors when they open and close their doors I can hear it in my room) and he would lie when I ask him who he was with or where he has been. He doesn't laugh like that with me and the way they talk to each other just makes me feel weird. I don't want to mention it to him because I don't want to push him into her arms and I can't tell my friends because I know what they would say and it would make me feel worse so I'm writing it here.
What can I do to make these feelings go away?
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[Update: I(F22) am jealous of the relationship between my boyfriend(M21) and the girl(F22) who has a crush on him](https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/ygo5yd/update_if22_am_jealous_of_the_relationship/) - (29 Oct 2022)
Thank you all for the comments. Here is a little update on what has happened since I last posted. While we were hanging out last night, he got a call that seemed a little suspicious. It wasn't the first time he acted like this when getting a call but it was the first time I actually took note of it. He left the room to answer it and when he came back he pretended like someone had called the wrong number (he was on the phone for 5 minutes or so). I was feeling uneasy about it so I decided to look at his call log and there I found multiple calls to and from someone whose contact name was "LOML followed by the heart emoji, the world emoji, and another emoji I can't remember" that was the call he stepped out to answer. I looked at the contact and it was a picture of the girl on all of his devices. He told me that they were cousins and because they were both only children they were really close and that's why she is his wallpaper. I believed him because I have a sister and I'm really close with her so it kind of made sense. I don't know what to feel. I looked through their messages and it looks like they have been together since last year. This post started out with me being jealous but I was honestly not expecting to find this and I am so heartbroken. I don't even know if I should be heartbroken, I'm not the one being cheated on. It seems the girl who had a crush on him is the least of my worries. Thank you all for the advice ❤
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**Reminder - I am not the original poster.** | PedanticPlatypodes | /r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/ypvwjl/oop_if22_am_jealous_of_the_relationship_between/ | ypvwjl | 3,363 | 3,684 | [
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2022-11-08T19:27:42 | AITA for disabling my bf's access to my peleton account when he wasn't talking to me? | REPOST | **I am NOT OP. Original post by u/snowfallicy in r/amitheasshole**
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[**AITA for disabling my bf's access to my peleton account when he wasn't talking to me?**](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/qjusug/aita_for_disabling_my_bfs_access_to_my_peleton/) - 31 October 2021
So my boyfriend has had a rough 2020 because he loves to travel and he got laid off from his job at a very big commercial airline that allowed him to travel the world for free. Learning his uncle was diagnosed with cancer in December just added insult to the injury. He went into a pretty deep depression and gained a considerable amount of weight and I've tried to be supportive by letting him use all of my memberships for free so he can save money while he looks for a job, have been cooking healthy meals, and I gave him access to my Peleton account so he could do his own work-outs from home while I am at work.
We got into a really big argument last week because I fell asleep during a movie. This is his pet peeve, and there have been times in the past where he has stormed out of my place because I have fallen asleep during movies or shows he's suggested. When we were in therapy at one point, he said when I fall asleep it makes him feel like I'm disengaged, and I totally respected that and promised I would inform him when I was either too tired to watch something, or was getting sleepy while we were watching something.
Last weekend, he suggested we watch a documentary and 15 minutes into the documentary, he asked me if I was falling asleep and I said I was getting sleepy, but I wasn't sleeping. Two minutes later, he insisted that I was sleeping. He said he could hear me breathing loudly, and when I denied it, he accused me of lying about falling asleep. He said the problem wasn't that I was sleeping, it was that I was lying about it. I told him I was tired and did not want to deal with this tantrums and we called it night.
When I texted him the following morning, I didn't hear back so I started to get worried. I saw that he had accessed my Peleton account less than an hour before and figured maybe he is still upset and he's just needs space. But he didn't call or text me back that day for five days and continued to use my account each of those five days. When I still haven't heard a word from him after 5 days, I disabled his access to my account.
He accused me of being emotionally abusive when I did that. According to him, I should have known he is not in a good place right now and might need space. He claimed to be doing some 14-day mind/body/meditation challenge that I interfered with. I felt bad, but I told him he could have communicated that to me, but since he chose to ghost me instead, I had no way of knowing. AITA?
Verdict: NTA
**Update:**
He came over tonight to talk and I broke things off. The first words out of his mouth were, "What do you have to say for yourself?" We didn't end up talking for long. I asked for my key back and I hugged him politely at the end (this was nothing like our first break up where I was bawling my eyes out).
He sent his roommate over to my place immediately after we talked to return most of my belongings (which I didn't ask for), but among them: a sentimental portrait of us, a blender, a scrunchy, and *one* beat up Nike sandal. He told his roommate to relay the message that once he found the other sandal, he would send that too. I told his roommate not to even bother, he can throw it away.
Thank you savage internet strangers for the harsh wake up call today. FTS. I'm done.
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**Reminder - I am not the original poster.** | toohottooheavy | /r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/ypvym9/aita_for_disabling_my_bfs_access_to_my_peleton/ | ypvym9 | 3,634 | 8,453 | [
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2022-11-08T20:31:29 | DNA is throwing us all through a loop - HELP NEEDED | INCONCLUSIVE | This is a repost. original post by u/sexi_squidward in r/Genealogy
[DNA is throwing us all through a loop - HELP NEEDED](https://www.reddit.com/r/Genealogy/comments/xvmpdk/dna_is_throwing_us_all_through_a_loop_help_needed/)
So a LONG time ago, I did 23&Me and was surprised when a person showed up as my 1st cousin, once removed that no one in my family knows who he (John Jr) is.
We've talked back and forth and for awhile we believed it was a connection on his mom's side and possibly my mom's dad's side. HOWEVER, a recent turn in events points that it's likely the opposite.
I had taken a break from ancestry so I missed when the 1950 census came out and recently logged into my account and decided to have a look. So, my mom's mom (my grandmother), was married to her first husband and living with him...and 3 doors down John's (dad and grandfather) family lived!
So this opened up a whole new can of worms. John isn't really into ancestry and assumed that perhaps my grandmother had an affair with his uncle but that doesn't track or show how we'd be related.
So, I pieced together this map using DNA Painter - and that's leading to a new problem. For this to add up, his father's birth parents would have to be...both my great-grandparents? Am I reading that right?
(red is my family, blue is his)
Notes:
John Sr was born in 1935.
John Jr was born around 1960.
Felice was born in 1930.
Susan was born 1955.
---
**UPDATE**
[I accidently discovered that my mom was the result of an affair.](https://www.reddit.com/r/Genealogy/comments/yjlogw/i_accidently_discovered_that_my_mom_was_the/)
UPDATE FROM THIS POST, though now with more story: https://www.reddit.com/r/Genealogy/comments/xvmpdk/dna_is_throwing_us_all_through_a_loop_help_needed/
This has been an ongoing ordeal though we now have confirmation so I'm posting this:
About 4-5 years ago I took a 23&Me test to see where my ancestors hailed from. Spoiler alert: I'm 100% White, and mostly British/Irish. Very exciting stuff.
On 23&Me, you can see all the people who also took tests that connect to you and a random man popped up as my First Cousin, Once removed. I chatted back and forth with the guy (JOHN) and we couldn't place how we fit into each other's families. I had theories but nothing substantial, plus I was still new to ancestry research. Nowadays, I hobby in looking up family history.
So flashforward to this year. In April 2022, they released the 1950 Census. I had taken a break from ancestry stuff so I hadn't looked at it for a few months. My mom texted me a random ancestry question so I popped onto the site to give her the answer when I remembered the census - so I looked at the census.
Small backstory
My grandmother was married three times. Her first marriage ended after a couple of years and produced no children. Her 2nd marriage was to my "grandfather" and they had 6 children. He was abusive and not a great dude. Her third marriage was a short marriage that produced 2 children. ALL of her children idolize her. She was an amazing mother and worked multiple jobs to provide for her 8 children.
1950 Census
I knew my grandmother was with her first husband at the time so I was curious to see what it had to say. To my immediate surprise, John's family was living not 2 doors down from her! This was the first piece of information I had that connected our families!
By this time, I had a better understanding of ancestry and DNA, that I started making some pretty big revelations that I had missed: I don't connect to ANY of my grandfather's extended family.
I think I just accepted my family tree as is because we had no reason to believe such a thing... especially since my mom is one of 8 kids and is the SECOND child in her family.
So as soon as I figured this out, I freaked out and called my mom and told her that she NEEDS to take the test as well, with her oldest sister (who I'm 99% certain is the daughter of my supposed grandfather due to looks). My mom is in straight denial but with my sister's help we get her and her sister a test.
23&Me
I had been checking my 23&Me daily, waiting for my mom's results to show up because I knew she'd miss the email. So, Saturday morning we get the results and SURPRISE - my mom and aunt are HALF sisters.
So I let John know and now he has his cousins taking the test. We're 100% sure we're right...especially when I started looking up my mom's new siblings and the one guy is literally a male version of her in HS. It's uncanny haha.
My mom is still reeling a bit. I know she loved her (step)dad as a father but he was a terrible dude and she's aware of it. Which makes this a bit more interesting as he was possibly in jail when she was conceived or let out and then she had the affair. I've been struggling to find the date he was released. He was sentenced for a year starting in November 1954 (Mom would have been conceived about mid April 1955, born at the end of December) but I know he was let out early, when ???? it's a mystery.
My mom's siblings are pretty upset with the "accusations" of their mother having an affair and/or being "loose." In al honesty, I'm actually happy to not be related the man we thought was our grandfather. Dude was married, with a baby daughter at home, and he "assisted" his BROTHER in sexually assaulting a 17 year old! There's a lot to unpack here - so I'm happy if my grandmother had a moment of clarity and had an affair with another guy because WHY WOULD YOU GO BACK TO SOMEONE WHO WAS GUILTY OF THIS?!
So here we are now. :| | FlipDaly | /r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/ypxm7s/dna_is_throwing_us_all_through_a_loop_help_needed/ | ypxm7s | 5,579 | 5,321 | [
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2022-11-08T22:27:21 | Daughter recorded having sexual without her knowledge. NV. | CONCLUDED | **i am NOT OP. original post by [Ok_Broccoli_9710](https://www.reddit.com/user/Ok_Broccoli_9710/) on r/legaladvice**
TW: >!mention of child porn!<
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[original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/yiwknp/daughter_recoded_having_sex_without_her_knowledge/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf) posted on Oct 31 2022
My daughter is 16, and she had sex with a boy who is 17. He recorded it on a phone without her knowledge and then send the recording around to multiple other kids.
The interaction was consensual according to her (and apparently the video, which I cannot bring myself to watch but my wife has seen it). But I want to know if we can go after him for recoding her and passing it around even if they are both minors. The school got involved and that's how we even found our about it.
[update](https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/yji643/update_daughter_recorded_having_sex_nv/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf) posted on Nov 1 2022
It's been an awful day with a lot of back and forth but it boils down to this: my daughter DID know she was being recorded and she is proven to have participated in passing around the video. She also has videos of three other encounters with other boys on her phone. Everyone is minors. Now the boys parents are saying if we all drop it everyone drops it. Or if they get in trouble so does my daughter, and based on the advice in my original post it sounds like she's just as much at fault. I'm devastated that she has behaved like this and lied to us. She probably needs counseling or to go to a different school, from what we can tell a lot of kids have seen the videos. | bitchjeans | /r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/yq0lyp/daughter_recorded_having_sexual_without_her/ | yq0lyp | 1,738 | 4,505 | [
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2022-11-09T01:11:49 | AITA for telling my landlord about my roommates boyfriend? | ONGOING | [removed] | [deleted] | /r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/yq4f8w/aita_for_telling_my_landlord_about_my_roommates/ | yq4f8w | 9 | 1 | [
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2022-11-09T03:48:55 | My coworker is blackmailing me not to take time off for my honeymoon [AskAManager] | EXTERNAL | [**Original post (and Allison's response)**](https://www.askamanager.org/2020/03/my-coworker-is-blackmailing-me-not-to-take-time-off-for-my-honeymoon.html) \[March 2, 2020\]
I work in an office where I’m the only person who can do 75% of my job, but there’s a second person who can do essential functions. We have a policy that only one of the two of us is allowed to request advance time off at a given time (so one of us is always in, barring emergencies).
I’m getting married in October, and in relation to that requested — and was approved for — two days before the wedding and the two weeks following. I don’t take much time off and have more than enough “in the bank” to cover that with some left over. It was approved immediately by my supervisor.
Since then, my close coworker (Jane, who covers some of my essential duties) first started asking if I really “need” that much time off. She then dropped a bit of a bombshell on me and said that she “really needs to go to Florida the following weekend (after my wedding) for a cousin’s wedding” so asked if I could be in for the second half of that week as well as the following Monday. I told her that my plans weren’t certain yet, but that I didn’t want to commit to that and leave those requested days open.
That was met with a tirade about how she “always looks out for me” and that I need to “do this one thing for her.”
We normally have a cordial, if not especially friendly, relationship but she has turned nasty and threatened to blackmail me over a a sick day where she claims I “wasn’t really sick.” She had seen me at the grocery, where I was mostly picking up a prescription but also doing general grocery shopping, but don’t have a doctor’s note if push comes to shove. When she brought it up, she said, “That day I saw you at the grocery store, I know you weren’t really sick but were just goofing off for the day. I’ll report you for that.” I responded with, “I was there to pick up a prescription, even though I bought some other things because I didn’t have anything at home that sounded good.” She responded, “If you don’t let me have this, I’m still going to report it.”
(For context, this happened during the work day, probably around 1:00 in the afternoon. Sometimes one of us will go to the store to buy work supplies during the day. When I saw her there, I had just come from the doctor’s office, which is literally right across the street, and was shopping for other things while waiting on a prescription to be filled at the store pharmacy.)
This has gone on for a week and she’s not dropping it that I need to be in those specific days, and I’m not relenting.
There’s a possibility that — for a variety of reasons — I won’t even be working there in October, but at the same time I don’t know how to handle this. I mentioned it in passing to my supervisor, who wasn’t overly interested and he indicated that I was “okay” since I’d requested the time 9+ months in advance. Still, though, I feel that the battle isn’t over yet, and it’s negatively affecting my ability to actually do my day to day job as Jane is refusing to do the small part of her job that I don’t have the proper training/credentials/ability to do.
In addition, there are the logistics that if our supervisor agrees to let us both off, I’m no doubt going have two dozen calls/texts a day on my honeymoon from people who are persistent enough to call me 10 times in a row if I don’t answer. Needless to say, that’s NOT a situation that I want to deal with, but it happens any other day when both of us are off (heck, it happens when I’m off just because of the sheer volume of stuff that she doesn’t care to learn to be able to answer).
[**Update**](https://www.askamanager.org/2020/03/update-my-coworker-is-blackmailing-me-not-to-take-time-off-for-my-honeymoon.html) (compiled from the comments of the original post by Allison) \[March 4, 2020\]
[March 2, 2020 at 11:42 am](https://www.askamanager.org/2020/03/my-coworker-is-blackmailing-me-not-to-take-time-off-for-my-honeymoon.html#comment-2879825)
Thanks everyone — OP here and I appreciate the unanimous that “Jane” is off her rocker on this. I have worked with her for close to 5 years, and this kind of stuff has always sort of been present but it seems to have gotten worse in the past year. This episode is by far and away the worst.
I have an appointment with my supervisor right after lunch to lay all of this out for him. Just to be ahead of things, I went ahead and called the doctor’s office and they’ve emailed me a note for the day in question, so I’m bringing that along when I meet.
Also, I like the suggestion of pre-paid phone and only giving the number out to family to use for the time I’m off. Blocking numbers would be like a game of whack-a-mole due to the number of people who my number has been given out to who may have contacted me once 3 years ago or never contacted me at all (most contact me directly from their personal cells).
I should also say that I’ve always had a bit of a strange relationship with “Jane.” She has a son who is my age and has told me often that she thinks of me as her “work son.” She is also not originally from the US, and is from a culture where mothers are often a lot more “hands on” in their children’s lives than we are use to in the US. There have been behaviors in the past that I have addressed with her directly, and those HAVE stopped, but this is so over-the-top compared to anything in the past and almost seems like a build up of a few years of not “mothering” me.
I will update after my meeting with my supervisor.
[March 2, 2020 at 12:11 pm](https://www.askamanager.org/2020/03/my-coworker-is-blackmailing-me-not-to-take-time-off-for-my-honeymoon.html#comment-2879939)
I think my boss has been frustrated with “Jane” over a number of other issues, and in fact he keeps taking responsibilities away from her because she can’t do them correctly and ends up causing more work for other people in the department when she does.
[March 2, 2020 at 2:01 pm](https://www.askamanager.org/2020/03/my-coworker-is-blackmailing-me-not-to-take-time-off-for-my-honeymoon.html#comment-2880221)
Alright, so OP again here, and the meeting with the boss is over and done with. First of all, right before lunch, my boss asked me if I could give the main point I wanted to discuss. I just succinctly put it as “Jane is refusing to place orders for me” (that, BTW, is the main thing I can’t do — order stuff that I need to do my job, and basically the only thing she does now). He then asked if it was alright if the department chair (i.e. his boss) sat in on the meeting. I said sure. I went in with a copy of my excuse. When things got started, I said “before I get into the immediate problem, I want you all to know that Jane is claiming I abused a sick day because she happened to see me at Kroger on a day I was off. Here’s my doctor’s note.”
Both of them even refused to look at the note. My boss said “you said you were sick. You’ve been here close to 5 years and have never given us a reason to doubt that you were being untruthful for it. As a matter of principle, I’m going to note that you offered documentation, but I’m not going to look at it because I trust you.” The chair weighed in and said “Yeah, I remember seeing you the day after that and asking you if you should even be in because you looked so bad.” They both said to put that concern behind me, and that they would address it with Jane that it was none of her business.
I was then asked about the ordering issue. I said that I had sent 4 orders the past week, and that she had refused to place them unless I agreed to come in on (specific dates approved off), and that I was getting cramped on getting the stuff I needed to get my job done.
As we sat in the meeting, I forwarded the order requests to both my supervisor and the chair so that they could see, although obviously the refusal was verbal, so I couldn’t document that.
My supervisor assured me that Jane’s request was absolutely ludicrous, and that he would personally be upset with me if I even thought about work while my new wife and I were on our honeymoon. He said turn my phone off or do whatever I needed to do and also that when the time came he would make sure it was circulated to everyone to not contact me.
I was told that as an immediate solution, to send the orders to “Susan,” who also can place orders so that I can get my work done (he sent Susan an email to expedite anything coming from me, and that he’d address why later), and my supervisor would address why Jane isn’t doing it directly with Jane this afternoon.
The chair then jumped in and said “I want to ask a broader question — what all do you do that ‘Cliff’ (deceased person who immediately preceded Jane) did, and what of his work does Jane do?” I listed quite a few things I do, and he said “And in addition to that, you also do everything that ‘Norm’ (retired person who I replaced directly) did, correct?” I listed two specific tasks which Norm did that I do not do.
The chair said, “I’ve thought for a while that we honestly have you stretched too thin, and I know we’ve had this conversation in bits and pieces, but I think we need to have a serious discussion about positions downstairs. Jane has passed off enough responsibility to others that I think it needs to be decided if she needs more duties shuffled back to her, or if her position is even needed anymore.”
We discussed the fact that there’s a lack of cross-training for my duties, and my position is unique enough that it would be difficult to cross train any one person to do it. “Bob” across the hall from me can take care of a lot of things with basic instructions from me, but he needs my specific input about how to go ahead. For reference, a significant (over 50%) portion of my job is maintaining scientific instruments, something which requires that I have an advanced degree in Chemistry to even understand what’s going on and a lot of hands-on experience to recognize and know how to fix problems. Many of the things I take care of are more expensive than an average house in the area (and all are solidly at least at nice new car price), and generally are reliable but can be cantankerous. Jane has neither the background nor the inclination to acquire the hands-on experience, while Bob has the motivation but not the background. I not only maintain but consult/train on when and how to use the appropriate tool for what you’re trying to do.
In any case, to cut to the chase on that, we have a bit of a patchwork plan to cover when I’m gone, and the idea was also floated of hiring Norm (my retired predecessor) for a few days a week on a temporary basis in October. I’m supposed to have lunch with Norm next week (I’m the only person from work who is in regular contact with him) so have been asked if I would see if he was open to the idea — not as a formal offer but just to “test the waters” so to speak.
So, to sum it up — I’m completely in the clear on the feeble blackmail attempt, my bride-to-be and I can go on our honeymoon without any worries whatsoever, and Jane may have shrugged off one too many duties to make the existence of her position necessary.
Not that this is the end of the world either, but I’ve talked to my fiancé and she and I are in agreement that Jane is now off the guest list.
Also, as an unrelated note to this, I got a call while typing all of this up asking if I could come in for an interview at a job I applied for last week! So, I may be out before this is even an issue.
[March 2, 2020 at 7:53 pm](https://www.askamanager.org/2020/03/my-coworker-is-blackmailing-me-not-to-take-time-off-for-my-honeymoon.html#comment-2880667)
As a bit of an interesting not-really-an-update-but an update thing — I should also mention that my office is right next to Jane’s, and directly below the manager and chair’s office. My manager came down about 3:30 today to look for her — presumably to talk to her about all of this — and she was already gone for the day (this is a habit of her, but it’s not usually a half hour before her quitting time). He asked me where she was, and I said that I had no idea. “Bob” across the hall replied that she had told him bye \~5 minutes prior. My supervisor called her, and she claimed that she was at the grocery store and named something she was buying. I was asked if we needed that particular item, and I said “No, I bought it 2 weeks ago — we won’t need it again until June.” So, it seems as though she’s been caught in her own lie, especially if she comes in tomorrow and can’t produce a receipt that she was actually there.
[March 3, 2020 at 1:27 pm](https://www.askamanager.org/2020/03/my-coworker-is-blackmailing-me-not-to-take-time-off-for-my-honeymoon.html#comment-2881774)
Alright, everyone, I’m anticipating a big update this afternoon. Jane is currently barricaded in her office apparently not taking phone calls (other people have called me directly when they couldn’t reach her…as opposed to the usual sequence of people calling her and then the call getting passed off to me to actually answer it), and my manager has called a meeting of all the support staff EXCEPT for Jane this afternoon.
[March 3, 2020 at 5:32 pm](https://www.askamanager.org/2020/03/my-coworker-is-blackmailing-me-not-to-take-time-off-for-my-honeymoon.html#comment-2882216)
Alright, so here’s the update: The manager, department chair, and unit business manager sat down to meet with all of the support staff save for Jane. The meeting was opened by saying that as we all knew, they had discussed with all of us our actual day-to-day responsibilities — not our job descriptions but what we were doing. It was then announced that as of 3/20 (end of next pay period), the position which Jane is currently occupying has been marked for RIF (reduction in force), or put another way the position is being eliminated. The rest of the meeting was relatively short, as it was a discussion of what Jane’s description currently assigns to her, and who will do those duties. The net result of that is that I’m actually ending up with LESS work to do (not by a dramatic amount, but a few things off) as some of Jane’s duties that I’m currently doing are being assigned to others. We were informed that starting next Monday, Jane will no longer be coming in as she will be using accrued vacation time in lieu of working until the RIF is official. We were directed to “help her where necessary” to finish out any remaining business this week.
So, that’s that. It looks like Jane will indeed get to attend her cousin’s wedding in Florida.
[March 3, 2020 at 7:35 pm](https://www.askamanager.org/2020/03/my-coworker-is-blackmailing-me-not-to-take-time-off-for-my-honeymoon.html#comment-2882295)
I’m honestly amazed at how quickly things happened too. I suspect that this was a discussion that perhaps had been happening for a while now, and perhaps this was the “straw that broke the camel’s back” so to speak. | catbert359 | /r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/yq7q7t/my_coworker_is_blackmailing_me_not_to_take_time/ | yq7q7t | 15,203 | 11,243 | [
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